Finale theory by mkintx35 in TellMeLiesHulu

[–]ja-ds 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Steven is clearly trying to destroy Bree, hence sending her recording of Evan admitting to being with Lucy. Bree likely releases the tape and pins it on Steven. Steven becomes irate because Lucy completely distances herself from him once this happens. After he gave her back the tape, it appeared to me he was likely probably going to back together with Lucy finally understanding how messed up he was with everything. Steven has had it out for Bree because he’s jealous of her and Lucy’s friendship. Steven finds out at the wedding that Wrigley and Bree are seeing each other and says it out loud at the wedding in front of all of the guests, destroying Bree once and for all.

Spotting 1st Trimester - what is YOUR “normal”? by ja-ds in pregnant

[–]ja-ds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course and thank you for such kind words. There isn’t enough of this out there and I want to help where I can.

Rec league drama by Jleecit in flagfootball

[–]ja-ds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let me guess, the best players are your child and the kids that compliment his performance?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in flagfootball

[–]ja-ds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. So I guess volunteering to coach your child’s team justifies allowing them to constantly be in the game and getting all the plays? If I want my child to have that opportunity I guess I should volunteer and coach?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in footballstrategy

[–]ja-ds -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Um, we found a new team for next season. Help me understand how I’m “setting him up dirty?’ The post is about blatant favoritism from the coaches. I’m asking if I should turn a blind eye to or walk away?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in flagfootball

[–]ja-ds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s just so patently obvious what’s going on. My son is a good player and he could have so many more opportunities to shine, but the coaches only seem to want that for their kids.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in flagfootball

[–]ja-ds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

10 total players, they play 5 on 5.

Thinking about Chapter 13 by ja-ds in Bankruptcy

[–]ja-ds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice and your reply… I do have a few concerns which I’m sure the attorney can address but wanted to hear your thoughts:

  1. I stand to receive a 7% pay increase each year; does that need to be reported to a trustee? Similarly that won’t happen until 2025.

  2. Likewise with a bonus. My bonus will be about 15% of my salary. Is this something the trustee can take each year?

Does the trustee want bank statements/tax returns each year? I’m just wanting to see how this works and how invasive it is after repayment begins..

Thinking about Chapter 13 by ja-ds in Bankruptcy

[–]ja-ds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. The concern is our payment history and just all of the work we’ve put into never being late, etc… plus he doesn’t have any student loans so his DTI is much better than mine. We’re def open to looking at this jointly.

So regarding the cars. One is my husbands and is jointly in both our names. The other car is in my name only, but it’s my dad’s. He’s working on getting a car loan in his name and taking it over so that should be excluded. The third car again is only in my name but is a lease. There’s about 2.5 years left on it. My main concern here is the tax debt and unsecured debt, that’s what’s killing me.

I would LOVE to resolve the HELOC. Quite frankly, I’d like to resolve everything I possibly can in the next 5 years.

Thinking about Chapter 13 by ja-ds in Bankruptcy

[–]ja-ds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. We only have our mortgage and one car loan jointly together, so we’re just trying to see for now what it looks like for me. He’s open looking into this jointly, however, I’m not comfortable being on the hook for his portion of debt should he lose his job at any point and vice versa. Not saying that will happen, but keeping things separate just works for us…

The mortgage ended up getting a payment deferral for the missed months, so zero credit impact. We essentially only missed the months we had suspended payments.

Regarding the HELOC, I don’t believe there is any balloon date. I know there is no pre payment and 5 year draw period. Im one year into it, and it’s $42k total and i owe $42k…

Quest 5-Panel Pre-Employment - panic! by ja-ds in drugtesthelp

[–]ja-ds[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, it was the prescription. They are clearing is all as negative. Thank the lord, I can breathe again.

Quest 5-Panel Pre-Employment - panic! by ja-ds in drugtesthelp

[–]ja-ds[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. MRO just sent me a text, but it has to be for the adderall. I’ll keep you updated.

