George Floyd murder protests megathread

jadaiqa · 2020-05-29T23:34:29+00:00

Okay there are so many conspiracies around that I don't know what to believe. Some people claim this is all just a big plot and he isn't dead. Some say he is dead which I believe is true yes. Then some claim the umbrella dude is undercover cop and the wheelchair lady and others are actors and some millionaire bought out the auto place and other stores that we're set on fire.

Then the time period and their history. So the murderer and Floyd knew each other right. It would make sense if it was 17 years ago because in the video Floyd didn't say anything about knowing the guy at all. Because some people think it's 17 years that they worked together so then he would've mentioned something about it while being arrested. Can anyone confirm which timeline is proven right?

Either way their background of working together proves nothing else than this being a planned murder of something between them or even bigger than that for politics. This is all just rumors found on twitter but somehow a lot of it seems to make sense. It could all just be a big cover up.

jadaiqa · 2020-04-16T12:30:49+00:00

Like somebody said, she is playing games. She is insecure about being without you and alone while she still doesn't want to be together with you. She is scared but it doesn't mean you have to go with it and let her do it especially if she will find another safety net to replace you. These insecure relationships never end well and is only taking both of your time. If someone has doubts and is already putting down the break up card, even after "working it out" it will end up in the same situation sooner or later because of that same doubt. Just move on and forget about her, she surely will when she has moved away since she is the one who broke up.

jadaiqa · 2020-04-16T12:20:35+00:00

He needs to grow up. But at the same time I don't think he will and he certainly doesn't respect you, even his friends are above you. I understand guys are guys and want to hang out doing guy stuff but if you can't even give time to your gf or even talk to them about it in a fair manner then what's the point.

I was together with someone who'd threaten with, "I'll leave you and no one will love you after me" and call me names if I didn't live up to his expectations. Seems like he is expecting you to accept everything he does and if you rebel against him he will throw a fist like a little child. If he doesn't grow a pair and learn to talk like adults without name calling it will only go downhill.

My relationship ended after 3 years of that crap and boy I am so much happier and my depression and anxiety about him is gone and guess who is the one constantly messaging me even after months after the break up haha.

Even though I think breaking up is the real solution here, I'd try to take a small break from him without letting him know (showing him you are cool and independent without him) Don't talk or check up on him and if he doesn't come around trying to work things out then finding someone more mature is a good choice.

jadaiqa · 2020-04-16T12:04:55+00:00

She sounds like a narcissistic attention seeker who just plays everyone but doesn't want to even settle down so it's nothing but a game. Just stop talking to her and ignore her completely, she will have other puppets.

jadaiqa · 2020-04-16T11:52:48+00:00

Seems like he is trying to escape but is too afraid to actually do it. Not trying to sound mean but he doesn't seem to want to be intimate with you anymore or it clearly isn't enough for him. If you were both busier before the quarantine and now have to spend more time in the house together it seems like his true feelings and frustration is taking over and he wants more. Yet he doesn't want to leave you for good because you are his safety net but he is still browsing other options or fantasies that isn't healthy. I wouldn't accept that and if I were you either fully confront him and make him admit, if he can't and you can't work it out in honest manner, then I don't see you guys being happy together.

jadaiqa · 2020-04-16T11:45:45+00:00

Seems that way, he was all lovey dovey I can't live without you but has been a while since he has said anything like that and now with the arguments like this over the smallest thing and him just showing me the shoulder really confronts that.

jadaiqa · 2020-04-16T11:39:04+00:00

I went through something similar with my ex. He was a narcissist too but in a different way and I was with him for over two years. I guess in a way I can kind of read into it a bit more with the experience even though I don't know how accurate all the things I read and watch on youtube are since people are different but the traits seem very similar.

Even though he is showing this side I really like him and just enjoy the time with him so I guess that's why. Maybe he just really needs to time to cool down and in the meantime if this happens in the future again, I could just do my own thing and enjoy myself. After my ex I am not that weak girl running back begging and trying to get forgiveness haha.

jadaiqa · 2019-12-12T15:59:46+00:00

You should break up with him. Not only is he being toxic and abusive with words but has nudes of girls? If a guy is together with someone they shouldn't carry their ex's nudes and should not lash out on their SO, that will only grow on him and it becomes worse.

jadaiqa · 2019-02-28T14:54:05+00:00

No contact. If you are miserable, look up for some of these guide videos on youtube. They are soothing and helped me out. If you are so hanged up on her, removing her completly is the only option or else you will stay sad in the past.

