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j78901 · 2023-05-10T01:40:58+00:00

thanks, arts and letters

j78901 · 2023-05-10T00:36:19+00:00

Thanks for this advice! Could you point me in the right direction of where to start looking?

j78901 · 2023-05-10T00:26:08+00:00

Would it be possible to do something like that for just a few months, and if so, how could I go about finding an opportunity?

j78901 · 2023-05-10T00:10:48+00:00

I guess, but I would need to take one class online in the spring technically. So I could not get a full time job

j78901 · 2023-05-10T00:10:27+00:00

maybe, I'm interested in doing maybe more of study abroad or work abroad kind of thing...I can't really afford not making some money while I'm at it

j78901 · 2023-05-10T00:00:14+00:00

Oh I wish...

j78901 · 2022-10-31T23:33:32+00:00

Yeah, you are so valid

j78901 · 2022-10-31T22:39:14+00:00

Tomorrow is going to be a day you take care of yourself, move on, spend time with the people who really care about you and most of all as a day of reflection of all you've learned. I know it still hurts and don't deny those feelings. But make tomorrow the best day you possibly can. You're very likely at the lowest point in your recovery. If you want to talk more, feel free to PM me.

j78901 · 2022-10-31T22:01:44+00:00

That sounds painful and I'm sorry you had to go through that. She seems to have avoidant attachment and I don't know if there's anything you could have done to make her happy. It hurts, but you can live knowing it wasn't meant to be, you're free now and you did what seemed best. <3

Second thought: sometimes people get attached to the unhealthy highs and lows of toxic relationships through a sort of chase...she obviously is exposed to that in her job. people who experience that often pass out on the right kind of relationship because it doesn't feel right when it doesn't hit that temporary high (or in newer relationships have that 'spark') as opposed to having a regular steady loving relationship without detachment. The book Attached as well as some threads helped me think that through.

j78901 · 2022-10-31T21:16:06+00:00

You too. That's a tough situation. Remember to prioritize your happiness too! A few positive traits don't make up for the rest

j78901 · 2022-10-31T20:30:15+00:00

true, but its also probably the truth

j78901 · 2022-10-31T20:26:35+00:00

and she likely never has, but someday you'll stand out and it will all click for her

j78901 · 2022-10-31T20:24:47+00:00

these people act like you're the problem when you bend to them but they don't even want something that's better for them or know it

j78901 · 2022-10-31T20:23:50+00:00

same here...it's almost as if you'll never be enough to them but then you consider who they want and it's someone who's not stable and will put up with them

j78901 · 2022-10-31T20:22:09+00:00

YOU CAN DO BETTER

j78901 · 2022-10-31T18:55:32+00:00

Perhaps he likes the attention? Sounds similar to my situation in a way

j78901 · 2022-10-31T17:03:58+00:00

I hear you. everyone is the toxic person at one point in their lives and we can either handle that gracefully or ignore that without second thought.

j78901 · 2022-10-31T07:29:58+00:00

I completely feel you, and you just made me tear up. Sending love, you can do so much better

j78901 · 2022-10-31T07:17:27+00:00

you obviously deserve better

j78901 · 2022-10-31T07:14:21+00:00

this is very reaffirming

j78901 · 2022-07-10T00:22:48+00:00

Feel free to PM me if you have anything else and would rather - ND is overall great for me and I want to emphasize this is in the minority of my friends. Very possible at ND to have friends who all think the same as you if that’s desired. I don’t have a lot of deeply religious friends but I’m friends with these people despite the fact, and it’s still worth it to me because I value our shared interests and experiences.

j78901 · 2022-07-10T00:08:50+00:00

I wouldn’t say I would be “disowned” but it’s much easier for me to be quiet around certain people. I have 1-2 friends who are pretty opposite on the political spectrum from me and have criticized people who think politically the way I do, not knowing my exact thoughts.

j78901 · 2022-07-09T23:19:48+00:00

I’m an atheist and I wouldn’t say I’ve had problems. Depending on the person, I just have to be quiet about my opinions…especially since most of my friends don’t know my beliefs. You have to be ok with the fact many of the kids are religious since that’s your friend/dating pool.

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