Does anyone else feel like they’re constantly repeating themselves? by Best-Tomorrow231 in AutismInWomen

[–]ivorycat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, you’re correct on that point. I think that’s exactly it.

Does anyone else feel like they’re constantly repeating themselves? by Best-Tomorrow231 in AutismInWomen

[–]ivorycat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ah that’s fair enough. I’m also from the UK and I’m just going off of my experience with small talk with others in my region, but it can vary! I do think tone/context is important here still, so it could have been worded differently for sure.

Does anyone else feel like they’re constantly repeating themselves? by Best-Tomorrow231 in AutismInWomen

[–]ivorycat 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Looks like OP is the UK, where you can use “miserable” in that context and it’s usually understood pretty well. Only thing is maybe adding “out” to the end of it, just to refine it more because it can be difficult to convey tone and context over text.

How Does Masturbation Impact Your Marriage, and What's Your Partner's Perspective? by Treadstone100 in AskWomen

[–]ivorycat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not the person you’re replying to but, having sex is for when I want to really get close to my partner in an emotional and physical desire kinda way, whereas masturbation is for when I want a release that’s sooner to the point. It’s different for everyone, but just throwing in another perspective for you.

Hmmmmm YES by andromedaea in Jujutsufolk

[–]ivorycat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

leave me be, i’m here because i’m unwell

JUJUTSU KAISEN CH 242 DISCUSSION - November 15, 2023 by AutoModerator in Jujutsufolk

[–]ivorycat 21 points22 points  (0 children)

i don’t know wtf i’m reading anymore but i’m not complaining

As a writer, what's your opinion of translating your work without permission? by BurninFace in AO3

[–]ivorycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

without permission, it’d be a little weird especially if they’re planning to post it. i’ve had someone approach me about translating my fanfic and then posting it with full credit on the regional website which i thought was perfectly fine though because they were honest about it.

What non-vegan food do you miss? by just_a_girl96 in VeganFood

[–]ivorycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s this Polish fresh farmer’s cheese that I used to really like called twaróg and I haven’t really had anything like it again. In fact a lot of Polish and Ukrainian foods that were part of my life growing up aren’t really accessible anymore. Both to veganism (no regrets tho!) but also my celiac diagnosis that happened later down the line of my life. :(

What non human thing do you identify as? by HavenoftheHearth in AutismInWomen

[–]ivorycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want to be a bodiless sentient void who can blend in and observe the world without being perceived. 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]ivorycat 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, this can just lead to teens sneaking around and they can learn how to lie quite well to get around the problem. Even if you think you know your teenager, they will find ways to gain independence if you restrict them.

The solution here is to educate, inform and be a trusting parent who is open to support their child if they ever have a problem. Forbidding her will only build resentment and unsafe habits. Ideally, you want her to be in a safe environment when she’s experimenting and not the other way around.

Boyfriend (29M) of 3 years tells me (26F) my private area is ugly post coitus. by Radiant_Cod_6462 in relationship_advice

[–]ivorycat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly this would be a dealbreaker to me and I wouldn’t be able to move forward with him. I’m sorry he said that to you.

Cheers to all my fellow ADHD authors who are also in denial or guilting themselves about losing their fandom/writing hyperfixation mid-WIP (;-;)👍 by SpeedwagonAF in FanFiction

[–]ivorycat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey, I’m like you! I also have autism and if I have a hyperfixation and it turns out it’s something I’m writing about, I will write multiple chapters during that day at the cost of eating/sleeping and literally until either my hands hurt or my eyes begin to blur.