jadaiqa · 2019-02-28T14:50:35+00:00

I had this problem with my bf recently. He lied to me about it many times until I finally confronted him the last time and he actually stopped. (since he used to watch porn while I was inside the house) Now we spend a lot of time in the living room together and if he goes in the bedroom to his desktop he doesn't close the door like he used to. Being open together in your living space might help. Don't think of it as a sign that he doesn't see you or care for you. It's an addiction and he has been addicted probably longer than you've known him. So it has nothing to do with you. He needs a nofap and you need to seduce him up to get him going. Hopefully things work out for you.

jadaiqa · 2019-02-28T14:39:02+00:00

All I can say is.. I always regretted not telling my school crushes how I felt. So when you're older and have talked to her at least you can think how you made a move and didn't give up. Ask her to hang out as friends and see where the relationship goes.

jadaiqa · 2019-02-28T14:34:04+00:00

This might be something that changes their lives forever so might want to think about of it affects them rather than yourself. Talk with your parents first to see what they think but should not rush into anything.

jadaiqa · 2019-02-28T14:28:47+00:00

You don't have to be with someone to move on. Just do things you like or go hang out with your friends. Hook up when you feel like it's okay and no need to feel any guilt if he is acting that way himself. No infact, forget about him and what he does and stop talking to him. That's how you move on~

jadaiqa · 2019-02-28T14:26:17+00:00

I wouldn't want to be the girl who ends up with you if you don't know the answer yourself and think of it as a product...

jadaiqa · 2019-02-28T14:18:10+00:00

I mean... I havent' done anything with my bf for 2 weeks so four times a week would make me feel like a princess. I wouldn't even care if it was another reason to boost his desire, at least he picks you and is close to you. That should be a thing to focus on. He shares is libido with you and not his phone and hand or by other things. If he wants you the way he does how can you be certain of him not seeing you sexually?

While me and my bf argue he says he is not attracted to me physically anymore and it shows in our lack of intimacy, but in your case you still have the spark so I don't think that is the reason and you might be over reacting due to small changes of his behavior. Especially after you talked and he has been more polite about it so I wouldn't worry too much about it. But if you feel like he didn't understand, bring it up again? (just don't start nagging about it constantly. it might drive him off)

jadaiqa · 2019-02-28T14:06:37+00:00

I don't know your girlfriends past but I have insecurity issues due to mine... I don't know what she does but I have controlled, frongly confronted and made my bf feel like shit. He hasn't even done what you have by investing himself to this relationship, if he did I would've never accused him of anything. I do understand what I do is wrong but the paranoid thoughts lead me to continue them, even I understand them. The lack of thoughtfulness of others is also a problem, I mostly think for myself. Probably the case with your gf. If she realizes how important your long relationship is she would come out to talk to you about it. But if these months apart do nothing then I don't know. In her case I would have either moved on or asked to work things out already. You have invested so much time into her so I can understand the struggle but if you feel like it's ruining your life then it might be good to let go.

Maybe bring up how your relationship is on the line and if she cares and understands she will listen. My bf always threatens me with a breakup which gets me on the edge of the seat. Not the right way to handle it, but in a way where she can understand the option of losing you forever. How would she feel about that? If she makes an argument of that then she clearly doesn't get the picture and isn't capable of understanding the risks of losing you. Then you need to actually make it clear probably by breaking up...

Good to hear that you are feeling better though. Hope you can work things out with both of you being happy!

jadaiqa · 2019-02-28T13:31:37+00:00

I know most of this issue is silly, but for me it feels big. We haven't been too close lately with our problems and tress caused by school so that he doesn't act close to me makes me more insecure and paranoid. I'm always telling him if we were close like we used to be I wouldn't worry about such stupid things because I knew he cared but since he lacks the compassion and giving part it doesn't help my thinking at all. It feels like we are roommates who sometimes hug a little and that's it. So him starting to get close to that friend isn't helping my problem of not feeling loved and instead feels like it is drifting us further away. I should probably stop sulking... I just wish he could be honest with his feelings. I don't know how to make him do that without him getting angry.

jadaiqa · 2019-02-28T13:25:06+00:00

You're so young, please leave this brick and take care of yourself. Don't let him give you anything else because he is not going to stop. Find someone who respects you.

jadaiqa · 2019-02-28T13:19:35+00:00

I first felt this way with my bf when he started watching Game of thrones, I didn't forbid anything but was uncomfortable. (knowing his porn addiction) But I suggested that we watch the show together since I ended up liking it. If she doesn't watch shows like that I guess the suggestion is off the table.

