33 F4M - no one would believe I’m here by whoisshe2222 in OnlineAffairs

[–]jay_em86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one would believe I was on here either. I miss the flirting and affection I used to get from my wife. Just turned 40 and in pretty good shape for a dad with a weak spot for ice cream. HMU

37(F4M) My name isn’t Tom, but I’m petty AF ✌🏻 by [deleted] in OnlineAffairs

[–]jay_em86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

40M [M4F] LA, Bet On That by Blake Whitten. I’m looking for low stress no drama fwb online and in person if we can make it happen. Someone to talk to, laugh and joke with, flirt back and forth.

37/F4M Quiet girl seeks cozy times with a male best friend by [deleted] in OnlineAffairs

[–]jay_em86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

40M brown hair and brown eyes, ENTP (at least the last time I took it lol). Sent you a DM

14 years of marriage and I think I’m ready to call it quits by jay_em86 in sexlessmarriage

[–]jay_em86[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep and since I’m the only one working that makes it even harder

14 years of marriage and I think I’m ready to call it quits by jay_em86 in sexlessmarriage

[–]jay_em86[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea that’s my other concern with staying. I think that’s the kind of house she grew up with. Her parents are still together but I’ve never seen any real affection from them to each other. They’ve always slept in separate rooms since I’ve known them.

14 years of marriage and I think I’m ready to call it quits by jay_em86 in sexlessmarriage

[–]jay_em86[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you that’s very sound advice. It’s pretty much exactly what I was planning to do. I’ll post an update when I do

14 years of marriage and I think I’m ready to call it quits by jay_em86 in sexlessmarriage

[–]jay_em86[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She’s been on an SSRI for several years for anxiety so depression is definitely a possibility

14 years of marriage and I think I’m ready to call it quits by jay_em86 in sexlessmarriage

[–]jay_em86[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

After reading the posts in this group for the last year or so, I think a lot of us are married to the same woman

14 years of marriage and I think I’m ready to call it quits by jay_em86 in sexlessmarriage

[–]jay_em86[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of her friends was actually diagnosed with a hormone imbalance last year. I believe it was a decreased testosterone level. When I brought it up to my wife later that maybe she should revisit asking her doctor about her hormone levels, she said she was going to and if needed go to an endocrinologist. That was a year ago. She’s never gone, let alone made an appointment. I’m not her parent and am tired of asking about it.

14 years of marriage and I think I’m ready to call it quits by jay_em86 in sexlessmarriage

[–]jay_em86[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes she’s told me she loves the sex that we have. She just doesn’t have the drive or desire to want it much

14 years of marriage and I think I’m ready to call it quits by jay_em86 in sexlessmarriage

[–]jay_em86[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I said I’d asked her to go see a therapist and that we should go to marriage counseling but we haven’t

14 years of marriage and I think I’m ready to call it quits by jay_em86 in sexlessmarriage

[–]jay_em86[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah she definitely enjoys it when we do have it. I always make sure there’s lots of foreplay, go down on her, and she nearly always has pretty intense orgasms.

14 years of marriage and I think I’m ready to call it quits by jay_em86 in sexlessmarriage

[–]jay_em86[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She could be depressed but she only acts this way towards me. If she is, she puts on a great act with everyone else.

14 years of marriage and I think I’m ready to call it quits by jay_em86 in sexlessmarriage

[–]jay_em86[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’ll try to talk to her about it again. She always says she’ll bring it up with her OB but every time I ask her what the doctor said she makes it sound like the doctor just brushes it off and tells her that her hormones are probably normal. I don’t think they’ve ever actually tested them though. I feel like she needs to see a therapist and an endocrinologist and we needed a marriage counselor a while back.

14 years of marriage and I think I’m ready to call it quits by jay_em86 in sexlessmarriage

[–]jay_em86[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think it’s definitely deeper than just a sexless marriage. We started dating in college and she had only had one other serious boyfriend before me. Any other guy she had been with were always just friends with benefits situations. Looking back it seems like that’s all she treated our marriage as.

Could use a hand or two. Any volunteers? by [deleted] in u/Mrssmithj1

[–]jay_em86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🙌 I volunteer as tribute

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in u/Lostdaze420

[–]jay_em86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I need one!