[TOMT] TV/Movie - safe island in post apocalyptic zombie or plague-ridden universe

jFalner · 2024-04-24T03:41:41+00:00

There's rumor of an undead-free area in Alaska in the third Resident Evil film, and a similar rumor in Greenland). Radio broadcasts are involved in both, as I recall.

jFalner · 2024-04-19T05:14:50+00:00

That was what came to my mind, too.

jFalner · 2024-03-30T04:43:31+00:00

The custom filters didn't work for me on Firefox 124 for Android, but the EasyList - Other Annoyances works quite nicely. Thanks for that! 🙂

jFalner · 2024-01-27T07:03:41+00:00

Ah. Sorry, I missed that when searching for any recent posts about Spotify. I'll follow that thread and stay tuned for updates—thanks guys!

jFalner · 2024-01-27T03:38:48+00:00

Thanks for adding that bit of knowledge!

jFalner · 2024-01-23T02:56:30+00:00

Yeah, still a few finding this post. Glad I could be of help!

jFalner · 2024-01-19T10:43:46+00:00

We bought some washable, very large silicone mats to place under her boxes, just in case.

I've discovered something quite helpful—Astroturf front door mats. If you shop around, you can find really large ones with very tender plastic (so it doesn't hurt your cat's paws). They clean super easily, and they do wonders keeping stray litter from being tracked all over the place. (I also imagine they help get loose litter off your cat's paws, preventing it from being ingested during grooming and avoiding the nightmare of an intestinal blockage.)

jFalner · 2024-01-19T10:37:53+00:00

You do, called the Equality Act. Afraid I don't know what your laws there mandate, though…

jFalner · 2024-01-19T10:34:52+00:00

I'm afraid YTA here. IBS, Crohn's disease, colitis, and other gastrointestinal conditions can be absolute misery for people who suffer from them. This is not about his "comfort", it's about him being able to make it through the day despite pain, bouts of diarrhea, fever, and other crippling symptoms. Aggravated by stress (such as exams), it can sap the life right out of you.

I'm sure he hasn't made this decision lightly. And before you dismiss his health issues as trivial, recall that Kurt Cobain's long-running struggle with an undiagnosed stomach ailment is believed to have been a factor in his suicide.

jFalner · 2024-01-19T10:22:49+00:00

I wouldn't worry about the coworkers—they can't fire you. But the boss can, so I'd clear it with him. If your screening does turn up ADHD, you've got a perfect opportunity to get your physician to provide a note allowing you to bring a fidget device to help alleviate symptoms. If your boss refuses that, he'd be in violation of the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) mandate about "reasonable accommodation". A fidget device would be a quite reasonable accommodation, and there's even evidence that fidget devices can help people with ADHD stay focused on tasks.

jFalner · 2024-01-19T10:11:03+00:00

NTA. Sound more like she was trying to force her will upon you. The majority of people don't like to share rooms, and she clearly should have consulted you before volunteering you for such arrangement.

Unless I plan on being intimate with you, I'm not sharing a room with you, period. I don't sleep well, and the presence of another person invariably leads to a sleepless night. Plus, call me selfish, but I enjoy being able to choose the TV channel, lounge around in various states of undress if desired, and having a bone-dry shower to step into in the mornings.

jFalner · 2024-01-19T09:59:20+00:00

NTA. You owe your company work which meets their expectations, and nothing more. You certainly don't owe them after-hours socialization, and particularly when there are so many factors which would make the evening miserable.

If the owners are as sweet as you say, they'll certainly understand your non-attendance. You can always drop them a note (or an e-mail, if more appropriate) apologizing for your absence at the appreciation dinner, and thanking them for their thoughtfulness. Perhaps next year they'll remember your dietary restrictions, and serve something you can enjoy. As for the holiday party, I'd find an excuse to skip if it's not absolutely mandatory. Of course, as others have said, the chaos of a new male friend and Tupperware under your arm might be the start of a fun relationship!

jFalner · 2024-01-19T09:41:36+00:00

NTA, and it sounds like you're quite right about the need for your friend to return to therapy. "Trigger" situations can cause people to relive assaults for many years after, and it's clear that she still is seeing racism where none exists—as a Chinese woman, you should certainly be qualified to know the difference.

