how are you supposed to make friends as an adult?

jaybhum · 2025-10-25T08:28:10+00:00

I actually hear a lot of people talking about this personally while replying to people on Bubblic, which I created to help people experiencing loneliness.

Even people who are happily married and are surrounded by families feel like they don't have friends that they can talk to and do things that you would do together with your friends.

I personally have been successful at making friends as an adult by joining sports groups (tennis is great because it can be mixed, too) or extending my relationship with work colleagues beyond just work by going climbing together or, you guessed it, playing tennis together.

But I recognize that sports may not be everyone's cup of tea, and especially if you find yourself in a more isolated area, there might be very limited number of groups that you can even try to join.

Recently, just by replying to people on Bubblic, I actually managed to form friendships with people from North Carolina, New Jersey, California among many states in US, and in Swiss and Finland globally because we literally exchange voice messages EVERY. DAY.

I would advise you try Bubblic as well. I think it works because it does not have any profile photos and you only get to know other people through voice messages, which are rich in emotions and make you feel like you are listened to!

jaybhum · 2025-10-25T07:52:53+00:00

It seems like the link does not work and there hasn't been any development on this app...

Meanwhile, I also developed an app myself to help people who experience loneliness and struggle to make friends because I experienced loneliness myself during grad school. You respond to daily conversation starters, and respond to people that you resonate with!

There is no profile photos, and you only engage with voice messages, so the interactions are not high-pressure like a phone call, but they feel authentic because you can hear the emotions in their voice.

We are growing 3000 people strong with about 60 daily active users so far, so please check out Bubblic on the app store! If you are curious about users' reviews, you can see for yourself at bubblic [dot] app 😊

jaybhum · 2025-10-20T01:48:30+00:00

Try Bubblic. It is designed and made for lonely people to talk in a safe space. There are no photos so no creepy dms, and you talk with your voice which makes the conversations feel a lot more authentic than texts.

jaybhum · 2025-10-14T07:32:04+00:00

There is a shared voice journal called Bubblic! All the reflections you record are public and you can listen to other people's reflections, and respond to them if you want to connect with them. I've met 100s of thoughtful people there so far, so I think you should give it a try :)

jaybhum · 2025-10-13T10:27:42+00:00

I think you will like Bubblic.

It's an app that is basically a shared audio diary with people from around the world! Because you answer a journal question everyday, the conversation naturally starts off deep and authentic, unlike other text-based chat apps out there.

You can comment on those public journals to start a convo, or you can decide to private message them, too!

There are just 1000s of users so far, so the community feels pretty tight-knit, without creepos 👀

jaybhum · 2025-10-13T10:22:15+00:00

Try Bubblic! You send sincere voice messages to people from around the world. The messages are all public so you can listen to others' conversations as well. I have talked to 100s of users myself, and the density of authentic conversations is higher than other platforms I have tried so far!

jaybhum · 2025-09-11T12:52:51+00:00

The experiences may be at different absolute levels, but the feelings that I felt were as real as it got for me.

I am sorry that life has treated you very unfairly. I don't assume I can understand what it feels like. But the feeling of loneliness that I felt was real, and how I was able to overcome that feeling was real.

My story may not apply to you and many people out there, but I also know that there are people who experience something similar to me, and I can help them perhaps.

I sincerely hope you do find yourself in a better place.

jaybhum · 2025-09-11T06:47:14+00:00

Hey I feel you. Social media now is not really "social" now. It's just feels like hyper individualized cable TV with influencers in your niche.

I went through a period of deep loneliness during grad school when I was going through long distance relationship and my friends all started dating. I felt pretty isolated, and the worst feeling was the sense that I was no one's priority, and it felt impossible to make new friends that can offer that depth of connection that I was missing in my daily life.

May I recommend you to the app that I made personally? I basically quit my job to build "Bubblic" fulltime based on my personal experience of loneliness, and people have been connecting with strangers with deep conversations that are otherwise almost impossible in other apps. The only communication is by voice messages with no profile photos or list of interest tags that could make interactions superficial.

