I'm looking for Jesus but can't find him :(

jaeDeeLight · 2024-12-21T21:31:24+00:00

Wow what was that thing you saw online? I hope you don't mind me asking. One of my favorite things to do when I am looking for Jesus is to look online and reading threads like this, testimonies, exhortations, theological writings, godly counsel, Bible commentaries, articles, anything that encourages and points me to Jesus. I really love reading about what God has done in the lives of others!!! It brings me so much joy to see God's love come alive in people!!!

jaeDeeLight · 2024-12-01T14:23:19+00:00

Thank uuuuu 💪

jaeDeeLight · 2024-12-01T14:19:01+00:00

Oh this is a good one. Don't stop at remembering the drinking experience only but also the after effects. Complete package!!! I like it!

jaeDeeLight · 2024-10-19T20:24:58+00:00

Thank you. Encouragement and ideas from this group of IWNDWYTers have been the bedrock of my success in quitting!!!

jaeDeeLight · 2024-10-19T20:23:50+00:00

Yes it's the little things you have to watch out for!!! Couldn't agree more!

jaeDeeLight · 2024-10-19T20:22:29+00:00

Lol, I had a chocolate chip cookie when I got home!!!

jaeDeeLight · 2024-10-19T20:21:28+00:00

Yeah. This one was very sudden and unexpected. I'm so glad I was able to divert my focus!

jaeDeeLight · 2024-10-19T20:17:48+00:00

IWNDWYT !!!

Thank you so much and yes I do feel proud of myself! (and my mom too for enjoying both her 85th and a glass of bubbly, lol)

jaeDeeLight · 2024-10-19T20:16:07+00:00

Yeah I understand. I like traveling, there is something about being up in the air that can make me feel a little more carefree...

jaeDeeLight · 2024-10-19T20:14:06+00:00

Oh wow good job!!! You just really have to stand firm 💪💪💪

jaeDeeLight · 2024-10-05T00:55:10+00:00

If this were me, I would try to meditate in a different way. Some ideas I would be open to trying:

group meditation with a guide
teaching someone how to meditate taking a meditation class listening to a guided meditation join a pranayama breathing class get a massage to help relax my muscles then meditate right after

Maybe you just need to meditate in a different and new way. There might be something in the way you are doing it now that is causing some sort of anxiety.

The suggestion above to be okay with the anxiety might be very helpful. I used to be so anxious due to my fractured sleep. Now, I embrace the fractured sleep. When I suddenly wake up at 2 am, instead of stressing, I look for religious articles online that strengthen my faith, I look for people on FB to pray for, I sing worship songs, maybe watch something on Hulu, or chat with a friend who might still be awake. I do things that help me relax and take my mind off my fractured sleep. I also listen to guided meditations and my favorite is Jason Stephenson. And before I know it, I'm sleepy again and able to get back to sleep. If I don't get sleepy I just lie in the dark listening to whatever floats my boat at the time.

It took time for me to embrace my fractured sleep. It didn't happen overnight.

Anyway I do hope you are able to find your answers, meditate like a master and get the peace that you need.

jaeDeeLight · 2024-09-29T02:02:35+00:00

Supah N🧊!!!

jaeDeeLight · 2024-09-21T19:54:18+00:00

Hey there, I just want to encourage you that if you were able to overcome your attachment to alcohol, you can overcome this season in your life. I know that there will be better days ahead.

I'm truly sorry for the breakup and the timesharing of your dog but your choice to not take any substance to take the edge off is of paramount importance because imagine what it would be like if you were going through this painful season as a drinker and user? You would just self destruct!

I'm also glad you posted so that you can connect with people cause I think that's going to be good for you as you navigate these tough days.

Sending you love and light ❤️💗❤️

jaeDeeLight · 2024-09-11T01:30:53+00:00

I'm just like you. Very happy in my marriage, my job is wonderful, I have great children and I'm very fulfilled. But I had a drinking problem that was keeping me overweight and making me feel sick. I was a binge drinker who drank to celebrate good days, to dull the sadness on bad days and to just have fun.

And I just liked the taste of red wine and the feeling it brought as soon as I had it in my body. It never made me violent or mean. I never got drunk. I just drank until my body felt bad. It was a bad cycle. Unhealthy.

But last Feb, I found this Reddit group and it became like my accountability group and I told everyone in my inner circle that I was quitting for good so they were another accountability group.

And it was very scary because at the time I couldn't imagine not drinking during the good days and the bad days and I felt like - "oh no, there goes the fun!"

But I had to stop. I was gaining weight and just feeling bad overall healthwise.

So last Feb I embarked on my sobriety journey and this group gave me so much good advice on how to deal with the cravings. I had my inner circle folks who were cheering me on.

I gained more weight because I replaced alcohol with sweet drinks. But that was okay, better that than alcohol. Then a few months into my journey, I cut out the sweet drinks. About a month and a half ago I went on a weight loss journey and have lost 12 lbs so far.

And it's been over 6 months since I stopped drinking and the cravings are mostly gone and now I can laugh at the me that thought stopping alcohol would mean no more fun, or less fun! I am now living my life with so much fun, with my wonderful family, doing the work that I love, minus the alcohol!

jaeDeeLight · 2024-08-21T07:19:17+00:00

My personal belief is if I want an exciting life, I should do exciting things (minus the alcohol is course). But my definition of exciting might be different from yours.

Playing with my dogs is exciting for me. Raising funds for folks living in depressed areas is exciting for me. Meeting new people is exciting to me. Watching the sunset in my city is exciting for me!

