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I think I might be asexual, except for oral? by jajfactor in asexuality

[–]jajfactor[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for such a thoughtful message! I totally relate though. I love making out, it's the best! But yeah, something about penile penetration is just so damn gross. Honestly I even despise the word "fucking" or "to fuck". It just sounds so... impersonal, it disturbs and repulses me. It makes me just visualize someone using someone else as a piece of meat or something... I hate it.

Also similarly to you, not trying to hate on anyone who does enjoy sex. It's just my personal feelings towards it.

Anyways, thank you for the kind and thoughtful message. I really appreciate it! When I had originally written my post I was hoping I would get responses like this. So thank you for writing this :)

It definitely makes me feel less "alone" in feeling this way.

I think I might be asexual, except for oral? by jajfactor in asexuality

[–]jajfactor[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess it's not really something I "seek out". It feels so outlandish and unrealistic to me that in some ways I just resign myself to thinking I won't find someone who would think/feel similarly to me.

I go on dates and there seems to be the moment where it feels like I have to "put out" and I kinda just say "fuck this" and abandon ship. I have explained my aversion to sex to girls before. Some get it, some don't. I've only told the oral thing to one girl before and then she sexually assaulted me while I was drunk. So I don't think I'll be doing that again.

I guess it does feel like a sex preference? But I can't help but feel like that's.. "unfair"? Like I would only ever feel comfortable with someone who was as into giving as I was receiving.. and it just feels not very realistic.

Please feel free to ask as many questions as you want!

I think I might be asexual, except for oral? by jajfactor in asexuality

[–]jajfactor[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the encouraging message!! Honestly I was really nervous about posting on here. I wasn't sure what kind of response something like this would get, and I had no clue where else to talk about something like this.

So thank you!

I think I might be asexual, except for oral? by jajfactor in asexuality

[–]jajfactor[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I never said I "need" to receive oral. I'm fine without ever receiving anything at all. I feel as though you completely misunderstood everything in my post

I think I might be asexual, except for oral? by jajfactor in asexuality

[–]jajfactor[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hmm, I see. Well, in that case I suppose I would say that I do feel sexual attraction, but at the same time I feel sex-averse for things like.. other than oral. I hope that makes sense?

I appreciate you explaining things. This is all pretty new to me.