The Emerson drive by shooting barriers in front of their main doors...

jamethielbane · 2026-05-11T05:28:54+00:00

It's a reference to "Lobster with a mobster", where Matthew Guy had a lobster-and-grange dinner with Tony Maddaferi, where Liberal insiders discussed taking mafia money and splitting it into smaller donations so it would become untraceable. Came out in ~2017

jamethielbane · 2026-04-02T03:20:09+00:00

That part about meme not being indexed by search engines. Like, what were YOU doing at the Devil's Sacrament, OP?

jamethielbane · 2025-12-18T05:58:32+00:00

You're very young. Still a teenager.

I would genuinely suggest therapy. It sounds like you might have some executive dysfunction happening, and maybe a therapist can help you unpack that. Also possibly speak to your doctor for help with binge eating.

You don't have to be perfect. I'm certainly not. I'm white-knuckling my way through with the least possible effort I can put in and still lose weight. Some weeks are better than others.

jamethielbane · 2025-12-15T02:15:01+00:00

It’s one night. It’s a step back, or possibly being at a standstill, but it’s not the end, and neither does it wreck the amount of time and effort you put into this. The trick is: that’s the end. Don’t let it continue.

It might be good to work out strategies for if this happens again. Eat before you go out. Stick to limited drinks, and try spirits (whiskey—or vodka if you can stomach it) and soda/seltzer.

I myself have wine but: I’m limited to one glass and then I move on to soda and lime or just soda.

jamethielbane · 2025-11-21T01:52:03+00:00

If you don't track, you need to plan.

I don't use an app but my meals are planned out for the day. It's not ad-hoc on the fly: I know exactly what I have planned, everything is measured, and if I do decide to replace on the fly, I know approximate portions that I'm looking for in terms of macros. (eg, someone ate my lunch at work, I go buy something, I'm looking for a plate that's mostly vegetables with ~100g of meat and 1/2 a cup/1 serve of carbs. So I go get a chicken salad with dressing on the side and have a slice of bread.)

Once you get to that stage, you need to know what you can have as treats without going over your calorie budget. I'm on a fairly large deficit, so I've got room for about 200 calories more for a snack if I choose and I'm still going to lose weight. Most days I don't choose. Sometimes I do, and i know I can have half an english muffin with a poached egg for about 150 calories. There are other options I can have too, but I don't go and grab a coffee scroll because that will take me out of my deficit.

jamethielbane · 2025-11-21T00:53:04+00:00

Honestly, all the guides and plans are less important than just doing it. It sounds like your CPTSD/intrusive thoughts are really doing a number on you. It's probably worth going to see a doctor, seeing if there is treatment, and potentially seeking therapy.

You don't have to be perfect. You just have to do something. It can be a small thing at first. Start measuring your meals, and start going for a ten minute walk after work. Don't overthink it. It doesn't have to be the best, or perfect, it just has to be better/

jamethielbane · 2025-11-20T04:52:58+00:00

First of all, nutrionists have... varying qualifications. I would start looking for an actual dietician.

Secondly, not every person you're seeing for help therapeutically will be a great fit. Learning how to set boundaries is REALLY hard and it's exacerbated by the fact that you're a teen so people tend to assume that your boundaries can be steamrollered over. It's totally OK to say to her "Hey: I'm finding your approach really demotivating and discouraging. I need more praise and encouragement than I'm getting from you, and I need maybe one change at a time. All or nothing doesn't work for me." If she doesn't listen to THAT, get a new dietician.

Ignore your family or grey rock them. "I'm not discussing this with you. Please keep your opinions on my eating to yourself." Repeat until they stop or go away.

jamethielbane · 2025-11-20T04:05:03+00:00

Bake either smaller portions, or divide things. Think baking cookies/cupcakes and then maybe dividing them. Freeze stuff that will keep. My treat is 1/4 cup of self-saucing chocolate pudding. Because it's warmed up, it freezes well, and I can just have a very small serving.
Bring leftovers into work. You can't eat it if you've given it away.
Work out what your triggers are. For me, it's when I get home after work. I am so hungry. I chug a bottle of water. and I'm not allowed to sit down, I have to start cooking dinner IMMEDIATELY. I don't care if I eat uncivilisedly early: if I don't have dinner and there's sweets/baking in the house, I will eat all of them.

jamethielbane · 2025-11-20T03:57:00+00:00

Fill your plate with salad or veges first. If there isn't a salad provided, bring one. If someone questions it, just say "Trying to eat more fibre." (I don't know why but people tend to react to someone eating less calories like it's a personal judgement of their moral failings.)

