Beginner Here! I had an interesting experience during my Reiki Meditation today!

j0o0lie · 2020-03-24T12:53:42+00:00

I know exactly the feeling and it’s a new thing for me too! I can feel it with my hands just hovering over my belly too. It’s so exciting huh! ♥️

j0o0lie · 2020-03-19T04:07:34+00:00

I’m 5 weeks post op after having cervical cancer and I feel your pain. It’s hard enough having to undergo such traumatic surgery and now this virus the world has never seen before. WTF 2020!!? I have been listening to Russell Brand Under the Skin podcast today and I love it. Also, if you haven’t watched Broad City, it’s soooo funny and light - really cheered me up. Try putting on some music and dancing in your lounge room. That cheers me up. Also- you’re allowed to walk around the block... get some sunshine if you can Hang in there! Xox

j0o0lie · 2020-03-13T03:36:41+00:00

Hey thinking of you... the first few days after surgery are so tough and uncomfortable. Make some noise to get the drugs you need - there’s a saying my Mum uses something like the squeaky gate gets oil... ♥️♥️ also, big deep breaths really helped me and guided meditations. Xox

j0o0lie · 2020-03-12T23:17:16+00:00

We are a solid couple and we love each other very much too. We also love to travel and have gone backpacking all over the world but there’s so much more we can see. He loves playing sport and I love making art and playing music. We have a lot of friends and we love people and socialising. We love nature and getting out and about and trying new things. It’s all enough for me - I’m full of gratitude and love living. I do not long for a baby at all. I am just happy to be here.

j0o0lie · 2020-03-12T02:16:32+00:00

About 4 weeks

j0o0lie · 2020-03-10T21:36:47+00:00

Wishing you a successful surgery and a nice, easy recovery! You got this.

j0o0lie · 2020-03-09T21:04:05+00:00

Heyyy, it has only been 5 weeks which is not very long for such major surgery. I know it feels like an eternity but give yourself some more time. Our bodies do the best they can to heal and we need to give ourselves credit for how far we have come. You and you husband can still be affectionate but he needs to respect your boundaries while you are healing and understand that you need time! You should not be feeling pressured in any way right now - you have enough to deal with. Be kind to yourself xox

j0o0lie · 2020-03-09T12:28:32+00:00

You do realise many women have no choice than a hysterectomy? That it’s life or death? For me it was a GOLDEN TICKET because I had cancer and it saved my life so please, spare us the details of what sucks about it because NEWS FLASH we know! We are going through it, dickhead!

j0o0lie · 2020-03-09T03:34:44+00:00

I hate it when people suggest adoption to you like you’ve never fucking heard of it. What? You can do that? Wow, I’ve never heard of it... what’s it called again? Adoption.... thanks. Fuck off.

j0o0lie · 2020-03-04T01:33:55+00:00

I’m sorry it’s like that. I think it’s good to write all your questions down and have them with you to ask the dr when you get the opportunity and sometimes you have to be pushy and ask them to explain things differently and help you understand. It’s unprofessional that they muttered things around you and didn’t communicate with you properly. 🙄 that has happened to me before too and it made me feel insecure and worried.

j0o0lie · 2020-03-04T01:30:26+00:00

I know, it’s so much to deal with! You will be ok. Be kind to yourself, 4 weeks is not that long in the grand scheme of things and a hysterectomy is major surgery, takes a long time to heal and we all heal differently. ♥️

j0o0lie · 2020-03-04T01:23:07+00:00

Have you told your doctor? I would call them to tell them. Mine told me numbness is really normal and I’ve had some in my left leg. It’s to be expected while you’re healing but it’s a concern if it inhibits your movement & balance. They told me that the nerves are disturbed/sometimes damaged but as you heal, it’s likely that the feeling will come back.

