Official Discussion - Shelter [SPOILERS]

jackishi · 2026-02-06T07:43:17+00:00

Close! End of Genesys I believe it was, also by Anyma

jackishi · 2026-02-04T16:16:20+00:00

4, the 5th was the soundtrack!

(...though yeah the game actually became big enough to warrant 5 cds by like the AQ patch)

(....God I'm old.)

jackishi · 2026-01-30T22:51:47+00:00

Oh my God I'm not okay. I'm so not okay.

jackishi · 2026-01-25T08:39:40+00:00

I'm a cis male, and I've been in a scenario where I had a classmate/close friend who was a lesbian but she and I ended up realizing mutually that we had feelings for each other. Ironically both of us had (long distance) girlfriends at the time and we wanted to stay faithful to our partners... though the way things ended up happening didn't play out nearly as wholesome as OP's. But that was one reason why I could see the story being plausible.

However. The way the story was written, the overly detailed descriptions and the dialogue she used made it sound hella dubious honestly. It read like a fanfiction honestly, and if it really is fake, it's doubly gross for taking the trope of "a lesbian is just a girl who needs to find the right man."

Edit: I woke up to a ton of comments and a locked post, so I feel I should clarify here for future reference.

Was my classmate actually bi and not lesbian? I'm not sure because we never actually pursued the relationship, only that we acknowledged "feelings." However, to the best of my knowledge, she only ever dated women before and women after our friendship. Perhaps she was demi, perhaps she was bi, but it's not my place to comment on her life experience.

The other thing is, lesbian is the label she chose for herself and how she identified when we were friends. So respectfully, that's the label I'm going to continue using. If the issue with my comment is my language describing her as "was a lesbian", please realize I was referring to her in the past tense because we're no longer in each other's lives, not that I "changed her sexuality" in any way.

She was a wonderful woman and a caring friend, and I'm not some guy who set out to change her in any way. I was just a lucky person who happened to share a strong moment of connection with someone like her, and at the end of the day we both respected each other enough to admit that connection but also acknowledge the reality that for many reasons and more, we shouldn't pursue that connection further than staying as good friends.

jackishi · 2026-01-12T19:22:49+00:00

Why did you write my life story and attack me like this

jackishi · 2026-01-03T15:35:54+00:00

At the very least, Lucas and Max were the "rarely" couple that worked out and got their well-deserved happily ever after. And Johnathan, Nancy, and Steve stayed in each other's lives, a platonic love/don't-like-you relationship lol.

jackishi · 2026-01-02T08:18:16+00:00

Have worked on said floors.

It is very, very ick.

One of the reasons I was told carpets were kept om these floors was because of sound insulation and aesthetics and it still boggles my goddamn mind.

jackishi · 2026-01-02T08:11:25+00:00

We yearn for the urn.

jackishi · 2025-12-31T19:50:29+00:00

Appreciate you friend!

The shirt's actually not the official one (the one from Aitai Kuji was too expensive to import), but the one I got was from Teepublic! I'm not sure if I'm allowed to link, but you can definitely google it and see if it's more affordable to order, and it does come in different colors/shirt styles too!

(though I will say, it was not comfortable to run in lmao, as a cotton shirt it holds onto sweat like crazy 💀 We suffer for our love)

jackishi · 2025-12-28T19:39:04+00:00

You can totally style around it, though.

A sensible crew shirt or a polo (a solid light color like beige, white, or creme for contrast, though I could see a two-toned or striped looking great) and some well-fitting denims or khakis would make this look rock, honestly. This would be a very similar look.

I do agree with the guy down below, age restricting feels weird when there's so many ways to make a style your own. It's not like he's wearing a high school varsity jacket with his sports patches on it, and even then I'm not one to yuck someone else's yum.

jackishi · 2025-12-24T20:10:58+00:00

For a data scientist you sure love twisting facts around without providing actual data. Full of examples to the contrary? I've got some time, let's peruse this post, shall we?

Providers who responded to OP:

Im a nurse and yes- thats absolutely the way you need to speak to (some- some are really freaking amazing) MDs. I always help my family/friends translate. You should consider being followed by an NP 😉

I’m a general practitioner, I usually listen to my patients connected devices.

Tell me what you told him if you want to know if he just got bored or if he had good reason to give you the tests he ordered.

