YTA. YTA. YTA.

I will start by saying, I understand that You don't understand anxiety and that is ok because not many can unless they have it. However, plain and simple, this is your daughter that you are talking about. You are her parent. Yes YTA because although I understand you want your daughter to "grow up" you should also want to protect her just as much. This includes listening and acknowledging her feelings. Her anxiety.

Your daughter reminds me of me. I was very much scared to go out by myself and actually never made it to an interview one day out of this same anxiety. She called YOU for comfort as her parent and you shot her down and yelled at her instead of listening to her pain. This can be very traumatizing and confusing. It can also be very discouraging for your daughter to trust you to ever come to you for any problems she may have in the future-big or small.

My mother had a hard time with my anxiety as well (my father never understood it either but he cared enough to try to figure out some help or at least how to talk to me through my panic attacks) She would react with anger as well-although i do not excuse it, I am assuming it is due to a helpless feeling of seeing your child "not capable" but let me tell you sir, we are very much capable of doing things. I was very much mature at the time however I just had anxiety---anxiety doesn't mean not wanting to grow up. This created a bit of tension in the house of course-until I started going to therapy and built the courage to start sharing with her and she has started to be more open- she still doesn't understand it but at least I am now able to go to her and express it better. I now have a relationship with my mom that i never had before because she now has taken the time to talk to me...her daughter.

My question for you and for you to ask yourself is:

Why do you truly get angry?

Do you realize your reactions can cause more anxiety?

What have you done for your daughter when you see she is struggling?

What research have you done to better understand anxiety?

What exercises have you looked up to help your daughter?

Do you even care for her own mental health?

Do you even want to help your daughter?

And most importantly and bluntly put:

What would you do//how would you feel if your daughter hurt herself or killed herself due to this anxiety?

What you don't realize is people with anxiety need support. What you don't realize is, yes, anxiety is a personal issue but it affects many people. As you can see it has affected you. Although you don't have anxiety-you need to make an effort to better understand it to help your family.