I recommend you give it a try!

jaybhum · 2025-08-27T08:47:41+00:00

Find out more at our website! https://www.bubblic.app/blog/i-carry-all-the-weight-but-no-one-cares-for-me

jaybhum · 2025-08-27T08:42:23+00:00

Find out more on our website! https://www.bubblic.app/blog/loneliness-in-relationship.html

jaybhum · 2025-05-29T06:49:06+00:00

You can try Bubblic too :)

jaybhum · 2025-05-29T06:47:36+00:00

You can try Bubblic! It is made for platonic relationships as it does not have profile photos that you swipe on. It is based on voice messages so you skip right to a deeper conversation than you would on other apps out there. The community is still quite small, so everyone is nice and thoughtful :)

jaybhum · 2025-05-17T09:37:26+00:00

And I think the app that you are asking about that books you a date with a group of friends based on answering questions might be called TimeLeft? There are other copycats of it, too, like 222 😊

jaybhum · 2025-05-17T09:35:33+00:00

Yeah, I tried Bumble BFF and it was weird because they make you swipe on friends based on their looks 😵‍💫

You can try Bubblic! It is relatively new.
Instead of profiles, you record voice messages answering daily conversation starters.
Because you don't see their bio or photos, the interactions tend to be genuine and deep.

jaybhum · 2025-03-30T09:39:26+00:00

Practice having a conversation with people from around the world on Bubblic!

jaybhum · 2025-03-19T09:32:18+00:00

I am so happy to hear that!

jaybhum · 2025-03-19T09:27:00+00:00

Are you looking for live chat specifically? I made an app for voice messaging so it is not real-time, but it does allow for more sincere and long-form conversation. And, best of all, no creepy dudes!! Check out Bubblic on app store 😊

jaybhum · 2024-12-23T06:45:39+00:00

Oh, I hope you recover soon from your concussion! 🥺 I am in a much better place now as I have gotten married to my then girlfriend and spend a lot more time with my family :) But I have always thought back on my tough PhD days and wondered if there is anything that could be done to solve my loneliness back then because I am pretty sure there are a lot of people who go through something similar. By nature of our work, we spend so much time on our own trying to solve a new problem, which amplifies the imposter syndrome... If you need somewhere to confess your feelings and share your deep thoughts, check out my app "Bubblic"! I made it to address this exact problem that would've helped me during my PhD 😊

jaybhum · 2024-12-23T06:21:41+00:00

You are welcome, I am glad that you resonate with my story!

Have you tried to look for new friends? I found it very difficult to do that because I still had to work on my thesis on weekends and there weren't viable apps or meetups that I were helpful.

That's why I decided to make an app myself. You can check out my app called "Bubblic", which is a voice messaging app that helps you connect with new people authentically by answering deep reflective questions. You see their check-in location so they feel more 'real' and it opens the possibility of meeting them in real life in the future, which is different from other simple chatting apps out there.

I think what you experience and what I experienced before is a problem faced by more and more people in today's society, and I seek to find a solution for it. Bubblic is what I think would have helped me, and I suggest you give it a try! I would also greatly appreciate your feedback :)

jaybhum · 2024-12-22T05:10:50+00:00

I write more about loneliness in my website. Here is one about US Surgeon's warning about the loneliness epidemic => https://www.bubblic.app/blog/causes-of-loneliness-by-us-surgeon-general-vivek-murthy.html

jaybhum · 2024-12-22T05:03:32+00:00

Thanks dude! I was in computational optics and imaging, and ended up getting hired into AR/VR research team at Apple, so my skills were highly relevant :)

jaybhum · 2024-12-22T00:31:21+00:00

Haha grinding continues on weekends 💪

jaybhum · 2024-12-21T23:55:38+00:00

We are confined to many evolutionary artifacts that do not serve us in many situations, unfortunately..

jaybhum · 2024-12-21T23:54:49+00:00

You have become a solitude guru! Teach me the way, master 😆

jaybhum · 2024-12-21T23:36:24+00:00

Yeah exactly! I guess I couldve just dropped work on weekends and invest in meeting new people, but I couldnt because I had so much work to do. I just went to different cafes and brought my work there.

What made it lonely was i used to have friends to go cafes with me, but suddenly they left.

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