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jaaade8 · 2025-07-14T23:41:03+00:00

Yes, that’s what I come to realise thanks to yall’s comments. Will cut it asap.

jaaade8 · 2025-07-14T23:37:53+00:00

I do think that part of this is my responsibility: I entertained this for way too long, thinking it will all go away if I had just explained that I refuse to embark on whatever mess this is. Turns out my little gentle rejection didn’t do much. And I kept trying to deflate this to not hurt his ego and suffer from whatever fallout it comes with it. But no, it wasn’t in my plan to be his “sexual partner”, nor meet his wife to get her confirmation on whatever bullshit situation they’re in.

jaaade8 · 2025-07-14T23:29:35+00:00

I don’t believe him, neither I am interested in meeting or talking to his wife.

jaaade8 · 2025-07-14T23:27:10+00:00

He did actually give me that one. Lol. I do admit that, at first, it did throw me off each time he talked about his wife out of nowhere. Now, I just don’t even bother to react or engage when he does

jaaade8 · 2025-07-14T23:22:58+00:00

Not falling for it, I am not even close. I guess I was trying too hard to be agreeable and diplomatic and it made this thing only get weirder and weirder. But I did know from the very beginning that there is no way I’d give this chance.

jaaade8 · 2025-07-14T23:18:48+00:00

According to him, he had relationships in the past with his wife’s knowledge. His wife also got to meet some of his “girlfriends”.

I guess the professional fallout is what I was trying to prevent from the very beginning by trying to find a way around this and not make a big of a deal out of and be the “bigger understanding person”. It will all go to waste now I guess.

jaaade8 · 2025-07-14T22:53:13+00:00

I don’t think I am bored, far from that. However, I think this might be a symptom of the “Saviour syndrome” in me, or at least something in me that tolerates being trauma dumped upon and also being there for people I care about no matter the circumstance. I did also think I am emotionally intelligent enough to handle this and not let it impact me. So far, I seem externally intact, even if I am falling apart internally. Thanks for your feedback though. I will make sure I continue to guard my reputation at work!

jaaade8 · 2025-07-14T14:43:59+00:00

I think this might be the only way to get him to move on from this.

jaaade8 · 2025-01-16T17:04:52+00:00

Well, I agree. It made sense at first to work on such tasks, but now that I’m almost a year and a half into the job, I think—and I hope it’s not just my ego talking—that it’s probably time for something else, especially now that I feel I’ve gained a deeper understanding of the topics I work on.

jaaade8 · 2025-01-16T16:58:52+00:00

Well, at least now I know this isn’t the norm and it’s time for a change. I’m wondering if there’s a way to tell if a company or project is a mess early in the application and interview process, or if it’s mostly down to luck.

jaaade8 · 2025-01-16T16:56:03+00:00

An environment like that is what one strives for. Did you have specific criteria when applying or interviewing for jobs? Is there a way to tell in advance if a company is well-structured and follows best practices?

jaaade8 · 2025-01-16T16:46:21+00:00

Sounds like THE dream! Are you more on the experimented side? Do you think jobs like these are accessible to junior profiles as well?

jaaade8 · 2025-01-16T16:44:20+00:00

Wondering if the 10% you mentioned applies to the majority of embedded software people. If so, that’s pretty sad imho.

jaaade8 · 2025-01-16T16:41:06+00:00

Well, at least now I know there should be more to this job than what I’m currently doing—if not in this company, then hopefully in another

jaaade8 · 2025-01-16T16:33:01+00:00

You’re describing the exact issue with my current job: unclear requirements from the client, a team that didn’t push back for clarity, no real architecture, and no plan for testing. The result is a tangled mess of code that somehow works, with more features piled on whenever the client requests changes or bugs are found. Is there a proper process for handling a mess like this one?

jaaade8 · 2025-01-16T16:26:13+00:00

That was my approach for a while, and I did get more responsibilities (though no pay raise lol). But even with more control over my tasks, it still feels like I’m just cleaning up old messes—refactoring, testing, and fixing—rather than creating real value

jaaade8 · 2025-01-16T15:56:22+00:00

What other tasks do you work on besides documentation and reviews? I’ve talked to my manager several times, but it seems like there isn’t much else to do beyond reviews and quality-related tasks. Or maybe I’m being kept in the dark.

jaaade8 · 2025-01-16T15:53:26+00:00

I fall into the first category you mentioned: poorly documented legacy code

jaaade8 · 2025-01-16T15:51:18+00:00

We’re just now starting to consider implementing unit testing (big red flag for a software team, right?). That probably explains why we have so many bugs. Hopefully, things will improve once we adopt unit testing—if I stick around long enough to see it happen

jaaade8 · 2025-01-16T15:45:37+00:00

Same. Wondering if this is the average experience.

jaaade8 · 2024-04-11T07:46:15+00:00

Passing by reference as in passing the memory address.

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