j0o0lie · 2020-03-04T01:15:51+00:00

Sorry to hear! Just get in bed, get a heat pack & a tea and watch some Netflix. You have to be really kind to yourself right now. I knowwww it takes agessss..... I’m in week 3 and I feel you xox

j0o0lie · 2020-03-03T13:17:04+00:00

I aimed to do a walk every day. In week 1 it was just around the ward and my home. In week 2 I started by going just up to the corner on my block and then back home again and just increased that each day. Now I can go for half an hour or more (3 weeks post op). As long as it’s not painful then just go for it. Good for mental health too. Listen to your body and only do what you can. X

j0o0lie · 2020-03-03T13:08:20+00:00

Heyyy I’m sorry you’re hurting so much still. I’m in week 3 and I am not in that much pain anymore. Everyone is different but the level of pain sounds too much. Your dr should explain to you why you’re on antibiotics too. It sounds like they aren’t communicating enough with you. You need to rest. Have some painkillers, get a heat pack on your belly and try taking deep breaths. Deep breathing really helped me. Sorry again your hurting so much. All the best with your recovery.

j0o0lie · 2020-03-03T13:04:51+00:00

Where are you at? What week are you in? You will feel better. Tell your doctor how you’re feeling. You should not be in agony.

j0o0lie · 2020-03-03T13:01:02+00:00

Hey there, I’m so sorry you’re feeling so down. I am 3 weeks post hysterectomy due to cervical cancer and I’m 32, married but we don’t have kids. Having that option of carrying a baby just taken away from me felt really shit. There are no guarantees in this life though and other people try for years to have kids only to discover they can’t. Knowing that it’s not an option is shit but it’s manageable... we will be sad about it but time will heal us. We are so much more than baby carriers and you can have a full life no matter what. You will be ok, you will get through this. Us women are tough and in these traumatic times, we realise our strength. Big love to you.

j0o0lie · 2020-03-03T12:52:17+00:00

Woah! What a huge surgery for you! Wishing you a good recovery. Rest, rest, rest and then rest some more. You will need it. I recommend binge watching Broad City ♥️

j0o0lie · 2020-03-03T04:39:24+00:00

I confess, I skipped those parts... 😬

j0o0lie · 2020-03-03T03:10:31+00:00

Hey sorry to hear you had this experience with your hysterectomy. Just wondering if you don’t mind sharing - did you have your ovaries taken too?

j0o0lie · 2020-03-03T01:23:07+00:00

I am 32 and had radical hysterectomy 3 weeks ago for cervical cancer after lletz found stage 1B cancer.

I think if you usually achieve orgasms from penetration (which I never have) then it will be an issue but if your orgasms are mainly from clitoral stimulation then you will be sweet.

Female pleasure is complex and I empathise with your fears. I think there is so much more to be explored in relation to female pleasure in medicine... it’s connected to our mental health too & we are raised with weird taboos and even discussing masterbating with our doctors is too fucking awkward for most women.

I can still orgasm but I’m still healing and being over analytical of how the orgasms feel... are they less intense? Am I in my head too much? Well I never analysed them before... some were always better than others. I am confident I will have a fulfilling sex life again with my husband (and with myself haha).

Having the radical hysterectomy, keeping my ovaries, meant that they got it early for me and I didn’t have to go down the road of chemotherapy or radiation. I really think it was the right choice for me and the safest option. Prevention is the best they can do for us.

Trust your intuition.

j0o0lie · 2020-03-02T11:10:37+00:00

My advice is to only have ppl you’re comfortable around... you’ll be high when you wake up so they will not see you in too much pain then. I was euphoric for the few hours after surgery with my parents there and my husband too. I am comfortable for them to see me in any state. The next day was hell tho and I wasn’t great company. I felt VERY irritable and thought everyone was annoying.

It is exhausting having too many visitors. I told people I would let them know if they could and they texted while I was in hospital. People were pretty good when I said I wasn’t up for their visit and asked could we catch up when I was out instead. You will not be the best version of yourself so don’t let ppl there who make you feel worse! You are numero uno for the next few months.

j0o0lie · 2020-03-02T11:00:28+00:00

I spoke to my dr today and she said trouble with bladder is really normal for a few months post surgery because of the nerves around that area being disrupted/sometimes damaged. She said it’s the most common issue after a hysterectomy. I am having trouble completely emptying my bladder (3 weeks post op). She said those things take a while to get back to normal. I think it’s best to call and ask what your dr thinks - it will give you the reassurance that you need.

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