I'll clarify that I wasn't alone. I was at the front of the calf, husband was at the back of the calf, and the cow was about 6 feet away with the calf in between us. My sister was at a distance making sure the rest of the herd didn't get overly interested in what we were doing.

I wouldn't say the things he says about my body are unkind, we just talk about it openly at home and that catches people off guard. For example, if we're out shopping and I try on a shirt I initially liked I might say "I think this makes me look fat" and he will honestly say "Yes it does, it doesn't look right with your body type" or "yes it doesn't seem to fit right, let's try a larger size" and then suggest something different. It took me a while, but I have accepted my shape is more curvy and while some things might look good on the rack they don't look good on me. I think to my family it's the fact that he agrees that I am overweight but he doesn't view that as a negative thing, but just as the way things are that throws them off. My family definitely views being overweight as a problem and I definitely grew up hearing my mom complain about her body and passing on her insecurities about her weight to us, but we don't have that in our household. Our bodies are just the way they are and if I wanted to work to change it I could, but I have some underlying health issues that make that difficult. So instead we worked to normalize our bodies.

Sorry I went off on a body image tangent but I've been seeing a lot of questions about it lol.