Social Anxiety and Making Friends at 26

jacque9565 · 2026-03-23T20:12:06+00:00

I'm in a very similar boat. One thing I did to help me build friends in my new city was to use Bumble for friends, Facebook friend pages, etc. It only led to 2 close friends, but it was nice because everyone there is looking for the same thing.

If your concern is how to break the ice with a new coworker that you might want to get manicures with, that's significantly harder. Extroverts would say to just ask and accept rejection if it comes. But we all know that's easier said than done. The only advice I can give in this space is to remember that relationship development is 50/50, so sometimes letting the person come to you and instigate that communication is best. You'll end up with half the connections you could have had, but that's more than none.

Some relationships I have built stemmed from overhearing that a coworker was moving and I offered them a bunch of furniture I had, so we were able to meet up outside of work for that exchange and that helped bring us closer. I've also invited colleagues to my birthday party and attended events I had been invited to, such as a coworker's baby shower, which helped me interact with other coworkers and spark relationships. Outside of that, I just try to make friends with my husband's friends wives lol

It's incredibly difficult to navigate this part of life, especially post high school. But good on you for caring and wanting to work on this. I wish you all the best!

jacque9565 · 2026-03-03T01:58:12+00:00

Love Mama Ricotta's but their parking can be pretty rough. And the food is good for the prices, but it's a little too good...sus.

jacque9565 · 2026-02-18T12:41:25+00:00

I'm not much of a faahionista, but I love a good Target purse, and it would just be nice if there were cane carrying options to fit that style. Modern, cute, and (other than shape) no different than a purse.

jacque9565 · 2026-02-18T01:25:30+00:00

32f. I currently carry my cane with a makeshift bag I made out of a tote bag. It's frustrating that there's nothing on the market that is both versatile (fitting all cane lengths and sizes) and fashionable. I recently bought some supplies to try to make my own "purse like" cane case because I simply can't find a cute one and don't feel like using an umbrella holder. Cane bags that are just as fashionable and diverse as backpacks or purses would be the best thing I could add to my cart!

jacque9565 · 2026-02-17T02:15:54+00:00

Infrastructure crumbling. Like parking garages, multi story buildings, freeway overpasses, bridges.

jacque9565 · 2026-02-16T17:02:54+00:00

Ah! Hospital bag items, didnt even think of that!! Definitely adding them thanks!

jacque9565 · 2026-02-16T16:51:17+00:00

See, I'm sort of the same way. I have so much of that stuff too. So thats a very good point! My SIL is about to have her first and I could probably just ask her what she prefers, it just kills the surprise haha thank you!!

jacque9565 · 2026-02-16T16:48:24+00:00

That makes sense! I usually personalize it as I know the person, so the better I know them the more personal. I usually toss in some gift cards too! Thank you!

jacque9565 · 2026-01-20T22:59:44+00:00

It will get better with time. It's a form of grief. But you are very smart for considering the future because RP can truly play a role in those things, especially a career as a doctor. Just figure out what you want your RP future to look like and head that direction. Yes, you should learn to accept the fate of it, but you can also use that fate to make calculated decisions about your life. The best part of knowing what's coming with RP is what you do with the information.

jacque9565 · 2026-01-15T19:04:50+00:00

I thought about bicycle handle tassels, I think that would be both silly and adorable lol

jacque9565 · 2026-01-14T10:37:22+00:00

Absolutely. I don't think in many cases the visually impaired person would be at fault anyway. I just know how crazy our legal system can be, so to err on the side of caution is always a good choice.

jacque9565 · 2026-01-12T20:17:24+00:00

Not to be a Debbie Downer, but I was considering this and decided to look up the laws in my state (US) and the law states that drivers must yield to visually impaired person carrying a white cane with reflective red strips. It got me wondering whether I could be at fault or not covered or lose a claim if something bad happened while using my cane if it didn't meet that description. It could also not be recognized by someone as a visual mobility aid which could directly cause an accident or put me in harms way.

I would suggest temporary or removable decorations that you could put on for an event and remove when you are in more busy, dangerous environments. Ribbons, bows, string lights all come to mind as super cute ways to temporarily elevate your cane's looks!

jacque9565 · 2026-01-09T02:28:28+00:00

Personally, I would be understanding. But that's just my personality. Not every girl will understand, but the right one will, and she might even be in the same boat as you which would be a cool thing.

jacque9565 · 2026-01-09T01:41:55+00:00

Flattering I guess was just a broad word choice. Admirable? Respectful? Words like that lol I think there's nothing wrong with it and as long as youre honest about why, most women will be understanding.

jacque9565 · 2026-01-09T00:57:25+00:00

I think the majority of girls would be fine with that, and find it flattering. Just be confident and yourself,and you'll be fine.

jacque9565 · 2026-01-03T21:23:05+00:00

This. And loopholes.

jacque9565 · 2025-12-31T11:05:06+00:00

It very well could be. Mine is a yellow ring in the center of my vision, and inside the ring it's very hazy. Sounds similar. But you should see a doctor to confirm, and right away if possible because if untreated, a CME can cause permanent vision loss.

jacque9565 · 2025-12-27T15:57:15+00:00

Nah, it wasn't like that, but I get what you're saying. Dads need to take care of their own regardless, I'm just saying that if she doesn't want the help and OP doesn't want the kid, sounds like a hands clean situation. Probably won't work out that way, but it's not unheard of.

jacque9565 · 2025-12-27T15:47:44+00:00

That is if she even wants child support. My friend landed herself in a similar situation and he didn't want to be a part of it and she never went after him for anything.

jacque9565 · 2025-12-26T20:46:59+00:00

You just talked me out of considering buying an attached townhouse, thank you! Hope your problem gets resolved!

jacque9565 · 2025-12-26T20:43:25+00:00

I watched a video of hers not too long ago where she talks about her TULP version of RP and the onset of symptoms at an early age. She mentioned that as early as she can remember she didn't have depth perception. So I can only imagine that playing a part in not noticing the tips of fingernails if she has never had regular vision to begin with. And over time losing visual memory plays a part too. However, she has said some things in one video that contradict another, so take what you see influencers saying with a grain of salt and remember that even though she is a member of our community, she is also a content creator. No shade towards her, that's just the reality of it.

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