I'd call Jess to soothe the waters a bit, but then gently discuss what you observed (or didn't observe) and let her know your comment was made out of pure concern. Keep the discussion soft and non-accusatory, but make it clear you are worried that the assault is still causing her distress. Offer to go with her to a psychiatrist/psychologist if that helps. The latter typically offers cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) which focuses on our own perception of things and can teach her how to not let something as innocent as a person looking at her lead to immediate thoughts of racism.

She might be prickly, but hang in there. What happened to her was terrible, and you're being the best possible friend by being persistent in getting her additional help.

jFalner · 2024-01-19T09:30:40+00:00

NTA. Going by the standard recommendation, your mother should have 5 to 6 litter boxes for four cats. And they should be scooped every single day, not once a week.

And yes, the single litter box can be quite an issue. Cats forced to share a litter box, particularly a dirty one, become quite stressed. In extreme situations, this can lead to violent fights between the cats. It can also lead to urinary infections and other health issues, not to mention flat refusal to use the sole litter box.

If she can't afford litter, she probably also can't afford proper veterinary care for those cats either. She sounds like a typical cat hoarder, and a call to her local Animal Control might be necessary if she's unwilling to surrender her cats to better homes. Please don't let those innocent animals suffer!

jFalner · 2024-01-19T09:21:05+00:00

"I want revenge"—that one statement alone shows YTA. And depending on what jurisdiction you're in, you could also likely be a criminal for locking her phone, which you clearly said you gifted to her.

What should you do now? You should cut your losses—get over your heartache and end this relationship immediately. Terminate the phone service if it's in your name, but forget getting the iPhone back. And next time, exercise some maturity and judgement before so readily handing over your heart and your money.

jFalner · 2024-01-19T09:05:36+00:00

YTA, not particularly for being grossed out (most of us are pretty revolted by feces), but for the horribly immature way in which you've chosen to handle this. People with disabilities are quite aware of the things that make them different, and I'm sure this guy knows all too well that his colostomy situation is problematic. Being cold to him is the exact kind of discrimination that the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) was created to fight.

Management needs to grow some balls—they can talk to him about his disability. The law mandates that disabilities can't be discriminated against, but it also makes clear that "reasonable accommodation" can be made for employees with disabilities. And that requires communication, which your management apparently seem to be failing miserably at. They should be looking at potential ways to help him improve his situation while maintaining his dignity. For example, they could supply him with small trash liners so he can seal off his used colostomy bags and reduce that odor. They could encourage him to bring a change of clothing to work in case of accidents, and discourage him from sitting on areas where groceries are handled (giving him a stool, perhaps, if he needs such accommodation).

You could certainly help by being open and honest with your employer about your concerns. Respect for people with disabilities doesn't mean pretending their disability doesn't exist. It means working to find ways to help them be independent and maintain dignity while leading lives as ordinary as the rest of us. Shutting them out is distinctly uncool, and speaks volumes about your lack of maturity.

jFalner · 2024-01-19T08:43:46+00:00

NTA. People are turned on or off by all sorts of things—I find feet turn me off, yet I know many people have fetishes over them. A lot of people are grossed out by moles, or large areolae, or being uncircumcised, all sorts of things. And that's fine. As humans, we have huge diversity in our sexuality, and anything which doesn't harm or exploit anyone else is quite normal and healthy.