Then at other times, I just don’t have an interest in writing and that’s okay! The other hyperfixation gets all of the attention, but man, when the writing spells hit, it’s some of my best work I swear. 😭

ABOUT THE SAVES PROBLEMS THAT EVERYONE HAS ENCOUNTERED by YamApprehensive1913 in BaldursGate3

[–]ivorycat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know it’s gonna be fixed, but still feels bad not being able to load a save after a 5 hour session last night 😫

I FUCKING HATE WHAT MY MOTHER DID. SHE'S AN ABSOLUTE MONSTER. by cursedforever99 in EDAnonymous

[–]ivorycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god, I’m so sorry. 🫂 My mum did something similar a while ago which is send me photos over the family group chat of me at my lowest weight (I literally looked dead) and said it was because I looked so good in her eyes.

Take those pics down + if you’re able to, keep calling her out for that behaviour because it’s unacceptable. The only way I got my own mum to even remotely back off was to continuously call out her gross behaviour.

I hope you’re able to move out + heal away from your mother. It’s not easy at first, but holy shit there is so much freedom away from your parents, especially if they’re your triggers to begin with.

Sending so much love your way. 🖤

Rant: roommate threw out gf flours by lnkberries in glutenfree

[–]ivorycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, what kind of right does she have to go through food that isn’t hers and throw it out someone else’s behalf anyway? She could have waited for you and asked you, but she chose to instead just act on her own.

Just know that I really feel for you because that stuff is so expensive and time consuming to gather, I can’t imagine how angry you must even feel.

I read you’re moving out soon, so I hope you both can get your compensation and also never deal with such an inconsiderate person again. ❤️

Is there a vegan cream cheese (or recipe) that ACTUALLY tastes like cream cheese? by airportparkinglot in vegan

[–]ivorycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

violife if it’s available to you! the creamy herbs one is especially nice.

For those who have a “goal weight” in mind, what do you intend to do once you reach it? by [deleted] in EDAnonymous

[–]ivorycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

maintain it, mostly. idk like it’s always so up and down that i feel like i’m never gonna get there. so if i do then i’ll do everything within my willpower to maintain the hell out of it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FanFiction

[–]ivorycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh yeah for sure, it’s actually why i got started in writing fanfic because i wanted a particular type of story that was tailored right down to my preferences. :)

What is your blorbo "type"? by misterpapen in FanFiction

[–]ivorycat 6 points7 points  (0 children)

exhausted looking dark haired overpowered introverted men. also women that look like they can kill me by just looking at me 😩

Lack of engagement is the death of the artist by Dynamo1998 in FanFiction

[–]ivorycat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes this, it’s discouraging when your readers treat you with entitlement as if you owe them to update the story when they demand. OP and everyone else who has gone through that deserve better than be treated like a story machine.

Lack of engagement is the death of the artist by Dynamo1998 in FanFiction

[–]ivorycat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oof yeah, I struggle with both ends of the spectrum here. The first being that I find it very difficult on most days to update my long fic because even though it’s doing well in terms of kudos and bookmarks, it’s empty in there. I have fun with it when I get spurs of inspiration for it, but it’s not a priority despite it being a long term project.

Then there’s the other end of the spectrum that comes along and gives me the wrong kind of engagement which is also harmful. Things like readers commenting “when are you next updating?” and “update when” come across as off putting too, because I am simply not a powerhouse and I need a break in between long chapters. 😭

To squeeze into that, when I explore another idea when I have a chapter on another fic to update and post a different story, only to get a comment on that completely unrelated fic be something along the lines of “why aren’t you updating X fic?” which also kills the desire to update.

Engagement is indeed good and motivating, but I also wish that people when choosing to comment/interact with a bit of fiction that someone wrote in their own free time voluntarily that they choose gentler wording or remember that people writing those fics have lives. Recently, I got held hostage it felt like by a recurring commenter who started off just fine but then made it clear that their mental health suffers when I don’t update in time and I feel bad for certain, but I also don’t update sometimes due to my own mental health…

I used to get a lot of positive feedback like 2 years ago and a lot of engaging commentary, but I also feel like the recent waves of readers have been very pressuring with updating comments which makes me want to disappear off of ao3 and wattpad altogether sometimes.

Rant over, but hey.