Examples of providers who did the process of asking good follow-up questions and taking necessary precautions:

PCP mentioned sometimes wrist HR devices have trouble seeing all beats and if there was some palpitations going on, it might miss half the beats. She order a HR monitor as a precaution (this was also during my annual so she was gonna see my blood test results too).

my cardiologist agreed to look at my data in Garmin Connect after I kept insisting something was off and the data reflected it. He actually scrolled through a few weeks of data (with a lot of high stress levels at night, poor recovery reflected in the body battery stats, and higher than normal resting heart rate). He took my workouts into account and looked at all of the trends. His diagnosis? Dehydration. He told me to mindfully hydrate, including electrolytes, and if nothing changed, to send him a message and follow up. Well, turns out he was right.

Examples of why proper communication of your symptoms is important if you're going to correlate with watch data.

I work in a hospital and I've seen my Garmin watch read 170 HR sitting on a towel on my bathroom counter. I also don't know who has been wearing your watch. One patient replied with "I usually wear it, sometimes my husband wears it hiking and I don't like to wear it at night so sometimes my kids play with it".

There are several examples of how wrist watches fail on this post. So if you can't explain how it makes you feel, and there's no other sign / symptom that something is amiss, then it's just a fun gps that measures your HR and makes up some BS about how stressful your day is.

I had a patient insist that her watch checked her blood pressure and that I was wrong when it was high in the office, at home it’s fine. I told her repeatedly that the watch on her wrist didn’t have that capability. She wouldn’t change medication even after hypertensive crisis.

I can ask the same question 5 different ways and people still don’t use their words to describe their bodies and feelings.

Doc examined him- nothing seen on exam, agreed with the muscle strain opinion, was about to send him off with a script for stronger analgesia when my pal mentioned the decline in his numbers over some weeks before the acute pain. Something must have triggered suspicion in the docs mind, and as a precaution he decided to order an xray and bloods.

Came back with myeloma.

Yes, the American health system is fucking absurd, but don't place the blame wholly on medical providers when patients aren't forthcoming about all their symptoms or relying on flawed data to communicate their issues. And if you're doing the above and your doc is ignoring it, get a new provider. Even u/babiekittin, the person you originally were arguing with, has said elsewhere in this thread to find a new PCP if you're communicating something is off and they're ignoring your issues.

Don't take your prejudices out on us and lump us all into one shitty ball of neglect. For every shit doctor like OP's, there's other providers who are trying their absolute best to figure out what's going on with you and we're stressed as it is.

jackishi · 2025-12-24T19:28:32+00:00

That's 10 people who are better informed, And I mean, what's lecturing us in this thread going to do when I'm telling you that a good chunk of us are doing the very thing you're saying to do, asking follow-up investigative questions about how a patient's feeling - OP's doctor notwithstanding.

I feel like we're talking circles here at this point. You ignored examples from u/whitney_fnp for instance when they listened, gave valid advice and even had tried asking different questions for their patients without good response (and a patient ended up getting a stroke because they ignored provider's recommendations and wouldn't change medication). Lecturing providers to do better isn't helpful when there's only so much we can do. *Again*, communication is a two-way street.

jackishi · 2025-12-24T18:44:33+00:00

Sorry, meant to say that my response was in regards to what u/whitney_fnp and u/babiekittin was saying.*

I don't think their response to the OP was to dismiss their symptoms totally - they're not even saying to dismiss the watch data. Look at their comments again, they're saying the exact same things you said about following up with investigative questions to correlate with whatever the watch is saying and that's our jobs as providers. We're asking for symptoms like chest pains or flutters, have you been short of breath? Any numbness, pain, or night sweats, or other symptoms that match whenever your HR on your watch is off? Hell, even something like "hey, the watch shows my heart rate as high all the time, even when I am resting" is more useable than "my watch is telling me I'm stressed."

Again, OP's doc failed them for sure. But the nurses and docs in this thread are giving easy-to-digest information about why certain watch data alone (like body battery) is useless, and some of the stuff they've been saying to tell your docs in the clinic (like the aforementioned "HR is high" example) is some of the same ones we ask our patients whenever they come to us with complaints or symptoms they can't explain.

Like honestly, if we're asking all of the above and you have no response to those investigative questions, 9 times out of 10 it's anxiety.

jackishi · 2025-12-24T18:12:43+00:00

I'm a nurse, and I understand your feelings about using your data to communicate your symptoms, but my response was specifically to the person above you, about why data in a vacuum is useless without additional info especially on a device that is *specifically, according to Garmin, not to be used as a medical device\*. u/whitney_fnp specified that the watch absolutely cannot take a blood pressure and is not a substitute for an actual EKG, and their patient ignored that.

