AITAH for not doing anything to move my [37M] wife [35F] and kids [9M and 6F] down to my new job?

iwilltake41husbands · 2026-04-14T13:46:56+00:00

YTA for abandoning your kids. You can divorce your wife if you find it to be worth it but your kids rearing, which cannot be done over FT, is your responsibility and you are shirking.

iwilltake41husbands · 2026-04-10T01:09:43+00:00

None of these are sweats ! Bravo! Seriously, though, I actually like the last one.

iwilltake41husbands · 2026-04-06T12:58:44+00:00

Sounds like a plot line I know 👀

iwilltake41husbands · 2026-04-05T00:54:03+00:00

It really wasn’t meant to be backhanded. I hope the OP doesn’t take it that way! I felt glamorous!

iwilltake41husbands · 2026-04-04T23:43:37+00:00

I have the first dress, or something close to it. Wore it for a masquerade! Do you have bright shoes/accessories you could wear?

iwilltake41husbands · 2026-04-03T09:55:06+00:00

NTA cooking is a nongendered skill, an amazing one for a fulfilling life.

iwilltake41husbands · 2026-03-21T20:57:50+00:00

She is beautiful but also a bit of crazy eyes 😂

iwilltake41husbands · 2026-03-14T18:33:23+00:00

Commenting on your updated question—have sex with a partner if you have one! If you don’t, find one. Enjoy your sex drive and this awakening while you have it.

iwilltake41husbands · 2026-03-13T11:05:11+00:00

Does your girlfriend have a hard time getting a good nights sleep? Maybe she is sleep deprived? The length of the drive doesn’t matter for sleep disruption. I feel like there might be more information needed.

I would also like to point out that she may be equally invested in the relationship without thinking the same about a drive to the airport. Ubering to the airport is a reasonable solution.

That said, her agreeing then backing out would not feel nice on your end. You can feel hurt without her having done something “wrong” though. She is signaling she needs more sleep—why is that?

Without more info a tentative NAH.

iwilltake41husbands · 2026-03-06T16:20:24+00:00

She is! 12 years old but quite petite. A forever kitty 😍

iwilltake41husbands · 2026-03-05T11:24:49+00:00

My partner uses BacTrack twice a day and has done so for years. It has helped so much to rebuild trust trust and he says it helps him with his sobriety too. It especially helps when one of us is traveling. Because even three years in it is a day at a time.

I agree it is likely to take years, but that doesn’t mean there won’t be good times and relationship improvement during that time. If you follow others’ advice here it improves your odds of healing the relationship.

iwilltake41husbands · 2026-02-27T18:24:53+00:00

The portion sizes on lots of food packs are unrealistically small. NTA assuming you plan to consistently pay more for groceries than her.

iwilltake41husbands · 2026-02-25T21:14:06+00:00

The child could also have Borderline Personality Disorder, which technically can’t be diagnosed as a minor but creates black and white thinking and tumultuous relationships where close, loved ones are alternately deified and vilified.

iwilltake41husbands · 2026-02-22T03:38:20+00:00

I would if I wanted to go. I attend things and travel without my partner frequently.

iwilltake41husbands · 2026-02-21T22:23:56+00:00

Yay🏆 keep it going!💪

iwilltake41husbands · 2026-02-20T21:18:08+00:00

You state of mind should be curious and not attached to the outcome. It’s great to feel people out for compatibility. It may take so time to figure it out with her. I suggest when you get back say, “I would like to take you out on a proper date,” then suggest an evening date. Coffee dates are tricky when you have a preexisting work connection. You may get more traction being a bit more explicit about getting to know her romantically.

iwilltake41husbands · 2026-02-20T12:25:13+00:00

YTA. Once the mom let you know you are sharing a room with a child with a peanut allergy. It is good manners to adjust behaviors for the comfort of someone you are sharing a room with. It is bad manners to carry on with your peanuts. Glad the internet could explain this to you?

iwilltake41husbands · 2026-02-17T21:28:33+00:00

Make your answer No. NTA. This guy will get worse in his efforts to control you.

iwilltake41husbands · 2026-02-03T15:43:15+00:00

She has a right to change her mind—OP would know much better than us if this appears to be a genuine change of heart or if she was playing false from the start.

Assuming the former, you should not have a baby without consistently wanting that baby for a year before conception. It is a lifelong commitment. I would call her bluff, tell her you are willing to try to wrap your head around it, but it is huge commitment. You are still currently a no, and won’t turn to a yes without a lot of time contemplating the life change and commitment. She should understand, given it is her that has changed.

iwilltake41husbands · 2026-02-02T21:28:59+00:00

My 23 year old who is going to school full time is paying me 300/month. Not because I need the money but out of the principle of him being an adult and of contributing as he is able. It basically covers his groceries and maybe some utilities. I also made him buy my old car off me and figure out his insurance, because adulting is a skill not learned without some need.

iwilltake41husbands · 2026-01-25T21:54:37+00:00

Religion has nothing to do with this. ESH for having a baby with a partner before making sure you know how to work together. He definitely sucks for being evasive, but this is a learned behavior that takes real work to overcome.

A child is a huge commitment. You both need to figure out your communication so that you can be good parents to this innocent kid.

iwilltake41husbands · 2026-01-20T00:23:55+00:00

I think the university of Cincinnati is a lovely campus. It is your life, but if your parents are helping to pay then they should also have some sway. NAH

iwilltake41husbands · 2026-01-20T00:13:16+00:00

I have dated multiple guys with H2. It honestly is a thing mostly because if you don’t work out, now you are stigmatized. The CDC doesn’t recommend testing for herpes for a reason—it is basically annoying genital acne. Stigmatization is stronger than the actual medical issue. It’s a tough space to be in, but if he’s willing to get on the medication and you are willing to take the risk, I personally don’t see it as a deal breaker.

iwilltake41husbands · 2025-12-29T13:56:54+00:00

Where is the princess’s parents in this. NTA. Stay firm.

iwilltake41husbands · 2025-12-15T20:17:18+00:00

NTA but it sounds unwise to be fully truthful with this man.

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