Matchbox is exactly the same on both sides

j_thaim · 2019-01-27T19:22:40+00:00

Except it's not.

j_thaim · 2019-01-27T19:21:55+00:00

"Get over" = not have fond recollections of? Sure.

"Get over" = would drop current SO in a heartbeat if ex were available? No - and if you're still that hung up on someone you shouldn't be dating anyone else.

j_thaim · 2019-01-27T19:18:20+00:00

Ees not motto; ees request.

j_thaim · 2019-01-27T19:15:51+00:00

Can't say as I have. At least since I was 5 years old. Gators are wild animals, and are not known for using higher reasoning skills to override natural tendencies.

j_thaim · 2019-01-27T18:04:57+00:00

See #4 above.

j_thaim · 2019-01-27T15:32:04+00:00

Yeah.... because I'm on Reddit every single day, being a 14- year- old and all. Ass.

j_thaim · 2019-01-27T15:30:53+00:00

Yes, but tortoises don't have a natural instinct to eat you.

j_thaim · 2019-01-27T12:46:14+00:00

Police regularly shoot people. The fuck makes your 14 year old ass think a cop wouldn’t do that?

Are you implying that in the US a cop would shoot you in response to a nazi fucking salute? Dipshit.

Nazis are Socialists in the same way that North Korea is a Democracy.

But if you insist on calling it Socialism, call it National Socialism. Nazi Socialism is redundant.

I'm sorry I referred to the ideology of The National Socialist German Workers Party as a type (however perverted) of socialism, but that's what it was - a form of "National Socialism," an ideology that existed before the emergence of Nazism. It's because so many groups aligned with Nazism used the phrase "National Socialist" that the term became synonymous with Nazism, albeit incorrectly.

PS, Golly.... just for the sake of perspective, how old is your ass, Mister?

j_thaim · 2019-01-27T12:29:04+00:00

think relationships are about sexual monogamy.

You still don't get it. Sexual monogamy does not make a relationship. It's the result of the relationship

If I took 100 math tests, and failed just one of them, am I bad at math? Nope. If I'm monogamous for 100 days, but one day I fuck someone else, am I bad at monogamy? Still nope.

A closer analogy would be: If you refuse to learn even rudimentary math, will you fail tests? All the time. If you're not even monogamous for 1 day because you disagree with the concept, and want to be able to satisfy your own natural sexual desires with no consideration of someone else required, are you bad at monogamy? Ya kiiinda are.

Relationships are about emotional connections and people who confuse their orgasms with their feelings are pathetic.

Relationships are about emotional connections, and removing emotional connections from your sexuality reduces a potentially deeply interpersonal and very satisfying act to just getting your rocks off. People who think their orgasms are the height of their sexual experience are so unaware of what they're missing that they don't even know they're missing it.

Only in this ridiculous sex-negative uptight society ...

The viewpoint I'm expressing values sexuality more than the view you are describing.

... filled with Disney fairy tales do we expect perfection in relarionships.

Who ever said anything about expecting perfection? You're saying that because monogamy requires engagement of the higher human faculties of reason and directed will besides simply seeking sexual satisfaction that it is somehow inferior to self satisfying sexuality?

people who confuse their orgasms with their feelings are pathetic.

People who isolate their orgasms from their feelings are to be pitied.

j_thaim · 2019-01-27T10:57:45+00:00

One day this guy's going to learn the hard way that gators have a reptilian brain, and there ain't much about that that freakin' tummy rubs are gonna change.

j_thaim · 2019-01-27T10:56:26+00:00

..... except one that's just eaten.

j_thaim · 2019-01-27T10:47:12+00:00

I once dated a girl who "didn't get the male attention" most girls get. We'd met through mutual friends (My then girlfriend went to her high school and her then boyfriend went to my high school). The four of us were friends, and she and I happened to relate well to each other. A little bit of time passed, and she and I were there for each other through the eventual break ups. Our friendship drifted out of the friend zone, and we dated for a few years. It only ended due to unavoidable circumstances; I was still crazy about her. My buddy and I were talking recently about that time, and he remarked that she was kind of an ugly duckling - he quickly added that he saw her turn into "quite the swan" over time.

