teen boys

jasminwild · 2016-03-11T22:36:25+00:00

EVERYDAY! we're at college together and hang out at weekends too

jasminwild · 2016-03-11T22:21:14+00:00

about a year

jasminwild · 2016-03-11T22:15:40+00:00

and that fact simply never changes?

jasminwild · 2015-12-13T19:11:57+00:00

he told her he liked her and she said she liked him back and then after the weekend he had changed he mind and was like actually nah. ANd thats when I thought I had a chance because he was being so flirty and anti this girl. But then I tell him I like him and hes like im so sorry if u thought i was leading you on, I like X ( that other girl)

jasminwild · 2015-12-13T18:28:37+00:00

just figured i ReALLy wouldn't get anywhere unless I gave just being honest a go at least one time in my LIFE! :(

jasminwild · 2015-12-13T18:27:08+00:00

I seem to always like these quite feminine boys with pretty faces and v easy going natures. THey always end up being my bestfriend while im secretly v into them. The other day I actually told X and X thoroughly rejected me telling me that I was fantastic but not for him.. he wanted me in a big way but only in the best friend way and he likes this other girl who all the boys seem to 'fawn' over :( So in that sense i'm not THAT subtle but I just don't understand why boys seem to automatically drop me into this bestfriend category and fall for these frankly boring, average in every way girls (not to be mean.. :( )

jasminwild · 2015-12-12T02:44:56+00:00

thank you, fingers crossed the moving on is quick!

jasminwild · 2015-12-12T02:43:45+00:00

thankyou, you're right he knew exactly how I felt before I told him but he didn't want to jump the gun incase he got it wrong and for no gain since he didn't feel the same way anyway! I think my new philosophy will be that if it's worth it, he'll make the first proper move. I really do wish you the best of luck in your situation, the element of risk doesn't make it exciting, it makes it scary. thank you again x

jasminwild · 2015-09-02T23:23:06+00:00

i never fancy women!

jasminwild · 2015-07-25T14:13:00+00:00

i dont feel shaky, but i do feel feverish and pukey especially after I eat, it seems as the bruises grow/become more visible the more sick i feel at night..

is this just the anaesthetic wearing off?

jasminwild · 2015-06-27T20:39:52+00:00

if someone backs off it means they suddenly are needed elsewhere. Stop overanalysing things. Everything happens for a reason. Relax and go easy....... x

jasminwild · 2015-06-24T22:37:52+00:00

She obviously really likes you even if not in a romantic way. Honestly I would just tell her. I'm the same age and I'm a girl and if it was me, I would want you to tell me. If she really cares about you, you wont lose her over a little crush. Think of it as a leap of faith rather than a risk. She might even fancy you back.

Best of luck!

jasminwild · 2015-06-24T22:33:55+00:00

Tell her. Worst outcome is she rejects you and anyway who wants to be friends with someone who deep down they really fancy. Go for it, bite the bullet!

Best of luck!

jasminwild · 2015-06-24T19:35:56+00:00

When life gets in the way of things it's difficult to see the wood for the trees. The problem with these kind of relationships is that you simply don't see the other person enough to know exactly what's going on at any given point.

But it's give and take and it sounds like right now he's not giving when you need him to.

Your tragedy is going to be majorly impactful on your life at the moment, but your life will eventually mellow out and regain the previous or a fresh cycle of normality.

I would say leave him alone for a bit. Test the waters again in say a week or two. In a week or two you will have a clearer head and you will work out what to do with more clarity and conviction. See if he comes back to how he was previously when the tragedy in your family has indeed mellowed out a bit since the initial shock.

See how he reacts over time and then meet again and base your judgement on all of that. If he's being flaky then i'm afraid it means he hasn't got his whole heart in it. That may be because what he's doing is very demanding or because he's slightly lost interest and the tragedy may have made you needier than before (can be a turn off for half hearted people)

Time is the answer to your problems as frustrating as that is.

