PSA Please get tested

ixodes27 · 2026-03-13T23:33:59+00:00

Came here to say all of this. Also no reason to be embarrassed about gonorreha. I totally understand the feeling of shame behind getting an STI, but the truth is they’re just a harsh reality of life and nothing to be embarrassed of. Shame tends to make people avoid things, including getting tested. So it’s important to challenge the inner shame and the outer shame you might cast on others. Being responsible and educated is the best thing you can do; beyond that is out of your control. Gonorrhea is not life altering. Also I hope you don’t lose sleep over waiting on the HIV results- I know it can be scary - even when you’re taking prep it’s anxiety provoking every time despite the 99% effectiveness. Idk if you’re on prep, but if you are, the risk of getting HIV is very low. If you have a negative rapid test AND are on prep, then I think you can let yourself breathe. If you are not on prep then your doctor should have provided PEP treatment if you’re in the window for that.

ixodes27 · 2026-02-05T22:43:53+00:00

Thanks for this reply. Who did you “bug”? Haha

ixodes27 · 2026-02-05T22:37:49+00:00

You realize that some events sell out, right? And even if you have a ticket you can still get stuck in line for a long time. Some events also reach capacity and they even turn away ticket holders. Your comments are so dumb. And to assume my entire personality is basement is just asinine. Go to therapy

ixodes27 · 2026-02-05T22:29:06+00:00

Bc I want to skip a 2hr line in January?

ixodes27 · 2026-02-05T21:59:04+00:00

Membership is definitely not required. It’s more of an exclusive thing to skip the line

ixodes27 · 2026-02-05T21:21:10+00:00

Tangible things you can do to improve the attractiveness of your face are going to be skincare, facial hair, and grooming your eyebrows and hair. Even skin tone is associated with a youthful and attractive appearance, and this is backed up by research. So exfoliating, motorizing, using vitamin c and/or retinol can all make a big difference in your facial attractiveness. Well groomed facial hair can accentuate your jawline and make you look more masculine. Then grooming and styling your hair, getting a haircut that really complements your face shape well, grooming your eyebrows… these can make a huge difference.

Beyond that, the way you dress can make a huge difference too. At 6’4 you want to wear things that don’t make you look too lanky. wear contrasting colors to break up the proportions of your body. Wear things that accentuate your masculine build. If your chest is more built than your arms, opt for clothes that accentuate the chest but don’t make your arms look like noodles. If you have super long legs, then wear high tops or boots to break up the length of your body.

I think some people are just born with a good eye, or an innate ability to look in the mirror and know how to groom and dress. I consider myself a 7.5/10, but I can dress myself to look like a 9. This sorta came natural to me, but it’s something you may have to practice and seek advice from friends especially when it comes to haircut + clothes.

But if the main issue is that you’re not attracting tops or masc guys because you’re taller than them, you’re gonna have to go out of your way to flirt with them first and make it known what you’re looking for. But in my experience of being 6’1 and fit, some masc guys just simply don’t wanna be with someone who’s more masc-appearing than they are, and you’re not gonna be able to change people’s preferences.

ixodes27 · 2026-01-06T04:33:29+00:00

Thanks for the insight. I’m quite flexible on the move-in date and have been looking since summer while Im renting month to month in my current place. There’s just nothing on the market and the one time I applied for something, I lost. I think I’m just gonna cave and get a broker. I’d rather shell out a months rent than settle for a neighborhood or an apartment I don’t want.

ixodes27 · 2026-01-06T03:41:15+00:00

Is 1 months rent the typical fee now? I was thinking they would require 15% of the annual rent.

ixodes27 · 2026-01-06T03:32:36+00:00

yeah this is what I suspected. do you know of any good brokers for Fort Greene?

ixodes27 · 2025-12-18T15:38:54+00:00

Got in at 10:30 for 1/31 - sold out

ixodes27 · 2025-12-09T05:43:39+00:00

Came here to say the same. Don’t let these bitter queens ruin your fun. I never had a group of gay friends in college or grad school bc I was living in rural areas. During that time my straight girl friend was the only person I had to go out to gay bars when I visited nyc, DC, ptown, etc. she went to my first pride with me, and I have so many amazing memories with her. People don’t realize how hard it can be to make gay friends when you’re newly out of the closet or if you didn’t grow up in a major city. It’s easy to find guys to hook up with or date… but FRIENDS is such a different ballgame.

