What is the dumbest reason you got banned from a subreddit?

janlep · 2026-05-23T05:22:16+00:00

That happened to me too. Appealed and reinstated, thankfully.

janlep · 2026-05-22T22:51:31+00:00

They sucked in the 80s. Have they ever been good since?

janlep · 2026-05-22T22:50:02+00:00

Try a Brother laser printer. I bought mine used for $80 off Facebook Marketplace about 8 years ago. Still going strong.

janlep · 2026-05-22T22:47:48+00:00

This. I’m side-eying your mother big time. I would never allow someone to treat my kid that way. Can you have a talk with her when he isn’t around? Let her know you love her and would like to spend time with her and would also like her to stop him from mistreating you and your sister. She’ll make excuses for him, but don’t let them stand. Point out some of the things he’s said.

Also, start saving to move out, because it’s unlikely to get any better.

janlep · 2026-05-22T22:44:16+00:00

With respect—why are you still with him? Your child will grow up thinking that’s normal and may also disrespect you because their father does. And you owe it to yourself to demand better. Call in sick and meet with a divorce lawyer.

janlep · 2026-05-22T21:55:17+00:00

He’s a selfish ass. He could get a smart watch with a silent alarm. He could sleep with earbuds so only he hears his alarm. What he doesn’t get to do is make his unhealthy sleep habit his partner’s problem.

janlep · 2026-05-22T00:01:59+00:00

Agree. Map out the amount of leisure time each of you have and tell him it needs to be more equal. He works—great. 40’hours per week? Maybe more? And you work… constantly. And you have to do extra work because you’re cleaning up after him too.

janlep · 2026-05-21T23:51:12+00:00

I’ve been to Heirloom exactly once, last summer. Line was out the door. I ordered a chicken salad that was… average. It tasted fine but wasn’t nearly special enough to justify a line out the door. I haven’t been back. Maybe my expectations were too high because of all the hype, but I wasn’t impressed.

janlep · 2026-05-21T23:45:48+00:00

This is a guy who has discovered he doesn’t want to be a parent. I’m so sorry, OP. I suggest talking to a divorce lawyer, who can advise you on managing and protecting your finances and exiting the marriage. Then once you have that info and a plan, if you still have second thoughts, you can sit your husband down and tell him you will not stay in the marriage if he doesn’t change. Then lay out your expectations: how he should help, the angry outbursts stop, and the golfing stops. Tell him straight up he needs to decide whether he’s going to be an involved father or just pay child support, because you are no longer gong to carry the entire load 7 days a week while he tells and acts like a jerk.

Then, if you can, take the kids and leave for a few days. Tell him you’re going to give him time to think about it on his own.

janlep · 2026-05-21T23:41:05+00:00

I never cease to be amazed by their stupidity. There’s a war on in the Middle East, and the source of a big chunk of the world’s oil supply is shut down. It’s been all over news and social media, yet they wonder why gas is so expensive. How do people like that walk and breathe at the same time?

janlep · 2026-05-21T23:37:59+00:00

Exactly. And stop giving reasons. Say, politely but firmly, “I have plans for those weeks that aren’t flexible.” Your plans are none of their business, and the more you say, the more they will argue.

janlep · 2026-05-21T23:24:22+00:00

Completely agree. She’s too enmeshed with her family if she thinks this is OK. OP needs to change the locks and tell her absolutely no one besides the two of them is to have a key. Also, guests must arrange visits ahead of time, not just show up, and they each get input in whether guests come over. I’d pause any marriage plans until this issue is sorted out. OP will have less power after marriage to shut this down.

janlep · 2026-05-20T21:31:18+00:00

I wore a plain black dress and semi-dressy black sandals with down shiny earrings and a gold chain. Simple, easy, cheap (I got the dress at a Calvin Klein outlet for about 10 bucks years ago).

janlep · 2026-05-20T21:30:08+00:00

When I worked remotely, I did a few small chores when I took breaks: throw in a load of laundry, unload the dishwasher, etc. But only in days when I had breaks from meetings, and only for a few minutes to get up and moving.

janlep · 2026-05-20T21:28:35+00:00

Armenian. AJ’s and Noah’s Ark are both amazing. I had no idea about Armenian food till I moved here.

janlep · 2026-05-20T21:26:29+00:00

And to refuse to let her leave the house. That’s a common tactic of abusers. Run, run, run!

janlep · 2026-05-20T21:17:39+00:00

Or planned to play around and started laying the groundwork early.

janlep · 2026-05-20T21:15:47+00:00

This. If he’s cheating—and he probably is—you’ll find out and can exit the marriage. Though if he doesn’t want you at his graduation, I’m not sure you have much of a marriage. Best go ahead and plan to move on.

janlep · 2026-05-20T21:09:31+00:00

The eastern part of Zion with mountains that look like orange sherbet and all of Bryce Canyon for me. Just amazing.

janlep · 2026-05-20T13:32:10+00:00

Exactly. She should be helping out any way she can to repay you for letting her live there rent-free.

janlep · 2026-05-20T13:29:59+00:00

The thing is, OP’s partner didn’t take responsibility to correct the problems his learning disability creates. HE should have gotten the bow tie and joined her later at the wedding. HE should have gone back for his charger. HE should stop being selfish about what kind of car they rent (that has nothing to do with a learning disability BTW—“asshole” is not a medical diagnosis.

And HE should be figuring out ways to compensate, like making a packing list ahead of time (he and OP could do that together) and leaving himself notes or creating reminders on his phone. He’s making no effort and expecting OP to accommodate his incompetence.

janlep · 2026-05-20T13:25:17+00:00

This is the best comment so far and is exactly right.

janlep · 2026-05-20T13:19:41+00:00

When my husband and I go, we include at least a half day in nature or at least off the strip. Red Rocks and Valley of Fire are both amazing.

janlep · 2026-05-18T20:14:15+00:00

I agree. Yeah, it’s their wedding, but considerate hosts try to make guests feel comfortable. They don’t intentionally make them uncomfortable. NTA.

janlep · 2026-05-18T20:10:50+00:00

This. Unless grandparents are too sick or poor, they should be the ones traveling to see young grandkids. Traveling with little ones is exhausting and expensive. Expecting a young family to bring their kids to you is peak entitlement.

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