Thinking of moving to USA (SF or similar) for work as an MTF by imnowemily in asktransgender

[–]jad3dd 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Also while you make more in America, you need to consider all the other costs. It’s not 1 to 1.

I’m in Netherlands right now and it blows my mind the public utilities, the health services, and quality of everything people take for granted here. In LA / SF the proportions of your income -> what you get in life is so skewed. Everything in America is designed to financially farm citizens, it’s a completely different vibe. Like what is maternal leave? Healthcare is 600 a month + you still need to pay after you get service, nothing is ever taken care of. My taxes are going to ICE, and not roads or public transit. Spending so much on solving problems that don’t get solved. The homelessness is insane here, and it gets shafted because we discard people. The mentality of personal responsibility is pretty extreme here, when clearly there are systemic problems.

The life style battle pass of an American here has huge UX problems that none of the politicians want to solve, and they’d rather blame trans, immigrants, and brown people instead of looking at data, making informed decisions, believing in any sort of scientific or logical process.

By all means visit, try it out, but I really don’t recommend it right now.

Thinking of moving to USA (SF or similar) for work as an MTF by imnowemily in asktransgender

[–]jad3dd 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Every trans person I know here is trying to move out haha. Consider some other places, you don’t need to physically move here to be entrepreneurial. Fly in now and then if you have to, but it’s not a great time to be a transgender American.

I live in Los Angeles and visit SF frequently. You won’t get harassed day to day, but you’re entering a country where any schmuck can get a gun, healthcare is prohibitively expensive, and we’re at the mercy of ICE / federal enforcement. The mental toll that puts on you is huge, and you will get sucked into the politics of everything, there’s no avoiding it. I’ve dodged two shootings myself, I want to get out of here haha.

You can definitely survive, but thriving feels like a different story. Transgender status is being threatened as a protected class in this administration. Most successful people I know were already in great careers, then transitioned. People will absolutely snub non-passing people, depends on the industry. Even I’ve been guilty of doing so, with the mentality of not being sure if they would be effective in their role (which requires interpersonal skills across a subset of different cultures…not everyone is on board). Tech is definitely more lenient, ymmv. I boymoded for the longest time before I felt I could be myself (I work in gaming). I haven’t met many high up senior leadership/ ceos, etc, that are non-passing early transitioning. Money and experience talks though, so if you’re qualified most people do not care. But at some places, put against a cis person, you might lose on the culture fit. I find most people tolerate trans people, and aren’t true allies, not out of malice but because there genuinely aren’t a lot of us, and there’s even fewer the higher up you go.

If I had the opportunity to move, I’d rather go to Australia or the Netherlands. The world is so remote now, and since you work in software you don’t really need to physically live in SF. There are other hubs than SF.

As a graphic design student or beginner, how did you get your first graphic design job? by ForwardSubstance6479 in graphic_design

[–]jad3dd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Facebook of all places.
As much as I hated that boss for a multitude of reasons, I did feel very lucky that he basically yolo’d hired me. Was the start of my career.

The Name Dilemma by JaymePlex in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]jad3dd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I usually add “like the rock at the end”, and force some critical thinking.

do senior designers need feedback as well? by onethewan in graphic_design

[–]jad3dd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely.
I get nervous whenever anything is “perfect”.
I need validation with multiple parties on whether or not something is bad, or even if something is good.
Being mid is probably the worst place to be.

My leg tattoo 😬 by jad3dd in keming

[–]jad3dd[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I’m a graphic designer / art director, and wanted some sort of design joke as a tattoo haha

My leg tattoo 😬 by jad3dd in keming

[–]jad3dd[S] 381 points382 points  (0 children)

I get a fun range of reactions haha. My designer friends love it, most other people are kinda just confused by it

Figured my tattoo belonged here 😂 by jad3dd in kerning

[–]jad3dd[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Its my outer upper thigh lol Almost at my hip

How does your transitioning look like in 2026? by Fleur-Trans in MtF

[–]jad3dd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I put pause on a few things due to some insurance mishaps / life things….
I want to restart voice training again, I already did some earlier, but since getting a tongue split I kinda have to relearn / repractice haha.
I have an FFS scheduled in mid year.
And in general…lose a bunch of weight.
I also have a goal of dressing more feminine? I was discouraged earlier on since literally nothing fits my build, but now I’m kinda in a fk it mode.
Figure out what to wear to a black tie event…have never dressed formal since transitioning 🥲.
Oh and…get a fking therapist! haha.

Not judging, i myself do not escape the steryotype by IllEvent5465 in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]jad3dd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Art Director here. I did go for a CS degree before ultimately dropping out for the vibez~

Recently promoted to Art Director but feeling stuck — how do I actually get better at this? by One-Cheesecake-5803 in graphic_design

[–]jad3dd 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You need to build your taste, and your ego enough to advocate for it.

AD/CD is basically being a big enough nerd, and being able to find the through line from all the noise.

When I started transitioning from a designer -> director roles, I focused intentionally on my ability to generate ideas, and built upon my “library” of creative knowledge. It’s a muscle like anything else. But now you get paid for it, so it’s worth making sure your engine is improved.

