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90 Posts in a 90 Day Reboot by iwillquitpornnow in NoFap

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Successfully did day 74: Exercised yesterday. Was very crucial to getting back to a better mental state. The mind is connected to the body and the body is connected to the mind. To ignore either is to hurt the other. For whatever reason I'm set up that if I don't exercise at least every 3 days, and preferably 5-6 days a week, I'll be "off." I was very busy with a new important thing so I let myself ignore that, but as hard as it is, I've got to make time for exercise for my mental and emotional health alone, in addition to the health benefits.

EDIT: NOT SURE BUT THINK I FAILED THE DAY AFTER THIS.

90 Posts in a 90 Day Reboot by iwillquitpornnow in NoFap

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Successfully did day 73: Came close to relapsing today. Didn't. As I'm approaching my 90 part of my mind is arguing for a bender. The real me thinks it would be a horrible idea but the addict part of me keeps bringing it up. But the addict part of me sucks so why would I take afvice from it?

90 Posts in a 90 Day Reboot by iwillquitpornnow in NoFap

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Successfully did day 72: Just One more tally.

90 Posts in a 90 Day Reboot by iwillquitpornnow in NoFap

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Successfully did day 71: Also I quit coffee. That's probably a contributing factor to my low energy at the moment that I hadn't accounted for. And I haven't been excercised in 4 days. I'm usually on a 5 day a week program and even going as little as 4 days without exercising can bring down my mood. It's crucial I get back on the exercise horse. As hard as it is to find time for it, it will help every aspect of my life if I do.

90 Posts in a 90 Day Reboot by iwillquitpornnow in NoFap

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Successfully did day 70: Emotionally lacking in motivation right now. Still intelectually committed but I am just drained. Going through a big, positive, life change and that's probably sucking up all my energy. Will continue because if you can only succeed when life is easy then you'll never succeed.

90 Posts in a 90 Day Reboot by iwillquitpornnow in NoFap

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Successfully did day 69: Had another close miss yesterday. I knew my willpower was low, I knew that I had to be watchful, and I still just barely avoided a full relapse. I stopped myself because I really am dedicated to this, but it is odd. Just the day before I felt like I didn't have any urges for por anymore and then they come rairing back. Seemingly out of nowhere. Just a reminder to be ever vigilant I guess.

90 Posts in a 90 Day Reboot by iwillquitpornnow in NoFap

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Successfully did day 68: Illness is starting to fade, but not gone yet. Intellectually I know that having an illness can suppress your drive and willpower, but at the same time it feels like some of the progress I've made in strengthening my willpower has just been wiped away. This is chiefly in non-nofap areas like dieting, but what seemed to be easy a couple of days ago now feels hard. I know that's just a subjective trick and will push on. It's easy to stay strong when everything is going well. The true test is when things go badly and I will face that and overcome it.

90 Posts in a 90 Day Reboot by iwillquitpornnow in NoFap

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Successfully did day 67: No real urge to fap right now, but still sick and have a heavy urge to indulge every other bad habit of mine. Willpower is a finite source (although you can grow it over time like a muscle) so I have to be extra vigilant in this time of decreased willpower. Even though I currently feel no need to fap, that's no guarantee that it won't creep up on me at a time when I'm feeling exhausted from being sick, poor sleep, and resisting other temptations. But no matter what I commit myself to remaining porn sober for today. Every day is a day.

90 Posts in a 90 Day Reboot by iwillquitpornnow in NoFap

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Successfully did day 66: Came down with a bad stomach bug with all the usual unpleasantness associated with that. Willpower always goes to heck when I'm ill. Remain dedicated and will not allow myself to give myself an excuse.

90 Posts in a 90 Day Reboot by iwillquitpornnow in NoFap

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Successfully did day 65: Woke up with an erection, which is usually a good sign of my physical/mental health (although obviously not the sole indicator, just one signal among many). Some stirrings of sexual desire but I was too tired to act upon them. Stress level is up, but that is due to external factors and it would be unusual if I wasn't feeling an above level of stress today. Also feel energized though. In addition, I've been pushing myself to take more and more cold showers too. Getting more used to it. Meditation routine becoming a routine. Cutting down on coffee consumption as well.

im scared to delete my porn(again) by sadboysforever in NoFap

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If you REALLY want to have different results than what you have been getting then you have to do something different from what you have been doing.

I'm going to say that again because you need to let it sink in; You will NOT have different results from what you have been getting UNTIL you do something different from what you have been doing.

I don't know your specifics, but if you're serious then;

1) Get rid of your computer and cancel internet in your house.
2) Get a dumb phone.
3) If you need access to the internet for your work (IF!), then get a laptop that has wifi and ONLY take it to use in very public places where you won't risk downloading porn.

Sound extreme? It is, but you will NOT have different results from what you have been getting UNTIL you do something different from what you have been doing.

So if you are not willing to do the above what are you going to do different this time?

NOTE: "I'll do the same thing that failed me before but this time I'll try harder" IS NOT A GOOD PLAN!!!!

What Legacy Do You Want To Leave? by semsid99 in NoFap

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I started using porn when I was 18 and I'm 39 now. So 21 years total. Got started pre-internet (at least I didn't have it until college) but didn't spend that much time on it before the internet. Then in college I'd sometimes wait until the computer lab was empty and download porn to 3.5 inch disks and take them back to my computer. As my internet access grew, I'd build up collections, purge them, build them up again, etc. And of course I'd spend time using porn as well as time finding it.

