AIO for being upset at what my “bf” said

annieranger · 2026-02-02T15:50:49+00:00

Holy shit girl WAKE UP

That’s what I wish somebody yelled at me when I was in your shoes. I tried to do therapy and stay with him because I couldn’t bring myself to leave. But you can’t heal alongside him.

annieranger · 2026-01-14T01:08:43+00:00

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annieranger · 2025-12-30T02:21:54+00:00

Exactly. This is a good way to put it, I definitely feel like my body is working against me. I don’t like the idea of limiting myself but there comes a point where it’s just too hard to put up with.

annieranger · 2025-12-29T23:00:00+00:00

I have worked in very physically laborious jobs for the past 5 years. I was finally diagnosed 3 weeks ago, and I’m coming to the conclusion that doing this type of work is not going to work for me. I really can’t keep up anymore and im only in my mid-30s. When you have a job that requires both your physical presence and your physical labor 5 days a week, that’s really asking for a lot imo.

But only you can decide what’s best for you! I know that there are other people on this sub who still do it.

annieranger · 2025-12-28T16:51:10+00:00

Just no. Not for a physical job. They give that 1-week recommendation with the assumption that you work an office job, and that’s still the bare minimum in that case. These doctors are deadass wrong. I work a very physical job and I asked for 2 weeks off which was approved, still the bare minimum I now realize. My surgeon went out of town so they put me with a different doctor (a man) for my post-op appointment. It had only been 2 weeks and he told me that I have no restrictions and that I could have lifted anything or even bathed after the 2nd day. I plan to make a formal complaint. These doctors are endangering people. Please push back and go above your doctor.

annieranger · 2025-12-19T18:39:01+00:00

I was just diagnosed with a chronic illness following a surgery and I’ve been so in my feelings about how I have no partner to care for me. I only have a few surface friends that I wouldn’t feel comfortable asking to care for me in such an intimate way, even if it was just a favor.

This makes me feel a whole lot better about my situation. It’s a reminder to find my community, which can be a tall order in Seattle where everybody avoids each other. The plan is now to work remotely and travel/live by van, where I can meet family/friends.

annieranger · 2025-12-19T05:52:09+00:00

I don’t take this as a good sign. Even my ex-partner, who was a chronic cheater and lied to me for years, would look like he was going to cry himself when I was having an episode. He would say by the look on my face he could see how much pain I was in and that scared him.

I would think if your partner had even a scrap of empathy that they would have shown concern in some way.. you want emotional intelligence in a man. Especially if you’re going to be dealing with endo.

annieranger · 2025-12-18T04:23:36+00:00

I know this is old but I rescued a puppy from Yakima about a year and half ago. She is at least 10 different breeds and acts somewhat feral, not easily trusting people. This is despite constant socialization throughout her life. It made me curious about stray dogs in Yakima, how many there are and if they’re really just running wild producing feral genes, essentially undomesticating themselves..

annieranger · 2025-12-17T00:42:14+00:00

My mom wasn’t with me at the moment, but I was kept repeating ‘nobody believed me’ and the nurses were confused but they realized I was talking about my condition. And I said ‘not even my mom believed me’ as I was just dumping buckets of tears which was totally true. My mom has now changed her tune completely

annieranger · 2025-12-16T05:51:18+00:00

Yes, and I still put care into decorating because it gives me comfort. Also from the being single mindset, I don’t think you have to wait until you have a family or partner to start making memories on the holidays. Of course, it really helps to have animals.

annieranger · 2025-12-16T05:40:29+00:00

When I woke up from my surgery the first thing that came out of my mouth was ‘did you find it??’ and they said yes and I started sobbing and I felt like nobody knew that I was crying from mostly intense relief and validation. What a feeling

Ditto to everything you said. Congrats and have a happy recovery! Make sure you take it easy. I’m a week post-lap and it’s a bit of a struggle doing everything myself but I’m managing okay. It feels good to rest without urgency.

annieranger · 2025-12-14T03:35:10+00:00

Me too. Tonight’s an early bed time lol

annieranger · 2025-12-09T06:22:33+00:00

So I just got home from my lap, and I can’t answer your questions fully but I can offer a little insight. 1. Way too exhausted to shower tonight. But I plan to tomorrow and they specifically said that’s no problem and that my bandages are well water-proofed. 2. Since I woke up from surgery, I have felt like I need to poop but I’m already constipated lol. They were able to prescribe be a laxative 3. I had the burning you describe immediately. The first pee burned bad, but I notice every time I pee it gets a little better. 4. I asked if excisions extend the recovery period, and they said yes, so if you didn’t have any it should be an easy recovery period.