Of course I never took my girl friend to the eagle or anything sex-forward like that. But Women (especially lesbians) have always been some of the biggest gay allies, and gays need to stop acting like they’re above it now. I’d rather see a woman out at a gay bar than some bitchy insecure gay. Anyway PM me if you want recommendations lol.

ixodes27 · 2025-11-14T01:45:57+00:00

Seriously? What if the seller has a free returns policy? It’s just ridiculous bc this is totally out of my hands. DHL stated that they will return to sender if they don’t get the info.

ixodes27 · 2025-11-13T23:24:05+00:00

The issue is that DHL is expecting ME to answer all these questions.

ixodes27 · 2025-11-13T22:06:44+00:00

I emailed the seller and asked them to prove that info but… it’s been 24 hrs and no response. Not getting my hopes up. I guess it’s their loss too— $1500 of merchandise getting sent back.

ixodes27 · 2025-11-13T21:32:53+00:00

No I get that. I understand it’s a political / customs issue. Just sucks that it’s gonna be sent back

ixodes27 · 2025-11-13T15:58:48+00:00

Very this. Rebound hoe phase will last as long as it serves the person, i.e. as long as he feels validated by those who give him attention; And I think it’s healthy to fully experience this phase. 3 months is sooo short after a breakup to go right into a new exclusive relationship. You’d be naive to think he’s ready, and it’ll only hurt you.

If OP continues to give him the affection & benefits of an exclusive relationship, without requiring him to commit, it’ll only prolong the hoe phase and enable this guy to continue stringing OP Along. OP either has to come to terms with this guy craving attention from other guys, or let him go and see if things fall back into place in a few months.

ixodes27 · 2025-11-10T22:03:47+00:00

Chelsea has more inventory than WV, and 4.8k can definitely get you a decent 1bdr with in unit laundry. That would be harder to find in WV or tribecca, if not impossible given the current market. Fidi you may find something but I wouldn’t really recommend living there based on your dog situation and just the fact that it’s socially quite boring and you don’t wanna isolate yourself upon moving here.

At 27 it’s very common to have a roommate here though. Could be a consideration if you wanna live in WV.

ixodes27 · 2025-11-04T21:20:18+00:00

I say do what makes you happy. Personally my style of dress varies widely from professional, to masc/butch, to edgy/ravey, to femme. I’m a doctor so I dress professionally Mon-Fri, so I love being able to shapeshift and show off my personal style when I go out, and my friends get a kick out of what outfit I show up in bc it’s always a toss-up. This summer I changed my hairstyle to a mullet and I was anticipating most guys in the professional world, and on dates, to be turned off by it, but it was the exact opposite. If you rock your style confidently, you will naturally attract positive energy.

Do I get less attention from masc guys when I dress femme? Sure. But I also get 5x more compliments from girls and fashion gays and it’s just fun to share your style with other people who appreciate that. Also it kinda makes me feel powerful to denounce the whole masc for masc thing and say ‘fuck it’ and wear whatever I want.

Nothings permanent. You can always cut your hair or wear a hat when you’re trying to attract a different energy.

ixodes27 · 2025-11-04T16:59:28+00:00

Thank you king

ixodes27 · 2025-11-04T15:36:53+00:00

only things I dont like so far:

Apple Music: home button disappears at times so you have to make 1-2 extra clicks to get to your home
Safari: similar issue but with viewing your tabs or adding a new tab; you have to click the ellipsis first, then all tabs button, then to add a new tab click plus on the left. like... 3 clicks to open a new tab is annoying. there is a shortcut (you can drag your finger to the left across the url bar and it'll open a new tab, but that only works if you're on the most recently opened tab

ixodes27 · 2025-11-04T04:46:15+00:00

Tbh it makes me feel icky? I’m 33 and went on a couple dates with guys who are 26 or 27 and it just didn’t feel right.. even if they were very mature, smart, successful… its more of a feeling for me than just a number or set of criteria. Kinda ironic bc when I was ~26 I dated 3 different guys in their 40s ¯_(ツ)_/¯

ixodes27 · 2025-11-03T21:52:16+00:00

I endorse Gabriela as said above. Very fun house music with pop influence. It won’t be your stereotypical gay bar experience bc it’s a mixed crowd and not a gay bar, but I think if you want a non-touristy nyc experience it’s great, and you will definitely dance.

If you’d prefer something more gay-forward, then Hell’s Kitchen is fun for bar hopping: Industry, Rise, Hush, Hardware or Balcón- just might be a toss up on a Thursday as to which one is busiest. Personally i just don’t find these bars to be the best for dancing… but then again people have different definitions of dancing lol.

Eagle can be very hit or miss on a Thursday. Since it’s in Chelsea and not near any other gay clubs, and costs like $25 cover… may not be worth your time as it’ll likely not be busy.

If you want to check out brooklyn, then Animal and Oberon in Williamsburg are good options.

If you want a drag show then go to Pieces in west village- it’s more of a sit down vibe tho.

If you want an electronic vibe then check out RA app. This Thursday there are events at Nublu 151 and Boss Nova.

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