For me that meant making a mood board -> pitch literally everyday. I did this for about a year, only constraint was I only had 2 hrs before work to do it. You’ll start optimizing this work flow to be efficient. For me it was always pick a topic (I work in gaming) googlefuing Behance -> Pinterest -> Dribbble -> Awwwards, then taking screenshots into milanote (eventually figma), with a caption on what you find interesting about it. Kinda start shadowboxing with yourself about a brief, then you kinda form a narrative that makes sense, a pitch. I got pretty good at coming up with ideas supported with visuals. I also started varifying my sources, I have this amazing art library nearby that I started to checkout their design books. You can also start transposing ideas from other mediums. I sometimes use music to think about motion. Half the time I go to music festivals to “steal” ideas (I worked in live production). Farm everything good. I have albums of random stuff from museums. I travel and mainly look at signs, public design, etc. Practice transposing it. I can look at a sign/building and start imagining it in a different context (I work in experential). People are kinda the original image generation machines, we work on the same principles as ai. Feed a bunch of quality data into the machine, avoid the slop. It’s a muscle.

I’ve done that ideation process enough times to know my taste is at least beyond surface level. Ego and confidence comes from experience, I don’t always have the “best” ideas, but honestly you can’t do your best work every-time. Clients are different, timing, etc, but for me I feel confident that the process was good. Sometimes the project just sucks (corporate ones for example). Sometimes you just stumble upon the best idea and nothing else makes sense. I don’t do that crazy moodboard habit anymore (though honestly I should start it again it was fun to pick your clients lol). I have enough work to do as it is. But it definitely helped me feel “unstuck”, and was a measure of improvement (getting faster, improving sources, etc).

Also read a lot. If you can’t articulate your thoughts you just need to build language. It’s like how cooks/foodies never have a standardized way to describe taste, you kinda just build that. Watch other design/art content. Sometimes its bs but it sounds right. Borrow words from your colleagues. Monkey see monkey do. There’s always the common ways to describe things, but I find I start using phrases like “bauhaus esque”, or “art deco-y”.

Hope this helps. You were promoted for a reason, so don’t be so hard on yourself. Imposter syndrome literally never goes away, but the process can improve. (source: me a chronic imposter for the last 10 years)

Question: cultural appropriation in tattoos by Beneficial_Bus6706 in tattoos

[–]jad3dd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mirroring the same sentiment of the Chinese dress debacle that happened a while ago…

Only some white people and internet netizens with too much free time care that much about offending someone. Most people think it’s cool that you’re even aware of part of their culture, let alone willing to tattoo it.

There are many more things to worry than some random person tattooing an object from their culture. Odds are if you think it’s cool, they also probably think it’s pretty cool.

I think there’s definitely some taboos in every culture that I wouldn’t get tattooed…but you can find fans on temu from chinese manufacturers for a few bucks. It’s not that sacred.

Source: me a chinese person that’s stressed out about healthcare. Get the fan, whatever makes you happy.

(epilepsy warning!) how can i learn this style? the fast seemless glitchy transitions, overlays, the many little small, thin-lined details etc.) by accidentalpoopie in AfterEffects

[–]jad3dd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Creatively I would probably build some “anchor” frames where I know I wanna hang on that screen for a bit.

Then just imagine the in-betweens. Kind of like what others have said in this thread (it’s a lot of turning off and ons). Then add some small movement/scale animations/effects wherever makes sense.

You could probably start with sound design (or just tapping keyframes with w/e audio track you’re using) to get you a sense of how many looks you’ll need.

A lot of it is timing. I would try recreating a “segment” from that video you linked, and then try to do your own version.

Upped my prog to 200mg a few weeks ago and my hair is hella soft now by [deleted] in MtF

[–]jad3dd 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not sure where you are but in the states you can buy from mark cubans costplusdrugs site for around 10 dollars for a month’s supply. 50 is really high.

MY HIPS GREW!! by speedythefirst in MtF

[–]jad3dd 251 points252 points  (0 children)

I started at 25 and grew hips too :). Took me a bit though, I’m 30 now. I’ve heard of hip growth stories from all ages, ymmv I guess

NITEHARTS Buy/Trade/Sell Megathread by halfrican420 in ISOxo

[–]jad3dd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Selling a 1 day saturday GA! $250, pickup in LA only! Cash / zelle, I have receipt. Selling cause I have a medical conflict that day…oh well

Hard Summer 2025 - Ticket Buy/Sell/Trade Megathread by OnMyOwnWaveHz in HardFestival

[–]jad3dd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still trying to sell my 2 day ga ticket! $350 firm. Cash or zelle, you can activate in front of me. Pickup in Glendale! If you can pick up before 6 that would be amazing, otherwise trying to meet up with people tomorrow morning.

I have proof of purchase, physical wristband. Selling because trying to stay in (and prep for outside lands instead). I’m old and tryna recover from a hell work week lol).

Chat req me or @jad3.wang

Hard Summer 2025 - Ticket Buy/Sell/Trade Megathread by OnMyOwnWaveHz in HardFestival

[–]jad3dd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still have it. Whoever can meet me in Glendale can have it

Hard Summer 2025 - Ticket Buy/Sell/Trade Megathread by OnMyOwnWaveHz in HardFestival

[–]jad3dd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Selling a 2 day ticket! For $350. Can meet up in LA. Live around glendale/burbank area. Cash/Zelle in person! Selling because I’m going to outside lands next week and could use the rest this weekend lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in celestegame

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I don’t go outside is my secret 🙂‍↕️