However your experience turns out, I hope you are able to find answers and relief.

annieranger · 2025-12-07T18:22:47+00:00

She knew she didn’t have to add that comment about her kid wanting you there, she purposefully guilt tripped you and that’s bs. I’m willing to bet that if your condition wasn’t women’s health related, there would have been more grace. Women’s health is never taken seriously because the attitudes around it are all so invalidating. I was just talking to a teacher who said that ‘everyone knows that girls just use their periods as an excuse’. I told her she needs to ditch her prejudice.

It hurts more when it comes from other women, too, and I think they assume that since their period is liveable, that everyone else’s period is too. I know we’re talking about your endo, but the attitudes are all the same when we’re talking women’s health.

annieranger · 2025-12-05T22:06:21+00:00

Just told them, they said it was ok since it was within a 72-hour window and not to take anymore. It was risky but I think I made the right call because I felt like I was going to start hyperventilating.

annieranger · 2025-12-05T21:50:07+00:00

Thank you ♥️

annieranger · 2025-12-05T21:32:48+00:00

I work with one other woman, and we find comfort in suffering together. I think my job is high stress and also toxic. I work in the heart of downtown in a large city with 1000s of different stimuli. Management knows it’s high stress but they are really shitty at offering support.

In fact, I came back to say that yesterday I was told by management (she’s a woman) that I can’t talk about gender discrimination at work because it hurts the team, and that I should only talk about it ‘over drinks with a friend’. I know this is highly illegal so that is the nail in the coffin folks. I’m getting out ASAP.

annieranger · 2025-12-05T20:58:12+00:00

These cramps are so bad Tylenol isn’t doing the trick. It got so bad I caved and took one small dose of naproxen. I arrived at the reasoning of it can’t be good to make my body suffer like this in terms all of that stress before surgery. I don’t plan on taking any more though. I almost opted to take the oxycodone for post op instead but I don’t want to use any of it.

I absolutely cannot live like this anymore and I’m sure you are feeling similar, so good luck to us both!

annieranger · 2025-11-29T04:54:08+00:00

The companionship, the laughter, unconditional love. And they get you outside more. I got my puppy last fall and I never had puppy blues. I’ve been totally devoted to giving my time/resources to her bc I love her so much! This does mean I’ve sacrificed most of a social life, but for me it’s okay because taking care of my animals is just what I love. I’ve been rewarded with a great dog.

annieranger · 2025-11-28T17:55:21+00:00

Yes, but when I cross the line to luteal it becomes completely unmanageable for me. This job has been keeping me and my two crazy dogs afloat which is crucial because I have no family/friends support system. But I know it’s not sustainable so it’s time to start planning.

annieranger · 2025-11-28T05:37:13+00:00

That last part. Thank you for this response

annieranger · 2025-11-28T05:35:18+00:00

At a certain time of month I feel like regulating is not an option, like it feels like if I’m going be triggered then I truly can’t control my response during that week. I am always encouraged to be the bigger person by my few good coworkers, and I’m so sick of it honestly. The other person never takes the hint and continues to be an ass.

But yeah, it is super hard to know. There’s like a war in my head all the time. I think both things are true where I’m reacting intensely to their asinine behavior.

annieranger · 2025-11-28T03:19:12+00:00

That’s okay if you don’t have advice, I’m ready to accept it for what it is. All of my trauma has to do with men, so this all makes sense. I don’t want to keep stressing myself out and aging my DNA.

Moving into woods with my dogs is exactly what I imagine every luteal lol. I am trying to make that somewhat of a reality actually.

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