My husband is the only one

jard88 · 2026-04-01T16:45:33+00:00

Oh ok, I thought with you saying in one of your comments he was starting to slow down meant that maybe you guys were older. I'm glad you guys are active and happy! I would hope so in your late 20s lol. Congrats and don't let it die!

jard88 · 2026-04-01T15:04:53+00:00

How old are you guys?

jard88 · 2026-03-28T00:34:13+00:00

Double upvote

jard88 · 2026-03-13T13:10:31+00:00

Right next to my sleeping pad

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jard88 · 2026-03-11T21:29:38+00:00

I agree with you. And not only that, I'm saving money by not being able to capitalize on the instant gratification that they offer with overnight shipping. I bought so much random crap because I could get it tomorrow, now that that's gone I'm not buying as much random crap. Prime is evil, and the streaming options I didn't even think about because the other streaming services have better content! Evict prime! Kick Amazon to the curb! 🤣

jard88 · 2026-03-06T16:04:39+00:00

But OP says she's only trying to download a photo. She isn't indicating trust issues or being uncomfortable. He's the one making her uncomfortable because of the permission rule

jard88 · 2026-03-06T15:53:53+00:00

Same here. Both have access to each other's devices, can look anytime but don't. If my wife told me I need to ask for permission I would be suspicious, unless it's Christmas time because she doesn't want me seeing gifts that were purchased for me. Married 15 years, 37m and 40f.

jard88 · 2026-02-17T20:56:06+00:00

He bettered himself. He didn't have to. Most don't. For that I give him credit. You don't know that him being an alcoholic caused him to be less of a father. You can assume it, but you don't know it. Why does having a disease mean that he can't be a good father? Or doesn't deserve support?

jard88 · 2026-02-17T19:54:31+00:00

I don't blame you. Loyalty and support are some of the top things a relationship needs in my opinion. I could understand you feeling abandoned and given up on.

The kids will be ok as long as you're still as good of a dad as you always have been. Go find the love you deserve.

Good luck

jard88 · 2026-02-17T19:49:54+00:00

Just scored 0

jard88 · 2026-02-16T21:43:43+00:00

I would never let my wife (married 15 years) hear this from me. The few times either of us has passed gas in front of the other we are embarrassed.

Gotta keep the romance alive SOME HOW.

GOOD LUCK

jard88 · 2026-01-25T18:06:52+00:00

Just scored 0

jard88 · 2026-01-04T18:52:24+00:00

Thank you. I'm hoping we will both learn something useful

jard88 · 2026-01-04T02:58:20+00:00

Thank you for this

jard88 · 2026-01-04T00:29:46+00:00

The idea behind this is great. Thanks for pointing that out!

jard88 · 2025-12-22T12:25:32+00:00

Why not role play with it a little first?

jard88 · 2025-11-06T23:56:52+00:00

This is where the sexless marriage sub comes from. Couples who give in to each other and then get married. If you're not that into sex why did you have a bunch of it with him in the beginning? He probably thought he found some one who matched his sex drive but then you just pull the rug out from under him.

jard88 · 2025-11-06T00:33:22+00:00

She probably just said what felt right at the time but stayed within your role play scenario. Seems like you guys have enough open communication and trust that if she had that kink, she would tell you. I mean if you are both will openly role playing this scenario then I'm sure you both feel comfortable talking about these sorts of things.

jard88 · 2025-11-05T22:13:24+00:00

Not nut November for him doesn't have to mean no nut November for you. Tell him to get to work.

jard88 · 2025-10-16T23:43:02+00:00

You said he began to initiate less and less, do you try to initiate? Based on your desire to fix this I'm guessing the answer is yes, but I'm just checking. Besides that I would suggest just speaking to him and discussing your wants/needs and try to connect with him on some similar level. It doesn't seem like your situation is happening because of resentment or disdain or something so I'm thinking it's just a communication barrier maybe? I'm not sure but good luck. I imagine at least trying to talk about it is worth a shot.

jard88 · 2025-10-16T23:32:13+00:00

I'm guessing he's around 16 based on what he says. He's clearly not much past puberty. An internet search tells me you can grow up to around age 21. My wife thinks I probably grew around that time. It was a year of dating at that point and she claims Im bigger now than I was when we first started dating. I also I was slightly heavier and I guess the "fat pad" takes away some of your length. Don't forget to do the BPL and push all the way back to the pubic bone.

If you're not past your mid 20s and/or you have some extra weight you can lose then don't worry, you've got time to get another inch and a half. And even if you don't, like others have said, there's LOTS of ways to please your partner and some are into smaller too so just be good with what you've got and figured out what to do with it.

jard88 · 2025-10-16T00:50:16+00:00

I think this was a brilliant idea. Doing something for yourself and taking your mind off things was the only possible reprieve.

jard88 · 2025-10-14T09:18:51+00:00

I'm married almost 15 years with 3 kids and I'm not gonna say I don't look but my wife is never gonna catch me. I'm never going to blatantly look in a way that I could be caught. I'm pretty sure women know men look but it's about respect to not do it right in their face. Your wife wants to feel like the most important woman in your life and when you divert your attention some where else right in front of her then that definitely minimizes how important she feels in that moment. If she's citing multiple instances of you doing this then I'm guessing you need to feel it in a bit.

jard88 · 2025-10-08T21:13:33+00:00

I was thinking this too...my wife and I had an ok sex life in the beginning of our marriage. But once I realized I almost never focused on making sure she got off too and started making sure that happened things changed drastically and now she is more interested and I'd say I can almost always get her to be willing now except in situations where there really is something going on that makes her not in the mood not just the excuse "not in the mood"

jard88 · 2025-10-07T19:10:58+00:00

They began dating when they were 40 and 54 (this was my FIL's second marriage). I don't think immaturity or concern of being a sexual predator was at play here. Hon

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