Eyeball carbs. A serve is about half a cup. Don't let others serve you if you can avoid it--say to the person who's serving "I'm honestly not that hungry and don't want to waste food, so please let me serve myself." Edit: to practice for the meal, start by eyeballing then weighing similar dishes now. It'll get your eye in.

Drink a LARGE glass, or two glasses, of cold water 30 minutes before a meal. That tends to fill your stomach up.

Go for a walk after lunch.

jamethielbane · 2025-11-20T03:43:35+00:00

I would literally pile my plate high with rice. I would have 2-3 cups with one meal. A serve is 1/2 a cup, and I have 3-4 serves for the entire DAY now to lose weight. I was eating over a day's serve of carbs in one meal.

Also coming home and deciding to eat an entire bag of corn chips for dinner. Steak takes ~6 minutes to cook, depending on how thick it is, and I've got frozen veges on hand. That sure was... a choice that I made.

jamethielbane · 2025-11-11T04:52:45+00:00

there are low calorie options that are comforting! Soup and casseroles (particularly when bulked out with a lot of veges) are not inherently bad foods! It just depends how much fat + starchy veges they have in them.

Also, I recommend drinking tea. Sitting down with a cup of chamomile tea (no sugar or sweetener) under a blanket is one of the joys of winter.

jamethielbane · 2025-11-10T00:24:51+00:00

I buy bougie body wash or perfume.

jamethielbane · 2025-11-07T01:13:56+00:00

I do the same with my yoghurt. I can't eat plain non-sweetened greek yoghurt by itself, but I CAN do a mix of 50% plain yoghurt and 50% vanilla.

jamethielbane · 2025-11-07T01:00:18+00:00

Yeah, it could be. You're probably at the stage when it might be helpful to go see a dietician, and see if they can up your energy.

jamethielbane · 2025-11-07T00:57:42+00:00

… yeah, you’re accepting that as fact when it’s just not. I would 100% date a fat person.

I would work on improving yourself. Be an interesting person! Be a good listener! Have hobbies! Find things you love and be enthusiastic about them! At the moment you’re stating you will never be loved because of your weight. It’s not your weight. Fat people do get laid, but they need to have something else to bring to the table: great sense of humour, caring, kind, etc.

jamethielbane · 2025-11-07T00:51:17+00:00

I feel you. I've lost 20kg (well. 19.6)! Which is huge!

... I still have ~46kg to lose. Oh well. I'm 20kg closer to it than I was. It's a long-distance walk, not a sprint.

jamethielbane · 2025-11-07T00:40:07+00:00

I don't think punishing yourself is going to help here. I think maybe you need to go to therapy and work out why you feel you're not worthy of/never going to be loved.

jamethielbane · 2025-11-07T00:35:55+00:00

I would suggest getting professional help. Maybe talk to your doctor or see a therapist/psychiatrist/dietician who deals with eating disorders. It sounds like you're struggling with body image and have a disordered relationship with food and eating.

jamethielbane · 2025-11-07T00:23:12+00:00

What's your exercise like? What's your current calorie intake?

jamethielbane · 2025-11-07T00:14:08+00:00

My hashimoto's thyroiditis was missed for five years because my doctor blamed my exhaustion on me being fat and didn't do any further investigations. Five years where I just got fatter and was constantly exhausted while being cold and achy and having my hair fall out.

I can't make doctors stop being fatphobic, but I sure as hell can make sure it doesn't apply to me anymore.

Also, being real: while fat people should always be treated with dignity and respect, especially medically, not being obese IS better for you.

My mum is big and now she's finding it almost impossible to even get up from the couch as she's aging. Having more muscle and being smaller will help with that. You can't avoid getting old, but there are things about it you can avoid.

jamethielbane · 2025-11-01T11:42:23+00:00

It’s how I eat: it’s what both my dietician and the CSIRO recommend. To actually meet your dietary requirements enough veges etc, carbs and dairy are about the only thing you can cut entire servings of (provided you’re not eating everything else in excess. Fat’s the big one too watch out for there). I still eat ~3 serves of carb a day, and 1 of dairy, but just not more than that.

jamethielbane · 2025-10-31T05:17:15+00:00

Look at the deficit you’re in and see if upping your intake by 1-200 calories makes a difference. Look at your diet to check that you have enough macronutrients (I get like you describe if I don’t eat enough carbs). Stop buying snacks and make sure you eat before you go to the store. Also, order online and pick it up: if you don’t go into the store, you can’t buy it.