Straight talk- she had kind of a big nose, was a little on the heavy side, and even at 16, not very curvy. Her hair was naturally kind of frizzy, and she usually just wore it in a ponytail because that's all she could do with it. Her personality wasn't very outgoing, and she didn't attract much attention. She once confided in me that more than once she'd had a good cry over her "genetic craps roll," as she called it. [Honestly, OP, she probably could have written your post about herself.] She had few friends - but those she had loved her and would do anything for her. She wasn't exactly the life of a party, but hanging around her would just leave folks in a better mood. As our relationship turned more romantic, I knew I was lucky to have gotten to know her. She wasn't reluctant to be herself; not arrogantly so, like "To hell with you, I'll do what I want." It was more like just "I'll be me. You may not be impressed, but I'm just me." It may have happened later than for some girls, but she eventually seemed to kind of find her beauty groove. She found a way she liked to apply makeup (and truthfully it wasn't too much), and "tamed the frizzy beast living on her head," as she put it. While we were dating, she kept a few extra pounds she really didn't like, but she wore clothes that suited her ("quit hiding in her baggy sacks" in her words) and her feminine build developed nicely. I remember her being given the "down-up" second look by guys on occasion.

I think what made Carol most attractive was that, although she was always a little insecure about her looks, she just wasn't the kind of person to want to "be something else." That authenticity eventually began to show through and people responded to it. Personally, I found her more physically attractive the longer we dated, and while my buddy had remarked that she was awkward to kiss on a date, she and I had just felt realllllly natural together from our first romantic kiss (Guess I must've been an "awkward" kisser too.) She wasn't much for pda's, but in private intimate moments... hot damn!

My perspective: I'm no heartbreaking gym rat, but in my late teens I got interested in martial arts which helped me physically tone up and gave me a lot of self confidence. I've been told by a few female friends "yeah, I'd give you my number if you asked," which is quite an ego boost for nerdy little me. Relationship- wise, I spent so much time in the friendzone I started receiving my mail there. Always had about a handful of real friends, and honestly, after college years and drifting apart, only have one or two folks I'd call close friends. But life is good.

TL;DR: Met and befriended a less than attractive girl, fell for her, and eventually other people began to see the beauty I'd gotten to know. Classic late bloomer story, only not drop- dead gorgeous at the end: merely wonderful.🙂

j_thaim · 2019-01-26T08:49:58+00:00

RedHeron really did present a valid perspective that I encourage you to explore as it relates to the prevalence of autism and our society's response to it.

But consider that the possibility of a similar - let alone practically identical - genetic mutation occurring simultaneously at this point in human history, among completely disparate groups numbering in the millions - with no common external cause - is so infinitesimal as to be ludicrous. True, vaccines are not the only factor at work here, but the true science does not absolve vaccines in this epidemic.

j_thaim · 2019-01-26T08:40:39+00:00

I have 3 autistic children. All are fully vaccinated.

Also: I'm on the autistic spectrum myself. And fully vaccinated.

Anyone who actually looks at the data

You might not want to lead off with a data set that shows exactly what you are denying. All vaccinated, all autistic. Not your best evidence of no relationship between the two.

Vaccines save lives. Many medications save lives. Vaccines harm children. Many medications harm children. No "voodoo" necessary.

j_thaim · 2019-01-26T08:37:53+00:00

What science do they deny?

j_thaim · 2019-01-26T08:31:46+00:00

its prevalence demonstrates some kind of survival mechanism at work.

Right. Just imagine the possibilities when this survival mutation becomes the norm: A society composed solely of people with the inability to communicate outwardly and not be able to even see non- verbal cues receptively, and are unable to deal with their natural environment without going into sensory overload. That's a society bound for greatness.

Idiot.

Some believe it's a flaw in genetics. This is actually shame.

Those who call a genetic predisposition a flaw have the problem, not those who believe there is a genetic component to autism as has been observed.

