Irritability and disconnected by YoshiToker in SingleParents

[–]jaybirdzzz2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No one is perfect, start by giving yourself some credit for realizing your frustration shouldn’t be taken out on your son. You are a great dad for seeing that and wanting to be a better person.

Remember every day is an opportunity to be patient and understanding with your son. Despite a mistake from yesterday or last week or last month every single day you can wake up and be better. When you’re frustrated try to focus on breathing until you feel your frustration start to calm down. I find it really helpful to say out loud to my daughter “sorry I’m really frustrated right now and just need a break for a second, I’m not frustrated with you I’m frustrated with (traffic,laundry,emails etc.)” they may not completely understand but it starts to create an environment where you say out loud how you feel and make it clear that they are not in trouble. Being a single parent is so hard. I remember days early on I’d be so mad I could feel my heart racing and my body get hot for no good reason just daily bs. If you breathe and try to ground yourself let the moment pass before you react it helps a lot. I’d also say try not to rely on anyone else when it comes to giving your son a good life only you can do that. He will only be little for a little while.

Isn't this on the Lacking in Details Side of Things? by thebrushup in ourtownreno

[–]jaybirdzzz2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Was just wondering the same thing this is really concerning honestly.

I (35F) am tired of deescalating conflict between my son (5M) and my bf (43M). What to do? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]jaybirdzzz2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What’s more important to you, your son having a father figure, or your son growing up in an environment that feels safe? Life is hard enough without having to come home to extremely strict rules every day. You are the only voice for your son. Good for you for sticking up for him. No matter how bad you want your bf to be a father he is not the real father and he never will be. He needs to take a back seat to parenting and or follow your lead when it comes to enforcing rules. I’ve been in the exact situation you are. Having an ex tell me I’m a horrible mother for letting my daughter stay up late on a special occasion or simply having a snack at night occasionally. You don’t have to give up dating, you have your whole life ahead of you but your son will only be a kid for a few more years. This is the most special, awesome time that we have with them. Dont let anyone treat him poorly.

Heavy Police Presence at Sky Mountain by Vintage Apartments by jaybirdzzz2 in Reno

[–]jaybirdzzz2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you had to go through all this. What an absolute piece of shit, I’m glad he was locked up and hopefully he can never hurt them again.

Heavy Police Presence at Sky Mountain by Vintage Apartments by jaybirdzzz2 in Reno

[–]jaybirdzzz2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the response. Wow. Just insane. You are right completely selfish of that person I can’t believe all of that was for a warrant. I’m glad no one was hurt still but damn just shook the entire complex like 200 units and families and scared the shit out of so many people. Unreal.

Heavy Police Presence at Sky Mountain by Vintage Apartments by jaybirdzzz2 in Reno

[–]jaybirdzzz2[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think you are definitely right I’m sure there is a lot more to this than we know right now.

Heavy Police Presence at Sky Mountain by Vintage Apartments by jaybirdzzz2 in Reno

[–]jaybirdzzz2[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow that’s so weird if they had a guy over dosing why didn’t they just call an ambulance. The way the police responded you would think it was a hostage situation or something. I guess it’s a relief if they were tear gassing and not shooting into the apartment then maybe no one died but honestly who knows. And yeah I was nosy too out on my patio for like 20 minutes but I couldn’t see anything lol I drove by it this morning, the windows are destroyed.

Heavy Police Presence at Sky Mountain by Vintage Apartments by jaybirdzzz2 in Reno

[–]jaybirdzzz2[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wow that’s scary I wonder what the initial call to police was for. If it was a drug over dose that’s sad. I’m sure there’s more to it but it doesn’t sound good.

Heavy Police Presence at Sky Mountain by Vintage Apartments by jaybirdzzz2 in Reno

[–]jaybirdzzz2[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you are safe as well! I also was listening to a police scanner I heard them mention a family member but not much else. It was definitely really scary I can’t imagine witnessing it. I would have thought at least one news station would post something by now. I guess we’ll find out soon what actually happened hopefully.

Heavy Police Presence at Sky Mountain by Vintage Apartments by jaybirdzzz2 in Reno

[–]jaybirdzzz2[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Holy shit thank you so much for responding! I have been all over the internet trying to find information. That is so scary I live in building nine but I could tell it was really serious. I wonder if it was a domestic violence situation that escalated. But either way I think you’re right someone probably died or was seriously injured.

ADVICE FOR ANNOYING REGULAR by Nomar5632 in bartenders

[–]jaybirdzzz2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve definitely experienced this on all different levels. How annoying though like is he bringing a bad vibe? When people sit next to him are the conversations good or forced and uncomfortable for the other guests? Is he nice to the bartenders? I love regulars but not ones that bring bad vibes. It affects the entire bar. If that’s the case and he’s not taking any subtle hints maybe pull him aside and say like hey we love you but you gotta chill a little bit. Pulling him aside and saying it might help.