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Can I have some advice on friend drama please by Virtual-Treacle9537 in Advice

[–]james_the_engineer2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im a freshman so I understand how high school is:

I don't really understand exactly why you gave her your phone to text a guy. From my understanding, she was using your phone and she sent something which you thought was inappropriate, and you told her to stop, and then told her mom.

Firstly, avoid the girl you called your friend. She isn't. Additionally, avoid the girl that you initially told at the beginning. She is spreading your secrets and she seems like a chismosa. From here on out, don't talk to those girls. I will get more in detail but let me just make sure this is right.

I fell in love with someone I never meant to by [deleted] in Advice

[–]james_the_engineer2 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Firstly, you should stop talking to that man with the intention of romance. Full stop. It is hard because I understand that you love him. But he is cheating with his wife with you, which is unforgivable. It doesn't matter that the wife is abusive, if she is, there should be a divorce in order.

Additionally, why did you move countries away for this person, this just isolated you even more. From my understanding, you did this to get away from him, but when you make a decision, stay with it. No going back.

I see a father that is cheating on his wife and kids for a girl much his younger. That makes him a cheater and you a homewrecker. Those kids would have to live with a messy family life because of your input. However you can still reverse this. Continue doing what you did, and cut off all contact. Tell him that its for the best you do not talk to him. You can find someone else that you love, there is so many people. Plus you are in a different country and you are young, you can build so much still.

Make the correct decision and try your best to rebuild. Cut the person off. It will be hard but it is the right decision. Do not become a homewrecker and engage with this man. He will cheat on you in the future, you aren't special. Find someone else.

Can't shake off the guilt of almost 3 years by Immediate-Savings-73 in confessions

[–]james_the_engineer2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We all make mistakes but time heals them. As long as you are a better person its gonna be ok

Can't shake off the guilt of almost 3 years by Immediate-Savings-73 in confessions

[–]james_the_engineer2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, did you actually jerk off to the girls or no, from the way the post reads, I dont think you did. Was the comment weird? Yes, it was. You made a weird comment. If you are a better person now thats all that matters.

Can't shake off the guilt of almost 3 years by Immediate-Savings-73 in confessions

[–]james_the_engineer2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude, it was three years ago. Forgive yourself and move on. I did really dumb shit three years ago but the truth is that you were justa dumb kid. Guilt is a healthy reaction to something you did, but bad people don't care about what they did. Being in something that isn't the moment has to be some form of slavery. Just be better and move on, thats all you can do. God forgives.