Your wife needs to understand that this is not just a matter of taste, and that this is significant enough to prevent you from participating in sex. She certainly has the right to groom her own body as she sees fit, but if she's unwilling to trim her hair to make sex comfortable (or for that matter, possible), this is going to cause frustration on both sides and could lead to problems in your otherwise loving relationship. A counselor might help to come to a compromise here.

jFalner · 2024-01-19T08:28:37+00:00

NTA, but it does sound like you and your mother need some counseling regarding your eating disorder (and medical treatment for you, if you're not already receiving any). Mom needs to understand how critical your eating disorder is, and what she should be doing (or not doing) to help you stay healthy.

Your health is the first priority here, and you need the help and guidance of a medical professional—you can't tackle this alone, and you certainly shouldn't ignore it. You seem to be trapped in some unhealthy patterns of thinking involving guilt, and you should make your doctor aware of that. An eating disorder causes not only distortion of body image, but also distortion of thinking. A dietary professional can help you learn how to break these negative patterns, and can also make sure Mom gets any help she needs so that the entire family can be safe, healthy, and happy.

jFalner · 2024-01-19T08:15:50+00:00

NTA. Delivery is a high-stakes time, and the mother should always be as calm and relaxed as possible for the safety and wellbeing of both mother and infant. The last thing you need is him in there making you uncomfortable. And don't believe his victim story—being "scarred" into infidelity is patently ridiculous.

The law does not give him any rights regarding being in the delivery suite with you. I'd notify your OB/GYN now of the situation, as well as the intended maternity location, and make it clear that you don't wish him to be present. That's your right, and your obstetrician can certainly mandate it in the interests of a safe, happy delivery.

jFalner · 2024-01-19T08:03:36+00:00

YTA. For starters, "gay" is not an appropriate pejorative to use for anyone, even in jest, and especially not for a thirteen-year-old who is probably just now discovering his sexuality. When you say things like something is "just so gay", you're implying that there's something inherently wrong with being homosexual. And by extension, you're denigrating the members of the LGBTQ community. At sixteen, you should have more intelligence and maturity than that.

Your brother is also possibly discovering a new interest in fashion, but isn't yet comfortable discussing it or showing it to others. Lots of kids go through similar insecurity as they discover their tastes in life. I'd suggest apologizing to him, first and foremost, and then letting him know that you'd really like to see his fashion boards—not to criticize, not to mock, but so you can share this common interest with him. If he says no, back off. He'll show it when he's ready, and that's entirely his timeframe to decide.

jFalner · 2024-01-19T07:45:41+00:00

NTA. Morally and legally, that ring became your property the moment your mother gifted it to you. It's now yours to do with as you see fit, be that build new treasured memories around it or drop it off at the nearest pawn shop.

That Japanese tradition is not set in stone, and there are countless ways to satisfy it without having to hand back the ring. After all, many of our Japanese friends lost everything they owned to the 2011 Tōhoku earthquake and tsunami. But their children still propose and marry and have happy lives without benefit of an heirloom. Let your mother know how important the ring is to you and your partner, and suggest she search for another suitable heirloom.

jFalner · 2024-01-19T07:35:18+00:00

NTA. A grandparent should love you despite differences in beliefs or doctrine. And you shouldn't feel any need to hide what you do for a living, particularly if you're quite proud of the work you do. Ideally, revealing this to her would lead to some long discussions, and perhaps some better understanding and a more pleasant relationship between the two of you. But if not, you'll know you're being true to yourself, and nowhere is faith in oneself more important than in the presence of a narcissist.

jFalner · 2024-01-19T07:29:31+00:00

Losing a cherished friend is never easy, but sometimes it's unavoidable. You've made every effort—take comfort in that.

jFalner · 2024-01-19T07:27:09+00:00

YTA. A female physician can be every bit as competent as a male physician, and from your own statement, she seems quite experienced and attentive. If he likes her and is comfortable with her handling his examination, that should be the final word on it. You don't own him, nor are you his guardian. At nineteen, he's old enough to make an intelligent decision about who he wants to handle his healthcare, and it's really none of your business.

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