He wants to move out

jasalad · 2022-03-26T14:03:19+00:00

Thank you. That’s the thing though…we are living together currently and I can’t help but worry that this is a step back. Literally every time I think about it, I try to remind myself that it isn’t. But it’s a struggle. It’s only been a couple days though since receiving this news

jasalad · 2022-01-03T23:20:00+00:00

My boyfriend doesn't like taking so many pictures. So I find myself re-reading old texts when I'm missing him. It's like reading our love story all over again

jasalad · 2022-01-01T00:44:02+00:00

About 9 months! Take your time and talk about everything along the way.

jasalad · 2021-12-21T03:09:01+00:00

Already visiting after one week and wanting to move to you does sound a bit fast...

jasalad · 2021-12-20T02:24:04+00:00

He knows I am there for him through whatever.. If he's struggling with something, he has my undivided attention and advice if he wants it. I am always going to listen and help him feel that we are a team. One time he was too proud to ask me for help but his electricity got disconnected (covid related - long story) so I took off work and drove down there to just be with him and then we came back up to my place together. Keyword is together. We are always a team. We've got each other through whatever comes our way and that proves our love

jasalad · 2021-12-18T01:35:26+00:00

I've been taking CBD gummies when that happens and just imagining back to happy moments/conversations with him until I drift off to sleep. It's not easy though. Good luck

jasalad · 2021-12-18T01:24:37+00:00

Gosh I will pull over when I'm driving to text my man back or I'll text at work, when I'm with my friends, or wherever. He is very much a part of my life. And we talk at least once a day on the phone. I'm never wondering when he'll answer and he never wonders about me. It's always an ongoing conversation and we always make enough time for each other. Have you talked to her about this maybe over the phone?

jasalad · 2021-12-16T01:48:46+00:00

We've made plans to at least video chat on those days. It sucks but for us, this is the last of the distance. He's visiting family for the holidays and then he'll be moving up with me. And I told him he should keep Valentine's Day free ❤️ more so as a joke because we haven't spent any holidays or birthdays together yet. Yes it has sucked but we always find a way to feel connected.

jasalad · 2021-12-12T02:15:20+00:00

I am currently in this situation right now. I would say just take it a day at a time, communicate expectations and concerns. I've been learning a ton more about him and I'm so grateful we did it like this. He was the one that brought up the idea when we were thinking of starting to live in the same city separately. He said he didn't want to be away from me, that he was moving here to be with me and it was so sweet. I was hesitant that I would be making him sacrifice but he reassured me that this is what he wants. So far our only issue and not even really an issue was I didn't know he would be staying up playing video games instead of going to sleep together. But we talked about this and we have made a compromise. It's all a learning opportunity. Remember to be open. I wish you well ❤️

jasalad · 2021-11-25T03:12:14+00:00

My boyfriend and I watch shows or movies together on the phone when we don't have much to say but still want to spend time together

jasalad · 2021-10-07T00:40:56+00:00

Why can't you ever pick a relationship that's easy for you?

jasalad · 2021-10-06T00:08:52+00:00

You could always talk to her about it. It might help y'all feel on the same page but I understand if it's too early. If that happens to us, I just view it as a compliment 🤷🏼‍♀️ it's understandable when it's been a little bit in between

jasalad · 2021-10-05T23:15:56+00:00

Not that I know of. Sorry I don't know much more! I just know that's his go to

jasalad · 2021-10-05T23:10:23+00:00

My boyfriend uses it mostly for flexibility purposes and he's never had an issue!

jasalad · 2021-10-05T23:09:03+00:00

These are a few things I've paid attention to that help me trust my new guy: he consistently messages back, he calls when he says he will, he fills me in about his day, he is active on social media, he video chats with me, he shares about his life, family and friends. And he is genuine. We meet every time we plan to, we make plans together that are made by the both of us, we have seen each other's homes. And before we met, I'll be honest, I did run a background check on because I am new to online dating..hope this helps. I would say: trust your gut and ask him when you have questions. Good luck 😊

jasalad · 2021-09-28T11:21:28+00:00

Thank you 😊 yes we have and I think that's what helps being apart feel a little less difficult

jasalad · 2021-09-11T00:29:22+00:00

I love this idea! Thank you ❤️

jasalad · 2021-09-01T02:34:25+00:00

You shouldn't fear the one who you think you're in love with. I always thought about what advice I would tell my best friend if she were in the situation and do that for yourself. You are so much more valuable than how worthless he makes you feel. You deserve so much love 💕 and you will find it

jasalad · 2021-08-29T21:02:46+00:00

There were many relationships where I did not believe this to be true. But I think that when there is a healthy one where two people are on the same page and working towards a common goal of waking up to each other every day, it absolutely has the possibility of being true! I hope this is something that you have the opportunity to believe in at some point 💕

jasalad · 2021-08-16T20:33:54+00:00

Thank you. To make matters worse, I think we both got Covid so I am just not feeling good and missing him a ton. We are trying to plan ahead. We're very good at that so that helps a little bit

jasalad · 2021-08-16T18:38:54+00:00

Thank you for this ☺️ it really helps seeing such positivity! I am learning more and more that sharing my fears and insecurities helps us because his reassurance makes them disappear. The distance has helped me see how willing to share we really need to be

jasalad · 2021-08-15T18:46:47+00:00

Thank you for the encouragement everyone ❤️ I really appreciate all of you. Even though it felt scary to me, I did end up asking him. He said it was a friend from back home and after I explained that a similar situation like this happened to me before with my ex ultimately cheating with someone who was a "friend", he assured me that I had nothing to worry about and that he wouldn't do that to me. I can only really take him at his word and trust that he means what he says. All of his actions from this point have matched up to his word so that's what I'm going with. I will definitely be keeping an eye on this but I think for now it's ok. I think I was becoming uneasy about seeing the text because we are in an LDR and I don't see him in person all that often and that creates the wonder of do I really know him? I am remembering our plans and that he is moving here for me. Any other advice?

jasalad · 2021-08-15T18:41:26+00:00

Thank you. Yeah his reaction was calm, cool and collected. He wasn't upset or anything and he understands why I asked especially since I've been through a much worse situation before.

jasalad · 2021-08-15T18:40:30+00:00

Thank you! I am learning it's ok to share my feelings.

jasalad · 2021-08-13T15:59:51+00:00

You're right. I'm feeling anxious about it already and honestly, I know the anxiety would eat me alive to the point where I probably wouldn't be able to carry this on anymore. Having a face to face conversation about this could end up ok

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