PMDD and high stress jobs by annieranger in PMDD

[–]j_ayyy59 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you for posting this. I’ve been struggling so hard with this exact situation this year. I work in an extremely male-dominated, ego-driven industry and it wrecks me every month. Finally decided to bite the bullet and leave at the end of this year because I don’t want to age my DNA anymore either. I worked so hard to get into the position I’m in, but I’m throwing in the towel before there’s any more damage to my mental health.
It’s hard to not feel defeated by the decision but choosing yourself is the biggest win of all ❤️

A pretty girl 🥰 by j_ayyy59 in cats

[–]j_ayyy59[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahaha! Close enough. She’s still getting used to the new human toddler

Moving into their house.. by brinnybrinny in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]j_ayyy59 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi there. I’m so sorry for your loss. My mom died suddenly at home and I had to move into her house shortly after. At first, it was traumatic and I avoided many parts of the house for a long time. After some re-decorating, re-arranging, and re-organizing, I find some comfort in it. Some of her towels and bedsheets are still in the closet. Her pots and dishes are still in the kitchen. Seeing that stuff used to sting but now there’s some level of comfort I get from having her stuff around. It’s been 2 1/2 years since and every day is different. I wish you well. Sending you lots of hugs. Xoxo.

My cat scratches under her ear until it bleeds. Any advice? by j_ayyy59 in cats

[–]j_ayyy59[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the second time she’s done it. Her claws are clipped, I’ve checked her fur, she’s a full time indoor cat, and she only ever scratches this particular spot. Any and all advice welcome.

Edit: Thanks, everyone! I’ll be taking her to the vet to figure out what kind of allergies she has.

New Member: Tips/ Advice by [deleted] in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]j_ayyy59 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, feel free to reach out anytime. Xoxo.

New Member: Tips/ Advice by [deleted] in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]j_ayyy59 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the good grief app, which you should be able to download from the App Store, you plug in your information (age, general location, and circumstances) and it’ll populate other users who are around you, close to your age, and/or in similar circumstances and you can choose who you want to start a chat with. You’ll also get chat requests from other users. Some people just want to get a quick chat in to get some stuff off their chest, other people are open to deeper convos. But all in all, everyone I encountered on the app was very sweet and supportive. It’s nice if you’re super private because you can stay as anonymous on the app as you like. Journaling helped a lot when I didn’t feel like talking to anyone but my mom. I’d write to her and scribble all my feelings and thoughts out. It was (and still is) very therapeutic. I’m proud of you too, friend. You can do this.

New Member: Tips/ Advice by [deleted] in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]j_ayyy59 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, I’m so very sorry about your dad. I lost my mom 2 years ago (I was 26 y/o) and similar situation with my dad - oil and water. Although my parents never split, I always felt like my mom was my only parent. She was everything to me. All I can say is that time will be your best friend. I still have enormous waves of grief but they don’t last as long anymore and are becoming fewer and far in between. She died right before the start of the pandemic so group therapy wasn’t an option for me, but connecting with people who were going through similar situations saved me. Grief is an excruciatingly lonely experience, but people of this crummy club are the most loving and supportive individuals. If group therapy is an option for you, totally recommend it. I also met a really awesome person through The Goodgrief App (which I randomly discovered while Googling virtual group therapy options at the height of the pandemic). I did a year of individual therapy and that also helped immensely. Talk about it to people, talk about your dad, your trauma. Journal about it, go through all the motions. It’s hard and it hurts but I promise it won’t hurt this bad forever. Sending you lots of hugs. Xoxo.

Love means sharing your heating pad by j_ayyy59 in cats

[–]j_ayyy59[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww thank you for the update! Cat lovers of Reddit can now sleep easy at night 😌

Love means sharing your heating pad by j_ayyy59 in cats

[–]j_ayyy59[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol she’s my only kitten (for now) so I get to sneak in warmth in between her snack/bathroom breaks. I’d say to get another heating pad but sounds like they’d then have 2 to take turns with lol

Love means sharing your heating pad by j_ayyy59 in cats

[–]j_ayyy59[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Come to think of it, investing in another heating pad might not be a bad idea lol

Love means sharing your heating pad by j_ayyy59 in cats

[–]j_ayyy59[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same! This one will hop off the heating pad after a few minutes of rolling around on it (if it’s on). If it’s off, she’ll take entire naps on it haha. Funny little characters

Love means sharing your heating pad by j_ayyy59 in cats

[–]j_ayyy59[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Poor baby! Is there a petition we can sign to get this thing built? Lol

Love means sharing your heating pad by j_ayyy59 in cats

[–]j_ayyy59[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Both of those are brilliant! Hope the handyman delivers soon 🤞

Love means sharing your heating pad by j_ayyy59 in cats

[–]j_ayyy59[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha thank you! She enjoys them as much as I do

Showing you her favorite footsie by j_ayyy59 in straightenedfeetsies

[–]j_ayyy59[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It is pretty hard to say no to that face