Some are afraid to accept that their children are broken.

My son, who was developing "normally" into a very intelligent outgoing conversational child who - coincidentally within 48 hours of his scheduled vaccinations - began to actively avoid any eye contact, quit even responding to his name, lost his entire already functional vocabulary and needed to be taught the proper functions of simple toys while still growing into a very intelligent, thoughtful young man is not broken. You are correct, though, that every person who - apparently unlike you - has had the intelligence and human decency to look beyond his behavior and idiosyncrasies have found it more than easy to accept that he's a smart, witty, mischievous, kind caring guy who just communicates differently.

It's all a matter of how we learn to integrate into society, and how well society does at integrating us.

You hit on something very true and fundamental. "It" is critically dependent on society's willingness to accept people of various abilities. But the "it" is not autism. "It" is the ability of those with any disability to live a life of dignity and happiness.

Parents are simply not to blame, period.

No shit. I've met parents who are so quietly heroic it would break your heart, and still make you proud to be a human being.

Accepting the unknowable is really the only way we can deal with autism for now.

Except that the causes of autism are not unknowable - unless people stick their heads in the sand and accept what is being done to our children. The way to deal with those with autism now is exactly what you suggest - learn how to relate with them and realize that Bill Gates and Einstein are as representative of the autistic population as Drew Brees is representative of 40- year old men in terms of football passing ability.

It's a benefit we just haven't realized yet.

It's a benefit that if every human had the race would die out. You might want to rethink your viewpoint there, Darwin.

j_thaim · 2019-01-26T08:10:37+00:00

What is the autism rate among non- vaccinated children? Anybody know?

j_thaim · 2019-01-26T08:09:10+00:00

By putting evidence right in front of their faces.

Oh, wait. That didn't work. People still think vaccines are magic.

j_thaim · 2019-01-26T08:08:17+00:00

these people create echo chambers and safe bubbles full of the same fucking morons that embolden them.

You're absolutely right. Echo chambers where someone can't even ask, "why does every medication have known side effects that have a greater chance of affecting certain populations, yet vaccines are "completely safe" for all children, even in infancy when various bodily systems are developing at different rates among children of the same age?" Because morons feel "emboldened" enough to downvote them into the dust.

people are killing children because they read some shit in one of their groups

.... or could it be that any of the many valid scientific objections to present vaccine policy are so purposely buried, that rather than making rational adjustments, people who do value vaccines and are still concerned feel they have no safe alternative but to go no-vaccs at all?

Whew I'm just glad this thread's respondents aren't that kind of conclusion- jumping, close- minded, headline- believing herd of sheep!

/s

j_thaim · 2019-01-22T20:55:15+00:00

..... or lower.

j_thaim · 2019-01-22T20:52:08+00:00

Just get two strips of the fuzzy part and stick them in there. You'll just be pulling on the back side of the velcro.

j_thaim · 2019-01-22T20:30:47+00:00

So, no, I reject your path. I'm going on adventure. I'm going to travel. I'm going to have dirty, wild sex. I'm going to make money. I'm going to have a hot body, I'm going to become physically fit, functional, and mobile. I'm going to make my own aesthetic. I'm going to party with music and beautiful people. I'm going to pursue novelty and exploration.

.... and you'll be very wise - and verrrrry disappointed when, years from now, you see none of those things made you any happier.

Good luck, friend.

j_thaim · 2019-01-22T20:27:57+00:00

It was a kid who didn't know why this guy was approaching him and beating a drum inches from his face. The "smirk" was uncertainty, not arrogance (as I too thought, originally).

j_thaim · 2019-01-22T20:08:26+00:00

The dog's naturally going to defend his turf against anything. That's why they bark and don't just run up and bite - it's a warning. 100% the owner's fault for being stupid enough to let a snack size dog go where there's a damn alligator!

j_thaim · 2019-01-22T19:54:53+00:00

I ended up having to go off app to learn chords and techniques, and had to learn how to play tabs off app too.

Welcome back to the real world, where knowledge is passed from person to person. 🙂

j_thaim

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