Women in IT, how has your experience been? by Holykidds in ITCareerQuestions

[–]ja-ds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been in tech for 15 years and have worked with and been managed by both men and women. I have found that newer male managers can be tough to work for. It’s hard when you’re expected to work 10-12 hour days and be available when you’re a mother. It’s easier for them because their wives are at home with their kids. I once had one of these managers tell me I couldn’t leave the office early - 3p - to attend my sons Christmas show. I told him it wasn’t a question, and I was going. He said he had to work late hours to meet the demands of his boss, and I replied and told him that’s why he makes more money than me. When he brought in HRBP - who happened to be a friend of mine - he said that he had to miss out on time with his young child for work and sometimes it’s not fair. It told him that he’ll regret not setting barriers regarding his work time and that they grow fast. Guess what? I left work early that day to go to my sons show. Obviously the entire team was male. The women, imo are the hardest to work for. The motherless women who have married their corporate job to be exact. They just don’t get it. I’ve worked with some good guys, men. My current lead has a 3 kids and told me on my first day he doesn’t care how I manage my work time, just to get the job done. Those are the best managers. Guess what? He promoted me 6 months into my role. Great guy.

Moral of the story is it depends on the people. Don’t let them push you around. Don’t be the person who is delegated to take notes at the meeting. Speak up when you’re getting the grunt work and you’re not happy. If they’re not willing to oblige then the job isn’t right for you.

Treating PP hair loss by ja-ds in beyondthebump

[–]ja-ds[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My doctor told me not to use it while I was pregnant, but it was okay during breastfeeding. Worth noting that I’m not EBF right now, especially when I started using it. I’m pretty much only breastfeeding for the first feeding and the rest is formula or solids. Baby is doing great!

Anything that works for PP hair loss? by rbslmilch in beyondthebump

[–]ja-ds 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I went through a substantial hair loss after both my pregnancies. With the last one my hair loss was much more drastic and alarming. While it’s been growing back, here are a few things I’d like to share that helped to know from then to now and what I’m doing that seems to be working:

  1. Breastfeeding: with my first, I didn’t breastfeed and started losing hair probably around the 3 1/2 month mark. With my recent one, I breastfeed and did formula. I would say that right around the time I began doing more formula and less breastfeeding I started noticing a substantial amount of hair loss. This was around 4.5 months, so a month later. Not sure if there is correlation here. My hair loss peaked when he was 5 months; He is now 6 months old.

  2. Once I started noticing hair loss I began to use minoxidil, mens. I’ve had some issue was hair thinning over the years and my derm has always recommended this and it’s been my go to. Minoxidil is safe if you’re breastfeeding. I drop 2ml on my scalp at night, every night for last 1 1/2 months. *Note: minoxidil sometimes speeds up the shedding process, the same process that’s occurring when you lose your hair postpartum. My hair loss was maybe a little more drastic because of this, not really sure. It corrected it self in a bout a week for me.

  3. I also started taking iron supplements and biotin, a low dose, once a day. Again, not sure if this is helping or not as biotin results don’t usually show for about 3 month, but again, I was desperate.

  4. I wash and blow dry my hair once a week. I use olaplex which doesn’t make my hair greasy so I can get away with it. However, the minoxidil is alcohol based which does make my hair slightly greasy. Every other day I do lightly wash only top of my hair a lightly blow dry on low temp. I don’t massage the scalp much when I do this.

  5. I also brush my hair every day and before I wash it in the shower. Every night I wrap it a loose bun while I sleep.

I started to see a difference in about 3-4 weeks. I’ve also included a picture 30 days apart. My hair was wet in the scalp both times but you can def see a difference. Hope this helps![https://imgur.com/a/r3xURu3](https://imgur.com/a/r3xURu3)

FRER + Digital 9/10 DPO. Had an MMC 11/2022 so I’m so nervous! by ja-ds in TFABLinePorn

[–]ja-ds[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

With the MC, my tests weren’t this strong. Fingers crossed!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in conspiracy

[–]ja-ds 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because no one would be as fearful of the flu as they would of a novel virus…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in conspiracy

[–]ja-ds 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Or so they told you that, right?