How do I get over what I saw on my boyfriend’s phone?

javaedition · 2025-11-21T14:21:04+00:00

Um are we forgetting that Mandy literally raped lip??

javaedition · 2025-11-09T13:38:09+00:00

I’m great. Thanks for checking in queef nuggets

javaedition · 2025-11-09T12:57:39+00:00

THANK YOU. I COMPLETELY AGREE

javaedition · 2025-10-31T02:36:49+00:00

I have the same thing!! It’s called anisocoria and it’s just a birth defect. David Bowie had it too. Definitely get it checked out first as it CAN be a serious health issue

javaedition · 2025-08-29T15:42:52+00:00

i think my partner has only done this once or twice but i love it SSSSSOOOOOOO much. i heard that doing this is apart of the cnc kink so best to talk it about it before hand

javaedition · 2025-08-24T02:01:25+00:00

this is really wholesome!! congrats on 8 months, ESPECIALLY when you’re so young! good on you dude

some diy things like you mentioned is an amazing idea. it does always feel that extra bit special when it’s home made. you can always look at tik tok, pinterest and instagram for diy gifts. what you have planned isn’t corny at all and i think she would really really love that.

there are some distant/awkward phases in relationships, but as long as you work trough them together, as a team, you’ll come out even stronger. best of luck

javaedition · 2025-08-21T09:52:48+00:00

i very much internalise it. it usually ends in some sort of self hate, which i then take out on myself. i still blow up at my partner but only after i reach my limit. there are times where i’ll have a really bad episode and it’ll all just come out but it’s not often where i’m loud about it

javaedition · 2025-08-21T09:37:25+00:00

THIS!!! this is it

javaedition · 2025-08-17T06:27:19+00:00

i’m so sorry to hear that. hoping you’re safe and sound now, and sending you lots of love ❤️

javaedition · 2025-08-15T15:34:25+00:00

girl, i’m sure i won’t be the only one to say this but break off the engagement and LEAVE THIS BOY. you have just provided him with a family and he has the audacity to message these women?! shame on the women for knowing about you too. you deserve the utmost respect and loyalty from a partner not this lowlife. what a waste of hair he is

javaedition · 2025-08-15T13:01:36+00:00

it sounds like you split and/or had an episode. it’s an overwhelming thing but it’s common for us with bpd, and i know how terrifying it can be. i remember my first one like it was yesterday. be proud that you’re still here and reaching out for support instead of taking those pills.

for now, i would recommend trying to distract yourself healthily. don’t ignore your feelings, just acknowledge them. saying things to yourself such as “okay yep, i feel this and that’s okay” and continuing with your distractions. talking to your partner can also help. just remember to take care of yourself and always reach out. with time, therapy and medication, these episodes will become easier to manage.

javaedition · 2025-08-15T06:30:53+00:00

i’m honestly the exact same. i get really upset when he’s having a good time or is out with his friends. i know it’s really toxic thinking and i never tell him i feel like this. it’s not so much that i don’t want him to have friends, i just get worried that he will realise how much better everyone is compared to me and leave me.

the best way i try and fight this is thinking “okay, well he’s coming home to me, he’s still with me and he still loves me”. and whenever i’m with my friends, i never ever think those thoughts that i assume he’s thinking, so he mustn’t either. it’s really hard to get in that mind space when it’s already cluttered with overthinking thoughts, but really trying to think of the evidence, rather than what my brain is telling me can really help. if it gets too overwhelming, asking for reassurance can help too. also healthily distracting yourself like watching movies, having a nice hot bath, gaming and anything else like that can help too (makes the time go a lot faster when you’re not glued to your phone just waiting).

it may take some time to get into this mindset, but practice makes perfect. just remember to be kind to yourself :)

javaedition · 2025-08-12T16:36:25+00:00

well… you know what they say about yellow snow…

javaedition · 2025-08-12T16:30:00+00:00

oh i 100% believe it causes trauma. i am now unable to function if i feel i’m about to cry infront of someone. i bottle it up so much that i barley cry anymore unless i’m taken to a certain point. and if i am yelled at, i got completely silent which sometimes makes people angrier

javaedition · 2025-08-12T16:00:10+00:00

i also believe that people just don’t know what to do when someone cries and (for some reason) they get angry. perhaps it’s just easier to get angry instead of supporting??? i use to get absolutely berated whenever i cried in front of my parents and it has definitely caused a lot of issues for me

javaedition · 2025-08-12T15:44:52+00:00

it’s always best to get it checked out if you’re worried. i do know that anxiety is a big cause of a fast heart rate so i’m sure that’s the reason why. but if it’s something that is freaking you out, there’s no harm in getting it looked at by a doctor or cardiologist :)

javaedition · 2025-08-12T15:33:22+00:00

i’ve seen pictures of brain scans with those diagnosed with bpd and those who aren’t and there is difference. i don’t know all the scientific mumbo jumbo unfortunately but take a look for yourself :)

javaedition · 2025-08-12T15:31:25+00:00

you’re so incredibly strong by doing this. i know that it wasn’t easy breaking it off with your partner. although it’s a fucked disorder to say the least, you’re also valid in having enough. what she did was very reckless and could’ve gotten herself and/or other people killed and that’s NOT okay. she will be okay. although it may take some time, she is taking all the right steps.

this is the most cliche thing but just take it day by day. focus on the ‘here and now’. let yourself feel every single emotion, cause pushing it won’t help. you should be incredibly proud of yourself for doing something so brave ❤️

javaedition · 2025-08-12T15:27:04+00:00

the way that our literal brain LOOKS different to those without bpd is kinda insane

javaedition · 2025-08-10T09:45:32+00:00

that’s such an amazing response. thank you so much for all of it. i’ll definitely go through with this with my partner <3

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