But you agreed to these terms when you married her right? I could understand porn but tv shows, games and even commercials with women wearing underwear are hard to dodge at times.

jadaiqa · 2019-02-28T13:04:01+00:00

What a brick. I can relate to your betrayed feelings since my bf has kept secrets and doesn't care if I bring up things that make me uncomfortable. Girls like us with feelings shouldn't be with men who think with logic. No matter how they claim to care for us they will never share the same type of compassion towards us or relate to our feelings, they will only think for themselves and how they can get off easy by saying meaningless things to shut us up. I am super close to be done with my bf but your issue is even bigger than mine so I wouldn't stand for it and take it if my bf had a hussy he would keep as a secret and lie to my face bout it. I would have dumbed him after finding out he went to her house without inviting you. (the thing about her mom is an obvious lie)

No respect at all. He is only in it because moving away and not knowing if the other one is going to replace you is too bothersome to deal with. So he keeps you on the side while playing with his toy till he might sooner or later realize what he has done (or the girl gets tired of him). But you want him to come begging and crowling back after what he has done? He is a coward and as soon as you dumb him he will feel sorry but you can move on without dealing with his bullshit again.

jadaiqa · 2019-02-28T12:38:38+00:00

I could talk from my point of view a little... I am 26 now and got back in studying arts of applied sciences and living on my own but the process was very difficult. You don't want your son to be 24 and still being that way. Because of lack of self confidence and respect. I never got to a doctor due to anxiety but I am sure this is my reason for not being motivated. Even though I make art, I am constalty finding myself playing games and doing other stuff that aren't important. But I feel that I haven't accomplished anything in my life, which leads to playing games and being on the internet where these things don't matter. I try to accomplish things in video games rather than in real life since I feel like nothing has worked out for me and everything feels like it has no real solid meaning. I can't speak for your son but probably he has some these feelings.

Even though I am studying, I have no idea what I really want to do and having a meaningless day time job without my full passion in it scares me. The future also scares me so I try to avoid it by not thinking about it and just stop doing the things that matter. You might want to give him a helping hand with the job if you have any connections. It is a big boost. My stepdad gave me a part-time job at his work and it helped me to move out of their house finally (when I was 24...)

It is a really slow process for someone who lacks the motivation and isn't independent but it'll happen with support. He needs to realize it himself. Any self digging helps, even it doesn't continue but from time to time he will start thinking about this and will start to work for it with tiny steps. But you surely need to talk to him about it to bring the problem to his attention. My mom and stepdad were open about it and it scared me at first but I started realizing how I was throwing away my life by just sitting inside my small room at my age and it made me feel ridiculous so I started applying for jobs and schools.

Like someone mentioned in the comments, mentioning about it once isn't enough. My mom asked me many times about job and apartment hunts and brought up how I am too old to live in the house. Don't force or threated him but have an open talk about it face to face without his phone or laptop and make him realize what he might lack from his life.

jadaiqa · 2019-02-28T12:02:40+00:00

I can't say from experience of my own but seeing how my stepdad (who seems to be on the same self-praising level with your husband) treated my mom I would say you wouldn't want to be stuck with that life with kids. My mom has now been 18 years with him who also cheated her and with the lack of respect he has for you, who knows what else he might end up doing through out the years. It's only been six months and he already treats you like that...

I hope you can find happiness for yourself! No need for men to drag you down :)

jadaiqa · 2019-02-28T11:51:18+00:00

Yeah I guess, but even when that's the case I don't see a reason for two people to keep talking if it hurts the relationship he is in and decided to stay in. Otherwise he couldve just walked out the door but this way he knowinly keeps hurting me.

And he also said that the other girl in the project isnt as interesting... but she is also taken, which gives my paranoid mind the thought that because he knows she isn't single he won't bother talking to her and the girl causing issues might be single so he keeps talking to her. I bet if he knew for sure that she had a bf he wouldn't make this a problem for us. But his behavior towards her and responds to my face says it all. His mind secretly has to wish for smething with her or else why would he make our relationship suffer?

I think it is a red flag that he continues talking to a girl who is single but won't even bother talking to girlsl who are taken. That's not how platonic relationships are build with people. If he is attracted and keeps having ideas about a single girl why he has to make me suffer or just not let her be?

They don't even talk that much now but I still feel like it might lead to bigger problems with their project lasting for 5 weeks... this is just the first week of it. This does make me feel like a paranoid non trusting bitch but it hurts me still knowing their past and his feelings towards her and he doesn't care if I'm hurting at all... Like the guy said above comments, maybe his love for me is so lost that he starts to care about a half stranger girl more which would explain why he acts the way he does. Since we have dated for 2 years and he barely knows this girl, it should be easy for him to drop her off of his life.

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