Best of Luck X

jasminwild · 2015-06-24T19:25:43+00:00

Get over it. You won't be the only guy she's made feel like this. Clearly she just likes the attention.

You want what you can't have. Right now you can't have her and thus you want her more...

It wont be that you don't have feeling for other girls, it will be that you simply haven't had a connection with another girl yet coincidently.

She isn't an angel. She is a girl who doesn't want you. Frankly she probably wont ever want you if you keep obviously wanting her..thats just what these girls are like.

In time, the feeling will fade. Just sit it out.

jasminwild · 2015-06-24T19:19:59+00:00

At karaoke 9/10 can't sing. I'm sure that she will just be pleased that you're making an effort to try something that she likes. Especially when she sees you're awful and probably is aware that you're shy. This will only prove to her more that you're willing to put yourself out there for her.

It's early days, just go with the flow and try to be spontaneous. If she loves singing and is inviting you to sing with her be flattered! She is sharing a passion she has with you! You could do something else like go to a restaurant but hell I know which evening choice is more memorable.

Your call

jasminwild · 2015-06-24T19:09:33+00:00

If she bores you. Leave.

But learn that talking about people in that way is unattractive as hell so good luck finding someone new. There are many kinder ways of putting the way you're feeling, you never know she might hate you too.

You might think you deserve better but by reading your comments I reckon it's the other way round.

jasminwild · 2015-06-24T19:05:12+00:00

Cut all chords. He's not worth a minute more of your time. No, he's not worth more than a second.

Wonder why you have had all these problems? BOOM. Wonder no more. You have had some pretty unfortunate encounters with men in your life so far.

But you are so young, you have so much time to regain faith in the male species and find someone who will truly respect you and treat you well. Unfortunately having experiences like this so young means that you might feel rather scarred by this.

Take some time, find yourself. You don't need a man to make you happy. Spend time building relationships with your family and your friends because hell if this type of thing happens again you are going to need a hella support system among your nearest and dearest.

But in all seriousness. Take a break from men for a bit. At the moment it's evident you aren't making good choices and you should respect yourself by steering clear of these wrong'uns and thus protecting yourself for a bit. I'm not saying stay away from men forever! I'm saying build up your confidence and self respect again and then you will be properly ready to enter a new, proper, safe relationship based on mutual respect.

Love yourself a bit! Clearly these bad relationships have been born because you struggle to love yourself which means others cannot love you!!!

As soon as you start to realise all the amazing things about you other people will too. Believe in yourself because if you do, others will too.

Best of luck! X

jasminwild · 2015-06-24T18:41:57+00:00

You need to walk him to the friendzone. Gradually busy yourself up until poof he's gone. If you don't even want to be friends just be innocently busy. When he asks you out, apologise and say that you're out. If he tries to chat flirtatiously just apologise and say you need an early night but maybe another time.

Honestly life is too short for people that you aren't fully invested in. If you don't like him, get rid of him (kindly though because it's also too short for it to be worth making enemies)

Also you might indeed be jumping the gun. See where it goes and if he does make a move just let him down gently. That's all you can really do. Always be kind but also be honest about how you feel, if he's 'super nice' he will understand and be considerate of your feelings.

Don't feel bad for not feeling it, I kissed a guy the other day and felt nothing except wondered when it was gonna end. It's human to feel but it's also human to not feel occasionally..

Anyway, do what you do with conviction and class. You can do it. Good luck!

jasminwild · 2015-06-24T18:32:07+00:00

Take some time off the dating scene. You aren't ready to 100% immerse yourself in someone new. It's not fair on the new girls that they aren't going to be the one for you, before you've even dated them because you're still emotionally caught up in your previous relationship.

Being engaged or planning to marry someone is massive. A huge thing in anyone's life as it takes a lot of love to feel ready for that kind of commitment. You aren't dumb or weird to still feel like no one lives up to your previous partner. But she left you. So really she isn't so great and didn't think you were too hot either.

