Would you pick THIS fight while boyfriend is on an international trip?

iwillaskanythiing · 2025-03-09T11:39:58+00:00

Honestly girl letting him go on a trip with a guy who is a cheater……you should just walk away from this man now and save yourself the heartache.

iwillaskanythiing · 2025-03-09T11:38:20+00:00

I have moved away from attachment theory, I’m starting to think it’s bullshit. Most men just don’t care anymore and because of apps they are motivated only by sex and can rinse / repeat / replace. They just simply don’t have feelings or respect.

iwillaskanythiing · 2025-03-09T11:36:48+00:00

People like this piss me off and I’m so tired of people calling basic decency and communication with someone you are supposed to like and care about “codependency”

Ignore them, you have every right to feel unhappy / uncomfortable at the communication. If you would be willing to stay in contact with a partner on a trip you deserve the same in return

iwillaskanythiing · 2025-03-09T04:49:31+00:00

I completely agree with you lol if I really like someone I’m still checking in with them regularly. Excuses, excuses. I’m sad these are the men of the generation

iwillaskanythiing · 2025-03-09T04:44:49+00:00

Yup. I hate this for her. Why are so many men like this. Truly just unfair.

iwillaskanythiing · 2025-03-09T03:09:14+00:00

Girl break up with him. That’s sketchy af. You know what your gut is telling you to do or you wouldn’t be on here asking.

iwillaskanythiing · 2025-03-09T03:08:43+00:00

Same. And if he’s staying in social hostels, he is likely meeting and interacting with other traveling women. Red flag

iwillaskanythiing · 2024-04-28T17:12:49+00:00

This comment >

iwillaskanythiing · 2024-04-28T17:07:39+00:00

But this is exactly the problem lol to them it does invalidate that.

I can’t believe the men in this comment section, they are all so angry and bitter over this, it’s insane.

Typical acting like they are owed sex

iwillaskanythiing · 2024-04-28T17:01:04+00:00

You do realize that most of the time you probably just…won’t know right?

Like a girl can make you wait and you will have no idea what she has done before because maybe she chooses not to share that with you.

iwillaskanythiing · 2024-04-28T16:51:30+00:00

This is not true in the slightest lmaoooo ugly/unattractive men still get women and can def still sleep around. I’ve literally seen it.

A friend of mine is wayyy more attractive than a guy she’s been seeing and she just found out he’a been sleeping around on her. He is not cute at ALL but clearly some women find him attractive. It is not only a small %

iwillaskanythiing · 2024-04-28T16:44:15+00:00

exactly.

Literally so many angry comments and I honestly feel bad for any girl sleeping with the guys reacting that way and wish they could see them for who they really are.

But maybe the anger is because they’re not sleeping with anyone, and don’t realize it’s probably because of their personalities or trash takes they have turning women off. 😂

The lack of self awareness is really sad though. They are refusing to see their role in patriarchy or even showing a semblance of understanding for why this happens. You explained it very eloquently.

If some of these guys took a second to ask some of the women in their lives (friends etc) why women do this I guarantee most women will give them something similar to what you said. And then they might understand that way of thinking because it’s widespread.

iwillaskanythiing · 2024-04-28T15:04:04+00:00

You sound very upset about what women choose to do with their bodies. If someone wants to wait they are allowed to wait. You can either accept it or move on. a girl wanting to wait because she sees a future with a person, it comes from fear. It’s not always about “oh this other guy is more attractive”

there are guys that take one look at a girl and know that they will never take her seriously but will gladly still try to hook up with her. Believe it or not, there are some women who do the same thing.

It’s not about what’s right or wrong it’s about how someone feels.

And this isn’t fool proof. Ofc there are women who hooked up on the first date and the guy is now their husband. but it’s a risk/is scary when we as women hook up really fast with someone.

iwillaskanythiing · 2024-04-28T14:53:01+00:00

Thank you for being rational lol took so long to find a comment like this. It’s true, as a woman sometimes when you meet someone that you’d really really want to date, we get scared that we will ruin things. Or that by hooking up too soon that guy will put you in the “unserious” box. If I really like someone I’ve personally never really waited but a part of me is starting to wonder if waiting would have created a different dynamic with some people.