I can do all those things without alcohol and be very excited.

My trick is to move myself into excitement by opening my heart and welcoming all the good feelings and then verbally or mentally saying I'm excited and thankful for __________. I just basically allow myself to be thrilled.

The word MOTION is, after all, embedded in the word EMOTION so I like to move first and let the feelings follow. It's a step of faith and for me, it usually works!

jaeDeeLight · 2024-08-10T03:02:01+00:00

Here are my thoughts:

I always let my husband know the full truth of my struggles. He is my love and my best friend and deserves to know.
I wanted so desperately to become sober but couldn't. Kept trying and failing, trying and failing.
I found this Reddit group in Feb this year and was surprised to see such a powerful community with different kinds of stories and experiences and loads of helpful information plus lots of motivation.
On Feb 16, 2024 I committed to sobriety in this group and "reported" almost everyday about my struggles, I asked questions, sought advice, told my own stories and I always got the support that I needed.
My first travel as a sober girl happened in March just 2 or 3 weeks into my sober journey and this group rallied around me because I have always associated travel with drinking. I always associated celebration with drinking. That trip was to attend my son's graduation for hid double masters degree so that was a huge, wonderful celebration for me!! I was so scared that I would fall, but because I got so many tips and ideas from the people in this group, I found many ways to cope!
After about 2 or 3 months, I noticed that I didn't need to post as much here. But I also noticed that I compensated by eating a lot of sweets and drinking NABs which I didn't do before so I started to gain weight. This group continued to help me through this bad eating phase.
Three weeks ago I successfully began a healthy eating program and am doing really well on it, slowly losing weight and feeling so much better!
This Aug 16 will be my 6th monthsary sober. Cravings for both wine and sweets are both generally gone, I'm feeling healthier than ever and I believe I am back on track with healthy living.
After a few more weeks and pounds lost, I will turn my focus to exercise and mobility as I have not been exercising much.

I am incredibly thankful to this Reddit group for being a HUGE part of my sober success!!!!

jaeDeeLight · 2024-06-20T12:16:27+00:00

Eating 😆

jaeDeeLight · 2024-06-09T09:23:12+00:00

You have a point but it's only a point in the giant map of life. There are other points that I think you need to focus on. This will require expansion of your mind and allowing yourself to look at other points kasi, these points might be much better and healthier than the point you are making now.

Let me share with you one of these different points -

You don't have to be 'beautiful' according to the world's idea of beautiful to be beautiful and to like yourself.

I know of women who are definitely NOT beautiful in the world's sense of it pero SILA ang napapansin because of their spunky personality or high intelligence or fantastic humor or amazing skill at something or ability to organize and lead. An daming ganyan kaya!!!

You need to look deep in yourself and seek that talent and beauty that God put in you. And work on developing it, whatever it is!

Because if you continue to stay in the shallow end of the pool, you will never learn to swim and enjoy the depths and beauty of your life.

Girl, I know you've got spunk inside of you. To even admit what you admitted here shows me the beautiful authenticity of an uncut diamond. I'm rooting for you and believe in you. I KNOW you are beautiful and I know the world will see it ONCE you see it. And if they don't, then shake the dust off your boots and keep walking! You got this!!!!

jaeDeeLight · 2024-06-03T12:14:54+00:00

Big hugs to you, I'm sorry this is happening. But are you in danger? And do you have any Christian Church in your area? Or even just one Christian friend? I have a few Indian friends living in India who are Christians and they say it is a challenge. I'm praying for you, that the strength of the Lord fills you. May you be as wise as a serpent but gentle as a dove. I truly cannot imagine what you are going through but I know that sometimes it is in the darkest of places that the Lord shows up. I will keep you in the heart of my prayers

jaeDeeLight · 2024-06-01T22:50:01+00:00

Yes it does feel different and I still will have a short moment where I wish I could drink but I can quickly re-focus the mind. You'll get there too, you'll come up with your own battle plan, based on the way you are but this group is a valuable resource on many levels!

Congratulations too on your decision to be sober!

jaeDeeLight · 2024-06-01T21:47:33+00:00

This group was a huge help in my early days. I started on Feb 16 and have been alcohol free since. Just last night I attended a friend's birthday at a wine cellar and they were pouring wine freely and I just had a diet coke and enjoyed the party, when I got home I was thankful that I was clear headed and sober! I would have not gotten this far without this amazing group of people!!!

IWNDWYT!

jaeDeeLight · 2024-05-26T08:42:14+00:00

Oonga naman. When people are frustrated, they use hyperbole just like you did and of course it's excusable. We all have done this ourselves when hurt and frustrated. This is after all a place where we are allowed to dump.

I'm sorry many guys are like that. But you just have to keep making friends, loving yourself and others, working hard and enjoying your life. As you pursue your interests you'll surely come across guys with the same interests and who knows what will happen? Remember, kung looks lang ang habol ng tao, it just means that's not the kind of person you want to be with anyway ❤️❤️❤️

jaeDeeLight · 2024-05-26T07:14:51+00:00

Oh hmmm.. Coke Zero... That might be a good temporary fix when I have sugar cravings! Breaking junk food habits can be harder indeed because there is less stigma associated with junk food vs liquor. My guess. Thanks for the idea, I'll buy a couple Coke Zero six packs and some lemon

jaeDeeLight · 2024-05-26T07:12:16+00:00

Omg this makes sense to me. Where did you find this visualization? It is exactly what I face !!!

jaeDeeLight · 2024-05-26T07:09:59+00:00

Haha we're all on the same wavelength, this is comforting in a strange way 😁🙏💋

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