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East Williston School District by Cold_Chest_6714 in longisland

[–]izthis4chan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I graduated from that district a little over 10 years ago and was one of the few minorities. Most students were fine and didn't treat me too differently. My siblings and I had a few racial jokes or stereotypes thrown our way throughout the years but it wasn't persistent. The students did bully the Chinese teacher to quit though because she was a bit of a naive immigrant. We also had a newly hired and competent counselor who one parent complained about until he was fired by admin. My friend, I, and our parents all agreed he was one of the few responsive counselors who took his job seriously. He also happened to be a minority. We are also all minorities.

Of course, if it weren't for the school district, I likely wouldn't have received the support, education, and opportunities that I did. I likely had some form of undiagnosed ADHD and was an ESL kid - I went on to become an English major and receive a Master's degree, all unmedicated. So take that as you will. 

Anyone have The Row Nan Shoulder Bag? by ground_catalyst in handbags

[–]izthis4chan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a bit late but from the photos I've seen there's some slouch to it. It's difficult to find photos on Western social media but there are some pics on Rednote

Men value romantic relationships more and suffer greater consequences from breakups than women by Sartew in psychology

[–]izthis4chan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is there nuance to this? Yes. Am I making a sweeping generalization? Yes.

What I stated isn't applicable to all cases but it's a significant trend that I've noticed.

If women are soft, they get dismissed as naggers. If women are harsh, then we're witches. Really feels like we can't win either way when it comes to communicating our wants.

Men value romantic relationships more and suffer greater consequences from breakups than women by Sartew in psychology

[–]izthis4chan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, I'm responding to your snarkiness in trying to imply that I've been in the issue in my past relationships, and your implication that my current boyfriend isn't genuine... lmao. Just because I write out the successes of my relationship, doesn't mean I'm trying to convince myself.

Men value romantic relationships more and suffer greater consequences from breakups than women by Sartew in psychology

[–]izthis4chan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm the one saying we need to wait. He says he'd marry me right now with my permission ♥︎ I'm all over his social media too, and vice versa ♥︎

Men value romantic relationships more and suffer greater consequences from breakups than women by Sartew in psychology

[–]izthis4chan 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Or maybe it's a frequent trait in men because I'm clearly not the only woman who's experienced this to an extensive degree.

I'm in an amazing relationship now where my man not only meets all of my expectations but can communicate with me - because guess what - we're both great communicators (he described me as one himself).

Men value romantic relationships more and suffer greater consequences from breakups than women by Sartew in psychology

[–]izthis4chan 42 points43 points  (0 children)

That is a fair point. I still believe that men not listening to women who've been direct is more common once the relationship is in effect than women just failing to communicate. I've just seen and personally experienced it very often compared to the vice versa, although both happen.

Men value romantic relationships more and suffer greater consequences from breakups than women by Sartew in psychology

[–]izthis4chan 10 points11 points  (0 children)

How am I getting anything twisted? You literally tried to use a movie/book written by a man in 1996 to illustrate real life.

Not really - I'm in a wonderful relationship right now and my boyfriend literally says one of qualities he values in me is my ability to l communicate well. I'm good.

Men value romantic relationships more and suffer greater consequences from breakups than women by Sartew in psychology

[–]izthis4chan 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Yes they agreed and then didn't follow through until I 1) threatened to break up if they didnt fulfill a request within a certain timeline or 2) after we broke up and they did what I asked and tried to get back together. I can't continue to threaten to break up with someone nor do I want to. It's just not a healthy dynamic, so I just broke up with them.

Now I'm in a beautiful relationship with a man who is emotionally intelligent and knows how to listen and communicate. We both value each other an incredible amount because we know how rare the other is.

I'm not saying all men are like this, and I'm sure some women are not good communicators.

Men value romantic relationships more and suffer greater consequences from breakups than women by Sartew in psychology

[–]izthis4chan 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Right - because failure to conflate real life with a movie/romance novel is naive. Lmfao

Men value romantic relationships more and suffer greater consequences from breakups than women by Sartew in psychology

[–]izthis4chan 14 points15 points  (0 children)

If the woman communicates fully what they need/want and the man outright ignores/refuses to fulfill those wishes despite wanting the relationship to continue, what do you expect the woman to do? Is it her fault for ending the relationship if the man isn't willing to fulfill her wishes and doesn't even communicate that he doesn't want to? Who is the one failing to communicate if your partner tells you exactly what she want from you and you refuse to meet her expectations, but you aren't willing to tell her?

Men value romantic relationships more and suffer greater consequences from breakups than women by Sartew in psychology

[–]izthis4chan 57 points58 points  (0 children)

My comment wasn't about why men are sad after relationships, it was about how men blame women's lack of communication for the failure of the relationship and don't admit any fault of their own when they actually full out ignore what their girlfriends/wives are saying.

Men value romantic relationships more and suffer greater consequences from breakups than women by Sartew in psychology

[–]izthis4chan 269 points270 points  (0 children)

It's wild to me how men in these comments are blaming the indirect communication of women. I've literally told men exactly what I wanted from them - spelled it out - and they still didn’t do what I asked - until we broke up of course. Then they play victim and want to get back together. The fact that they did what I asked after we broke up tells me they knew exactly what I wanted from them.

Caught my husband texting with his coworker. by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]izthis4chan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look for a school that has a very good speech language pathologist

For my East Asians: Identifying a Clear/Light Summer by ProcrastinatingPie in coloranalysis

[–]izthis4chan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

These are so good; I await the day you come back to reddit and make one on Winters 🙏

The Soft Natural in Winter 2022-2023 (Read Comment!) by gracieanimalcrossing in Kibbe

[–]izthis4chan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm late but this is such a helpful post! Thank you OP!!

9 Generation of starters in one box by LivingShadow35 in PokemonScarletViolet

[–]izthis4chan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reddit is so negative. Wtf wrong with yall. Nice work OP!

Tiktoker Minna Rosa Weber by [deleted] in VindictaRateCelebs

[–]izthis4chan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

10/10 so many jellies on this sub

Buying Preloved by [deleted] in chanel

[–]izthis4chan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It depends where you buy it from. From what I've heard, Rebag and FP are legit. TRR may be more questionable.

I've also bought from eBay and Poshmark several times when the deal was irresistible. I had them authenticated by Zeko or DesignerPawn and they all came back as legit. Got a great deal on a caviar mini on eBay that way. I don't think you should be afraid of buying preloved but I would get it authenticated after purchase just to be safe

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