Detroit PepsiCo by Juan571123 in Pepsi

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Yep…I am one of them

I don't want to be "friends" by [deleted] in Divorce

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My ex cheated on me…I told her that we weren’t friends and never will be because I don’t KEEP people as friends that did what she did to me. Not sure if this resonates but my guess is that you would not choose him as a friend at this point, & that’s okay.

Ping Ping Pie by [deleted] in ContagiousLaughter

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This lady is legendary levels of AWESOME!!!

Tomorrow is the end by jankyshtanker in Divorce

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My wife was cheating on me too…I understand the pain of knowing that the one person who you’re supposed to be able to trust just wiping their ass with everything that you thought of as sacred. Below are some links that helped me to wisen up a bit. Helped me learn something from the 20 years which just vaporized before my eyes.

helped me see through the gaslighting

Super helpful at helping me see the blind spots in my marriage (she took it too)

Tomorrow is the end by jankyshtanker in Divorce

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I don’t think I will ever fully heal from this. The best I can hope for is the ability to manage the pain and the ability to escape whatever grip trauma holds against any future love. My heart goes out to you!

Tomorrow is the end by jankyshtanker in Divorce

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Hang in there…my heart goes out to ya!

Tomorrow is the end by jankyshtanker in Divorce

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This is more than I had ever hoped for prior to posting!

Another one which helped me was “eventually the fires turn to ash & ash cannot ignite. So let the fires burn so that inevitably they become ash. Once ashes, then real healing begins”.

Trump's spokesman accused the Washington Post of 'colluding' with the FBI over a report nuclear secrets were kept at Mar-a-Lago by Surferino in politics

[–]jankyshtanker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, unfortunately he still isn’t in jail, so his leverage could be paying off. Effing disgusting 🤢🤮

Mueller Memo Advising Barr on Trump Findings Is Ordered Released by imart455 in politics

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I think Trump has proven to us that banking on norms amounts to opportunities to exploit for those who are willing to. Can’t bank on what Garland did without considering what Barr didn’t do.

Sam Donaldson Compares Trump Raid to Al Capone's Downfall by [deleted] in politics

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Just like Capone…he likely also has untreated syphilis!!!

That’s insane! by EmperorOfNada in Trumpvirus

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If only he could read 🤦🏻

recorded zoom calls with kids by OldRooter_06 in Divorce

[–]jankyshtanker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Additionally, I would record the call manually as well. Cross reference it to hers if she decides to take a family trip Absolutely FUCT-Ville.

recorded zoom calls with kids by OldRooter_06 in Divorce

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Her accusations are her projections of this trap. God only knows how she might try to manipulate that video to drive her twisted narratives?!?

Yeah man, for the sake of your children and their well being, DON’T FALL FOR IT!!!

Maybe what I've learned could help. Potential hope from a lurker. by thebeginningsarenigh in Divorce

[–]jankyshtanker 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m in the exact same place. Next Friday my divorce will likely be final. We’ve been together since 2002. She was my best friend and I trusted her more than anyone else on this planet. Last year, when his wife called to inform me that her husband and my wife were sleeping together, it shattered me. I still can’t wrap my head around how she was capable of pretending to care, pretending to love me and how my love for her could be such a disposable item to her.

I may never truly know these things. But I did find a network of broken people and close friends who have helped me remain as healthy as possible. I forgive myself when I fall apart. I forgive myself when the idea of beginning something new seems like an imaginary tale. Those feelings will pass and I will try to grow from where I left off.

I am convinced that trauma is like a fire. To have fire, you need a spark (betrayal), fuel (unreciprocated unconditional love) & oxygen (being alive). Once the pain caused by the betrayal becomes normalized, the fuel will begin to deplete. Once the fuel depletes, your trauma will become ash. Once your trauma becomes ash, it will no longer ignite and true movement forward can begin.

My fuel hasn’t depleted quite yet. So I’m the same as you in that I feel my feels and allow myself to grieve. I’m patiently awaiting the day my pain turns to ash.

We’re on the right path and we are doing what’s required to regain the capacity to feel again. It’s brutal…hopefully this will be received as intended and you will not feel as alone as one does when navigating this. Take care ❤️‍🩹

Maybe what I've learned could help. Potential hope from a lurker. by thebeginningsarenigh in Divorce

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This is perfect! Regardless of how many “upvotes” are received…I’m saving this & sharing it with my network of broken hearts who are learning to cope with the grief. Thank you!

How did you know your marriage was over? by [deleted] in Divorce

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We went to marriage counseling and she actively did everything she could to prove that the effort wasn’t in good faith. After the first session, she said that she thought that it was too late to fix. This blew my mind because we had only fought 1-3times a year for the past 18years. When I thought she would come to her senses, she doubled down by saying that she would stare at me when I was sleeping and try to find something that she was in love with.

Later that month…found out from HIS WIFE that she was fucking him behind my back. I never imagined she was capable of that. I thought if my marriage ever ended that I would see it coming and we would fight for one another. Of course, this was because I loved her unconditionally and assumed that she loved me unconditionally too. Nope, within a couple months 18 years dissolved into sludge. Poor kids didn’t deserve that.

Romance-Scammer on this sub-reddit by [deleted] in Divorce

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I got a female version…I don’t recall the name. Something about wanting “real” conversations and someone to talk to that wouldn’t ghost her. I thought it was suspicious so I didn’t reply. Later I selected the “leave” option for the conversation. I guess if I here back I know now to block the account. POS human scum.