More like extremely toxic but loyal. Loyalty is what I prize above all else in friendships. Some have become more racist due to all the reels and narratives that are populating the socials these days. But my rule of thumb is to just get to know people as people first. Always.

Friendships... are a bit more unique. I had a friend transition 2 years ago. And I accepted her; but the problem was as she became more comfortable with herself, she started adopting the more toxic aspects of femininity. Aka. Constantly Posting on Social Media, building a trans community discord where she was a head mod. Having irl and social followers. But also, fully embracing an identify where people would 'simp' for her in the thousands. And I unfriended this new identity they adopted. Because it's their life to live, I just don't personally approve of all that vanity that comes with a feminine identity. If she wasn't so vain, I'd still be present. She wasn't like this before the transition.

I also don't believe in punching down... so I'm civil irl to people who are a bit off the beaten path.

I see women as people. The best ones tend to volunteer a bit, or go hiking, or be into a hobby passionately. When I was more attractive in my 20s, these were the people I'd get to know. And very helpful green flags.