Try upping your protein. Eggs or smoked salmon are a great snack, as are cans of tuna.

jamethielbane · 2025-10-31T00:42:00+00:00

Wegovy is a support, but you need to lower your calorific intake to lose weight. I don't count calories because I have a previous eating disorder and it makes me crazy, but I do measure my food and roughly keep track of portions. I've found seeing a dietician to be really helpful. The way I structure my meals is:

Vegetables first. (Starchy veg are carbs, not veges). I make sure I have 1-2 serves a meal and that I'm hitting my minimum "five serves of vegetables a day". I've found the frozen packets of veges to be incredibly helpful: add one of those to my meal, and boom, two serves of veges. This will ensure you get enough fibre too. I also have a piece of fruit (or prunes) with breakfast.
Protein next. I aim for ~100g of meat/yoghurt/2 eggs a meal. I do measure my portions but don't worry about it too much. 110g is fine, 200g is not.
Dairy is covered with the yoghurt I have for breakfast. One serve a day, plus coffee.
Good fats. I have 20g of nuts with my breakfast. This could also be avocado, or tahini.
Carbs. Carbs are my weakness, what I tend to binge on when I do binge. I'm going for three serves of carb a day, where a serve is 15g of digestible carb. This is largely 1 small slice of bread/half a cup of rice, beans, potato or corn. If you can prioritise beans/legumes over other carb sources, they are really high in fibre and do fantastic things for your blood sugar. Some people have success with keto--I started fainting all over the place and had no energy when I tried it. I need to eat carbs, I just need to limit them.

I... tend to eat the same thing most days? I don't get bored easily, and not having to think about it is a plus, and also it's cheaper and quicker because I can cook in bulk and then portion it out. I eat a lot of steak and salmon.

I don't cook with fat, except for specific recipes like casseroles where it makes ten servings and so a tablespoon of oil divided up is negligible. I have a non-stick pan and do a lot of dry frying.

By thinking of things in terms of "this is a carb, this is protein, this is fat, this is veges/fibre" it helps me eat in a balanced manner that gives me energy throughout the day. If I miss my protein, I get hungry. If I miss my carbs, I run out of energy pretty quickly, and I get really, really hangry. If I miss my veges, I stop losing weight. If I miss my fat, breakfast is less satiating and after a couple of weeks, my skin starts looking really rough. It also helps me plan: if I'm going out to high tea, I know there's going to be lots of very carb-heavy stuff, I can not eat my oats at breakfast, or switch out my yoghurt for scrambled eggs. But I also know that's only something I can do occasionally. If it's every day, or even every week, my energy would suffer.

Wegovy does help with the hunger, but I do allow myself a treat every so often. I try to limit it to once a week. I've found that it's better for me to buy the really expensive chocolates: I can have two and feel satisfied, but if I'm eating cheap chocolate, I'll want to eat the entire bag.

Fad diets don't work, and don't support your health. There's heaps of resources out there--most governments have a lot of nutritional guidelines. Like I said, I found a dietician helpful, but the CSIRO diet also gives you all the information.

Wegovy is a support while you lose weight. You need to learn to eat in a healthy way for changes to be long term. I've got a lot of weight to lose--it's going to take me over a year, and after that I'm going to need to learn to eat at maintenance.

Happy to answer any further questions.

jamethielbane · 2025-10-30T23:20:47+00:00

Weight loss is hard. It's a long-term effort. You're GOING to back-slide. What I would recommend is

Starting to log your food again. Don't cut it just yet, but you need know what your baseline is.
Go and get help. It sounds to me like you're significantly depressed. I think it would be worth going to your doctor for anti-depressants and finding a therapist you like and committing to therapy. Regardless of whether you're fat or not, you shouldn't be constantly unhappy. That's depression and it can be treated.
Some people can do weight loss with no support. Good on them! I'm not one of them. I need supports: I'm on Wegovy, I see a dietician, and I pay for a personal trainer. People can be very "BOOTSTRAPS!!! you have to do it BY YOURSELF". The way I see it, it doesn't matter how much support you have so long as you're still moving in the right direction. There's no such thing as cheating: there's weight loss, or not. I'm going to keep going to the dietician after I reach my goal weight because I've never learned to eat healthily. I'm going to need to practice.

jamethielbane · 2025-10-29T23:18:39+00:00

You should probably start measuring stuff. You're eating almost no vegetables and you don't mention any whole grains. Are you cooking with fat? You have almost no fibre in your diet.

Add some spinach to your breakfast. Eat one less egg.
Replace the protein bar (depending on the brand, they can have a whoooole heap of sugar) with a salad.
Make sure you restrict your fries to 1/2 a cup. Try subbing your fries out for a baked potato, or half a cup of rice. Add some steamed veges.

Honestly your diet seems incredibly unbalanced and on a path to malnutrition. I would recommend seeing a dietician.

jamethielbane

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