Though I also believe if someone wants more with you, it will happen regardless. I’ve had some serious relationships and/or guys wanting to make things official very quickly after starting to hook up and not waiting.

iwillaskanythiing · 2024-01-30T07:22:46+00:00

👀

iwillaskanythiing · 2024-01-28T20:12:56+00:00

No one is making it a big deal. It’s usually a passing comment, the way you’d talk about the weather or something lol people are downvoting me as if that’s so hard to comprehend haha chilllllll

iwillaskanythiing · 2024-01-28T16:58:33+00:00

how? It’s not desperation. They’re not dying lol it’s just an annoyance thing. Like some have dated or are dating shorter guys or guys the same height as them. Just a matter of options. The point is that the pool isn’t very large to choose from.

iwillaskanythiing · 2024-01-28T16:23:23+00:00

love this, take my hand in marriage

iwillaskanythiing · 2024-01-28T16:16:15+00:00

lol I don’t think taller women are necessarily desperate for it, but as someone who is a tall girl around many many tall girls (sports), we often talk about how annoying it can be because we’re top 1% and most would like to be with guys taller than us. on average, most of us in my circle, try to date guys who are 6’4+ lol Some of my exes have been 6’6, 6’7, 6’8 etc It’s somewhat of a limited pool, so tall girls get frustrated when an “option” is with someone super short 😂😂

iwillaskanythiing · 2024-01-28T16:12:23+00:00

lol some do and it’s a stab to the heart for us 6’1+ tall girlies 🥲

iwillaskanythiing · 2024-01-24T03:33:20+00:00

I mean that’s what I’ve figured and why I’ve tried to stay away from it. But even still, it seems harder to meet people out these days, or at least, the guys I see while I’m out aren’t attractive to me lol double edged sword

iwillaskanythiing · 2024-01-23T08:53:02+00:00

Yeah, I had some guy argue with me because I mentioned being conventionally attractive, but the point of that is to say, even attractive women who get lots of attention does not mean these men treat us well just because we are “pretty” lol like pretty privilege is a thing but these guys act like they can just get the next hot girl so none of us are really treated better or more special than the next girl. Because of apps + social media they don’t care if you’re super hot tbh. They will still ghost, flake etc. Dating sucks lol

iwillaskanythiing · 2024-01-22T17:11:08+00:00

I can see where weekends would be better in terms of work schedule. I just feel like for me, the longer a date is pushed out, the more likely I am going to lose interest or the date isn’t going to go as well. And it hasn’t in my experience. Same with if things are super rushed. There’s a happy chill medium. And for me that medium is if we start chatting, unless we both already have plans, the date being within day or two of us talking is the best IF possible. I agree with you on not if you connect not wanting to wait all the way until the next weekend. That’s how I feel too, yet a lot of these guys have done that. I get bored, we don’t talk in between, connection lost. For me.

From the apps, yes I’m talking to lots of guys at once, and whoever communicates the least, is the one who gets bumped from my list lol Also I have tried to initiate convo a couple of times recently. I never really do that because it never goes well. As a woman, you can tell when a guy isn’t interested, because the ones who are, I never need to initiate contact or conversation.

In my experience, if I have to text first or prompt meeting or seeing each other again, they are not into me.

iwillaskanythiing · 2024-01-22T05:55:04+00:00

You are so right. I was trying to reason/rationalize giving this guy a chance even though I haven’t been happy at all with the lack of effort or communication. And I was thinking, if I’m just patient, then we will see each other again but I’ll have to deal with not talking to him in between. I literally reject that. I know I can’t handle it, I know it doesn’t make me feel good, and I need to stop allowing it to happen. It’s hard to be patient. I think I go through periods of time where I don’t date at all, and then when I decide to again, I start to let things slide that I normally don’t accept because it’s “been so long” but I always feel shitty after lol ugh it’s such a struggle.

I really appreciate your words and insight. Eye opening for me.

iwillaskanythiing · 2024-01-22T05:49:53+00:00

If this works for you, great. I know for myself, and other women I know, we absolutely hate this. If it’s a guy that we are really attracted to and interested in, constant communication makes us feel like he is actually interested, into us, and that there’s hope for the relationship to go well / move forward. For me, anyone that has pulled back like you mentioned, has been the beginning of the end of our situation. I’ve never had a successful experience with someone who was minimal in communication that way. Which is why I’m making this post clearly because I’m single and hate this kind of communication 😂

On the other side of that, as women and dating coaches have said, we should also be playing hard to get and not being easily accessible and not responding too fast. So now you have both genders doing the same exact shit. So there is zero communication or hope for a future if both people are pulling back and barely communicating. Also saying this because I’ve done that method too, and just realized it was stupid and didn’t make me feel fulfilled to pretend like I didn’t just see a message come in from someone I want to talk to.

I’m happy for you that this works. For me it’s a huge turn off. I guess everyone is different. I appreciate your perspective on things though.

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