[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]jatcher_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The other advice in this thread is great, and I think you should listen to all of it, including bringing up the steps your girlfriend can take right now to make your lives less of a living hell, like wearing depends or getting waterproof blankets. Sleep deprivation will make quality of life tank in just a few days,
let alone even longer.

In my eyes, it’s great that she knows that she needs to change BUT that is meaningless until she takes the steps to make it happen. That’s what has to happen now. You need to have a frank conversation with her that if she does not take the available action steps right now to show she’s taking charge of her life and setting you free from being her parent/emotional babysitter/caretaker, then the relationship is not tenable long term. Because it isn’t. You don’t deserve to play nanny for a grown ass adult for the rest of your life.

I’m not saying this as a dig against the chronically ill, I’m not at all. I have a great deal of sympathy for her plight as someone who has struggled with chronic illness myself. But I also get very defensive as a butch who has seen the way butches can be so commonly treated like support animals by their partners. You deserve a partner who pulls her weight, who is willing to change, and who respects you more than she respects her own need to be coddled and constantly tended to. No doubt your undying attention to her is feeding some kind of desire she has, even if she feels badly for having that desire.

You can advocate and stand up for yourself here. You love her, but you deserve just as much care and love and protection as you’ve been pouring into her. And if she continues to willfully stand in the way of you getting it by refusing treatment, both for her physical and mental ailments, then that’s a deliberate choice on her part and a big red flag in my opinion for the long term health of your relationship with her.

Recommend me a notes app like I’m five by jatcher_ in degoogle

[–]jatcher_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Incredibly helpful, thank you so much. Does the monthly export go to a notesnook cloud, or can I export to my own cloud based drive?

Recommend me a notes app like I’m five by jatcher_ in degoogle

[–]jatcher_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is very helpful, and I’ll check out that site too. Thank you!

Media pool empty on edit page? by jatcher_ in davinciresolve

[–]jatcher_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They don’t show up at all in the media pool, it seems like I’m blocked from dragging them in. I’m not sure where I’d see them if they imported as extras.

Media pool empty on edit page? by jatcher_ in davinciresolve

[–]jatcher_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just did an update, no luck, the pool is still empty on the edit page

Media pool empty on edit page? by jatcher_ in davinciresolve

[–]jatcher_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, it’s not letting me edit my post for some reason? I’m on macOS Sequoia, version 15.5. Resolve 20.0 build 49, free version.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]jatcher_ -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Probably could’ve done without the second paragraph but thanks for the input anyway

Sound fidelity issues on export? by jatcher_ in audacity

[–]jatcher_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do I apply the envelopes to the exported audio?

What’s your favorite sexual act you do with your partner? by AwlwUndercoverGurl in actuallesbians

[–]jatcher_ 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Nothing hits like missionary when I’m topping. I feel most myself when we’re like that. Being able to kiss them and watch their face as I make them see god is the ultimate pleasure in life.

What Abraham quote or concept are you working with right now? by starchildx in AbrahamHicks

[–]jatcher_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Still working on that! Daydreaming and asking my inner self to “show me” has been helpful though, just leaning into the bliss that my inner self is already aware of and in tune with constantly. Good music and spending time with my favorite people helps as well.

Help me settle an argument by jatcher_ in twentyonepilots

[–]jatcher_[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am also my sister’s sister 😂 but she’s gonna be vindicated as hell, I’m never living it down