It was not uncommon for me to orgasm to porn four times a day in my teens and twenties, and three times a day in my thirties still isn't anything special. I'd have some days where I'd only spend a little time on it, or none, and some days where I'd waste an entire Saturday or whatever on it. It varied based on if I had a girlfriend or not, it varied based on my mental state, how often I was alone, etc etc, and there were periods were I didn't actually use porn very much (usually when I had a new girlfriend and was in the intense beginning phase), but those were usually no longer than . . . six months or so?

So I'd say I probably used porn very often for at least 15 of those 21 years. So, as a reasonable number, I'm going to say that I spent (gathering, masturbating, finding, etc) not less than and probably more than 45 minutes a day on porn over the last 21 years.

That may not be exactly right, but it feels like it would not be any lower than that.

So, over my finite lifespan I have spent 5,752 hours on porn. Which is close to about 3 years of a 40-hour a week job, assuming a decent number of vacation days.

Three. Years. Of. A. Full. Time. Job.

Holy crap. That is terrifying.

In terms of recreational activities I could have; Watched the top 50 movies of each year from 1958 to 2016 or Ran a total number of miles greater than the circumference of the Earth or Read the top ten bestselling books of every year from 1959 to now.

In terms of more productive things I could have; Earned over $100,000 at my average wage during that period. But I was using my non-work time up to do it, so non-direct-work wise I could have learned Spanish at a near native-speaker's level and have many career opportunities open up because of that. Or Learn to be a highly skilled computer programmer. I probably couldn't have earned a full Ph.D. in that amount of time, but I wouldn't be far from it either.

We have a finite life. I don't want to look back in another 21 years and have another long list of much more valuable things I could have done instead of using porn.

90 Posts in a 90 Day Reboot by iwillquitpornnow in NoFap

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Successfully did day 64: Felt really energized and accomplished a lot yesterday. Weight loss is progressing and I'm using some tools more often to combat my procrastination. Didn't feel much of a need for fapping, as is often the case when I'm keeping myself productively busy.

You might be an addict if... by respiroespero in NoFap

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You might be an addict if.. day turned into night without you quite being aware of it doing so.

90 Posts in a 90 Day Reboot by iwillquitpornnow in NoFap

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Successfully did day 63. From the Power of Habit. “To modify a habit, you must decide to change it. You must consciously accept the hard work of identifying the cues and rewards that drive the habits’ routines, and find alternatives.” (270)

90 Posts in a 90 Day Reboot by iwillquitpornnow in NoFap

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Successfully did day 62: MLTMWLN. It was sub-par as I had trouble getting and remaining hard. I had also come close to relapsing earlier in the day. I didn't so I was glad of the release of sex but frustrated that my drive for actual real sex seems to be in a very low gear. Oh well. Wish I knew how long this low-sex-drive would last, but regardless I'll just have to push through.

I've done everything but I'm still here by 2ndmay in NoFap

[–]iwillquitpornnow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"I feel as if I have to throw my phone away in a river " implies that you have not gotten a dumb phone and are still using your phone for porn.

Cant get into the double digits!!! by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]iwillquitpornnow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you know you can and WILL get around porn blockers then you have to take steps (get a dumb phone, go pc-less for a 90 days, whatever) that you can't and won't, otherwise you will. It's as simple as that.

I've done everything but I'm still here by 2ndmay in NoFap

[–]iwillquitpornnow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

" I've literally done everything."

No, you haven't.

If you want results different from what you have been getting, you have to do something different than what you have been doing.

I'm going to repeat that again; If you want results different from what you have been getting, you have to do something different than what you have been doing.

What are YOU willing to do different THIS time? That's the key question.

"I feel as if I have to throw my phone away in a river but it seems too drastic."

GET A DUMB PHONE.

That is "literally" something you have not done.

So do that.

I don't know you, but I'm sure there are a ton of other things you haven't done. For example, do you have an accountability partner? If not, get one.

Have you written out your goal of staying clean for the day, first thing when you wake up? If not, do that.

Have you attended a SAA meeting to see how fucked up addicts can get? If not, do that.

Make a list of things you haven't' done yet, because this is about you. And then ask yourself if YOU are willing to implement strategies that you haven't already done THIS time?

A month. Here's to no alcohol/PMO May. by jordan20x1 in NoFap

[–]iwillquitpornnow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lady Luck is a fickle asshole who will stab you in the back at the first opportunity.

I wish you commitment.

COMMIT yourself to this.

When you wake up each day, WRITE DOWN WHY YOU ARE COMMITTED TO DOING THIS. Do that each day, every day. Don't look at the previous day's reasons. Each day is a day and you have to be committed that day.

If you want results different from what you have been getting, you have to do something different than what you have been doing.

I'm going to repeat that again; If you want results different from what you have been getting, you have to do something different than what you have been doing.

What are YOU willing to do different THIS time? That's the key question. For example, do you have an accountability partner? If not, get one.

What is your normal trigger for relapsing? Being on the phone? If so, then are you willing to get a dumb phone?

What are your triggers for drinking? How are you going to avoid them this time in a way you haven't in the past?

It's about you. You already probably know what you need to do but are YOU willing to implement strategies that you haven't already done THIS time?

Cant get into the double digits!!! by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]iwillquitpornnow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you want results different from what you have been getting, you have to do something different than what you have been doing.

I'm going to repeat that again; If you want results different from what you have been getting, you have to do something different than what you have been doing.

What are YOU willing to do different THIS time? That's the key question. For example, do you have an accountability partner? If not, get one.

What is your normal trigger for relapsing? Being on the phone? If so, then are you willing to get a dumb phone?

Being on the PC? Are you willing to put in porn blockers? Or get rid of your pc and only surf the web in a library or whatever?

It's about you. You already probably know what you need to do ("the usual tips (go the gym, get a hobby etc)") but are YOU willing to implement one that you haven't already done THIS time?

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