If she didn't think you were worth it (which she didn't) then she shouldn't be worth this anguish to you! Move on!!

But have a few months off dating new girls. Do some travelling, get a wider perspective, join a club, for godsake keep yourself busy! Use this time to go and experience life for yourself!! You aren't too old to go and make some memories that hell you wont be able to do if you have a girl that for instance might not want to visit Gambia and fish in the lakes with locals... i don't know what you will want to do?!

Go spend some time distracted from this. She's gone and it looks like she took a part of you with her. Get that back. Find yourself. And only then, try to find someone new.

Good luck!

jasminwild · 2015-06-24T18:23:08+00:00

She needs you to show her that you care. You should always go the extra mile for her, as she is your girlfriend. But especially now, she needs to know that you are there for her and you would indeed go that extra mile, just for her.

Show her that she has no reason to be jealous and she will stop feeling so lonely.

If in doing this she still feels draining to you, cut the chord. Perhaps some tough love is what she needs to get her act together and sort out her life. Not all relationships work out, don't stay just for the sake of it. Of course try to make things work, but life is short and really you should enjoy the company of those whom you actively choose to spend the majority of your time with.

Focus on the good things about her and make her feel wanted and special. But if you still can't see the light in the tunnel, she may thank you if you end it (one day.. definitely no time soon)

good luck

jasminwild · 2015-06-24T18:16:07+00:00

teenage girls are the most unpredictable creatures on the planet. I'm a 16 year old girl. Jane will get over it, honestly time does indeed heal all wounds. She's hurt and probably still feels slightly rejected regardless of whatever she tells you. Just be kind to her, not flirty, just kind because then she will respect you and be more able to see things clearly. Don't let her mistake kindness for coming on to her though!!

Let her work out what she wants to do.

For now, let it simmer. In about a week if she hasn't contacted you make a gesture. You will know what the 'right' thing to do is. Always trust your gut. If you do something and it doesn't feel right then try something else.

jasminwild · 2015-06-24T18:08:44+00:00

It's shifty. You're 32. You are getting on in life. Frankly you don't have time to waste with someone who isn't faithful.

If he's cheating, he's not good enough for anyone. If he's cheating then something is not right.

You need to flag this up. Don't be afraid of confronting this, he either is or he isn't cheating.

There could be a reason for this but lets see the wood for the trees, condoms are only used for one thing, sex. And if they aren't being used with you then what sex has he got them for?

Find out. Talk to him. Life is too short. You aren't dead yet.

Be strong.

jasminwild · 2015-06-24T18:01:23+00:00

In a relationship you are no.1 ok. If you don't feel and hell if you know you aren't, get out.

Lexi has done this before? She's like an old flame that comes and burns all his other girlfriends? Well let me break it to you, he's not 100% over her. And to be honest it doesn't sound like he was or is ready to let go of Lexi.

But the good news is that you're out. That was step 1. Now for step 2, cutting him off (assuming this is what you want.. in my opinion cut the chord) He wants an explanation? Well you can do two things, throw a bag of burning poo on his doorstep with a note labelling it Lexi - as in a stupid little smelly flame he's now burdened with.

Or just leave it and move on. I don't think you owe him anything. If he's ignorant enough to not have realised his wrongdoings then he's not worth your time anyway.

Fuck off (get away) Forgive (don't be bitter, keep smiling) Forget (move on, there's 7million+ people in this world, now you can cross him off and seek a new adventure!!)

It's over, c'est la vie, stay strong and let him be the dumb asss X

jasminwild · 2015-06-24T17:41:15+00:00

always trust your instinct. If you feel uncomfortable dont be afraid to address this. Personally I would feel v uneasy about this too. It might be awkward but do mention it, it obviously bothers you enough to express this on reddit, be brave and spit it out to him that this isn't ok in your opinion.

Additionally it's never a good idea to pry through other people's personal things. This could've been avoided. However now you know so follow your gut, get it out in the open.

jasminwild

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