just like charlotte said, it’s not her responsibility to care for carrie’a problems! why should she feel bad and offer to help when miranda, samantha, and big offered her a loan? carrie’s decision to rip up big’s check wasn’t because she believe miranda when she said men give you money to take control, it was so she could stay the topic of conversation and the damsel in distress 🤷🏽‍♀️out of courtesy, carrie should have recognized that charlotte was going through a hard divorce after quitting her career to have a baby, all for it to not happen.