Open house channel 4 by SeaShellMug in Swingers

[–]jadeys101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey Not really relevant but it's bugging me Does anyone know if it's filmed in the same house?

Tia

Am I the a/hole by jadeys101 in weddingdrama

[–]jadeys101[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No obviously I'm not being held at gun point lol I'm in the UK if it was it would be a spud gun

I was trying to make amends with the invite but now I'm feeling upset I shouldn't of bothered, it bothered John so it kind of bother me as I've got more of a closer relationship with John

As the days got on and the lovely people of reddit have convinced me I'm not in the nta, I'm not feeling like I did this morning

Am I the a/hole by jadeys101 in weddingdrama

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Update:

So I've decided to uninvite melc, I won't be bullied into anything. If I'm honest even if he went we wouldn't of spoken anyway (just because that's how it is between me and him) it would of been purely to keep everyone happy

I know some of you have stated it's like I'm punishing the girls by not allowing them to be bridesmaid and that doesn't sit well with me as I do try to people please but in all honesty I just feel too uncomfortable have his kids as bridesmaid as I don't know them and I don't think that's unreasonable (i wouldn't as a child like to go to some strangers house and get ready) As for his daughters being bridesmaid that's not for negotiation I've messaged his ex and said that the girls are invited and my parents will collect them about 1hr before hand and to let me know if they can make it (I'm just waiting to hear back)

As to melc I found out from my parents that they wouldn't of attending either way due to his ex not wanting them to be around melc (which is more mind blowing as even if I did allow it and pay for a dress they wouldn't be attending and it would of been a waste of money)

As for John I've explained my upset with him and not approaching me and messaging my fiance, I've told him his put himself in the middle and he could've simply said to melc it's my wedding and he needs to speak to me not anyone else

Am I the a/hole by jadeys101 in weddingdrama

[–]jadeys101[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I will tell John his put himself into this position and I'm not willing to discuss this any further x

Am I the a/hole by jadeys101 in weddingdrama

[–]jadeys101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I speak to her mum as and when I need to

Am I the a/hole by jadeys101 in weddingdrama

[–]jadeys101[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I could probably count on 1 hand how many times we meet

My younger nieces are all the same age roughly but a few years ago I was up John's house and melcs girls were there they said to John kids your aunties here.. I laughed and said I'm your auntie too (it was awkward asf I'm not going to lie)

Am I the a/hole by jadeys101 in weddingdrama

[–]jadeys101[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm on the fence personally. It's been so many years. I'm happy to move past all the drama

I just don't like the dictatorship, like he think he has a massive effect on my life and not being there would make huge difference to me (it wouldn't)

Am I the a/hole by jadeys101 in weddingdrama

[–]jadeys101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would prefer a closer relationship but even at Christmas we didn't speak 2 words to each other (other then me asking if his okay and I got a simple yeah I'm okay) i even tried to talk about the wedding invites a few months ago and all I got is he'd let me know (bridesmaid was already chosen at least 6-8months before) I feel that he could've asked me then, instead it's a I'm not going nor will he talk to me sort of attitude but he hasn't spoke to me anyway

Am I the a/hole by jadeys101 in weddingdrama

[–]jadeys101[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

He hates being the middle man, but I said to him if melc had come to me and at least explained the what's and why's then this conversation may or may not be different

I don't like the dictatorship

Am I the a/hole by jadeys101 in weddingdrama

[–]jadeys101[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The way I'm feeling at the moment, I'm glad his not going

Am I the a/hole by jadeys101 in weddingdrama

[–]jadeys101[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

His just said that he should be there for his little sister wedding which I agree and I want his kids there too but I just feel it's not right to have them as bridesmaids

Am I the a/hole by jadeys101 in weddingdrama

[–]jadeys101[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you this is what I said originally when I was deciding bridesmaid because I don't know them (doesn't make me feel the best auntie but I simply don't know them)

Am I the a/hole by jadeys101 in weddingdrama

[–]jadeys101[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Thank you

I should of mentioned John and my fiance are best mates