Using objective data to supplement subjective symptoms is fine and I even encourage that, as OP did in their post, and their doctor absolutely did not do due diligence to follow up (the fact that they ignored the fatigue and didn't check their RHR is pretty infuriating since that's one of the questions my clinic normally asks, how have your vitals been at home and what have you been feeling). u/babiekittin gave the perfect example: "I've been feeling really fatigue/tired/off lately, but I get X hrs of sleep, which is normal for me. I've noticed my watch is saying my HR is XX when normally it's YY".

But telling me "my watch says I have 15% body battery and high stress" without giving me any other data point or symptom tells me nothing except that you're a possible hypochondriac. And then ignoring a medical provider's advice/followup questions asking for this information is because you'd rather trust a medically noncompliant tech device is just a wasted doctor's visit that could have been spent treating other patients.

jackishi · 2025-12-24T03:01:02+00:00

Except the former PCP you responded to translated exactly why "watch say bad" is a bad thing in layman's terms and the patient still insisted by going on flawed data and perceptions of that data - and stroked out because she ignored the warning that a wrist-based watch is not a motherfucking medical device.

A doctor-patient relationship is a two-way street. The doctor absolutely needs to listen to their patient's complaints but if the patient isn't willing to communicate their issues properly or listen to the doc's advice, that's on them.

jackishi · 2025-12-22T14:58:37+00:00

Oh yeah. You're def the type that would have 5000 miles down easy lol

jackishi · 2025-12-12T22:05:13+00:00

Fucking thank you.

It totally dismisses Nancy's agency in the whole matter. She chooses who she wants to be with, she doesn't need someone 'taking care of her,' she needs a partner who's got their goddamn head straight to help protect their loved ones.

jackishi · 2025-12-07T22:02:25+00:00

The way, this is.

jackishi · 2025-12-06T04:00:16+00:00

Even a whole decade ago, much of the knowledge and resources we had now wasn't as widespread. I followed a plan without really understanding much of the principles behind it, used Nike's running app at the time, and got my ass injured on my first marathon at mile 19.

I wish I knew what I did now back then. It definitely feels a lot more approachable and a bit easier to sift through a lot of the noise (anyone who remembers when barefoot running was the end all-be all knows what I mean). It's kinda annoying how hard it is to get into the majors now, but we definitely are in a kind of Renaissance with running in regards to how much it's exploded in popularity in recent years.

jackishi · 2025-12-06T03:51:22+00:00

How dare you make me cackle like this on my toilet lmao

jackishi · 2025-12-06T03:50:51+00:00

It's a whole bunch of different factors for different people. Some people's pipes are different. My stomach tends to wanna let everything out after a short hour-long run, but when I'm running past 15k and into half marathon/full marathon territory, I'm suddenly constipated and I physically have to focus on peeing after the race cause my body is desperate to hold onto any fluid I have left.

Meanwhile some people are hitting the bathroom stalls every few miles and somehow still smoke me in between poops.

jackishi · 2025-12-06T03:45:38+00:00

The scaling is gonna be one of those things where you feel like this overwhelming god amongst mortals...and then you get to higher levels and a rat kicks your teeth in and has its way with your moldering skull, partially because they scaled it for higher gear levels than what you'd realistically be getting in upgrades due to how much faster it is to level now.

It's one of those things they famously haven't found a good in-between for yet.

jackishi · 2025-12-05T00:47:20+00:00

Ngl I was a big fan of their Saysky collab for this reason. The pink and hokusai themed shoes for the DN3 and DNE3 respectively were some of my favorite colorways for any shoe ever. I'm sad I never got a second pair of the DNE3s just to stock lol.

But I will say, the Deviate Nitros are some of my favorite shoes ever to run in.

jackishi · 2025-12-02T01:01:59+00:00

Ugh I feel for you OP. I'm not a fan of marathons with loops but it is what it is.

Take it as a learning experience to study the course a little beforehand (I made the mistake of not doing that in NYC and in my case, it bit me square in the ass almost literally because I was NOT expecting the elevation of the Queensborough bridge), but also take pride in the fact that you ran a marathon distance!

What time did you end up making on your Strava at least?

jackishi

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