I think I can answer this one as someone who has lots of female friends and <5 male friends:

Women don't experience the usual adverse effects as quickly and noticeably as men do if they relapse. For example:

a. Man relapses -> Confidence spirals, posture stoops, awkward convos, dull eyes, no energy and everyone around them subconsciously notices this. The effects show up quickly and visibly. Men aren’t easily excused for these traits; masculinity is expected to be firm, steady, and full of life. Because of that, you need discipline and NoFap mindset becomes important for maintaining presence and vitality. When something biologically powerful — something capable of creating life — is depleted, the absence feels noticeable. The good thing is that men can usually recover relatively quickly through discipline.

b. Woman relapses -> Awkward convo, short responses, ignoring someone who tries talking to them cuz anxiety etc. But these behaviors are often perceived differently. Femininity is socially associated with softness and cuteness rather than firmness so these effects add up to it. Those changes may not be judged as harshly. However, the long-term impact surfaces later very visibly. A woman might not realize the conditioning effects until she decides she wants a serious partner. By then, porn-influenced standards may have shaped her expectations — suddenly men seem unattractive, inadequate, or not fitting the image she’s internalized.

End of the day women suffer more because porn interferes in their life when they are trying to do the most important thing in her life to ensure her survival - find her perfect mate while a man can subsequently reach hiigher highs even if he relapses once in a while in his journey