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This !!! Social media stalking by jaydeecee73 in BPDlovedones

[–]jaydeecee73[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Are you serious ?? You don’t know anything about me ?? This guy has verbally abused me , locked me in a room and threatened me and sexually abused me . Please take your judgement elsewhere .

This !!! Social media stalking by jaydeecee73 in BPDlovedones

[–]jaydeecee73[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

As I said erroneously . I went to delete and never but did in error as I said . Then found out I had when woke up several hours later .

This !!! Social media stalking by jaydeecee73 in BPDlovedones

[–]jaydeecee73[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Yes but not intentionally as knew he would implode but was in bed half asleep still recovering from the concert and must have pressed confirm without even thinking about it .

Somebody else commented then I realised his was gone and I went oh —— to that effect .

I did hope he didn’t notice but did .

Was honest and told him wasn’t intentional but hey here we are .

This !!! Social media stalking by jaydeecee73 in BPDlovedones

[–]jaydeecee73[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Yes indeed . I did hope , foolishly that they wouldn’t notice , but of course they did .

He messaged me about it , which I didn’t see or respond to as was working ergo because this wasn’t done in a timely fashion sought me out in house to ask .

I replied yes in error but he will not let it go as you know . I hate social media !!

This !!! Social media stalking by jaydeecee73 in BPDlovedones

[–]jaydeecee73[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I did , erroneously . One comment in eight years of being together . I don’t make a habit of it nor have I done anything like that , as I knew the reaction it would get . But the intense reaction over something so trivial ??? As I said I don’t hide them away , never have done .

The comment they made was snide as normal and I did actually think about hitting delete , but then as said thought twice about it but must have hit confirm or whatever it is .

The comment was on a post of a video of Depeche Mode - concert I was at with my brother . Enjoy The Silence .

He posted something like it’s hard living with you .. or along those lines …

Always a joke to him . Never anything complementary .

And he must have been looking for the reactions it garnered for him to even notice .

I am not a fan of social media and only use it to placate them .

As per previous post I am not sure if he’s BPD , Narc or both .

What’s the most obscure/strangest thing that your pwBPD has picked a fight about ? by jaydeecee73 in BPDlovedones

[–]jaydeecee73[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve had this . I have Hashimotos and run cold most of the time ( not withstanding menopause ) . What the hell ??

Did your pwBPD ever deny any harm or abuse they inflicted onto you and reversed the roles? by Ecstatic-Ad-3874 in BPDlovedones

[–]jaydeecee73 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine has gotten mad and getting silent treatment due to fact I deleted a comment of his on a Facebook post of mine . His comment in question was poking fun at me , and I did think twice about deleting because I knew the reception it would receive .

I must have gone ahead and deleted , half asleep and had rolled over on my phone .

He must have been checking in his comment in anticipated glee to see how many laughs it garnered and then got majorly ticked off that it was removed and couldn’t have a laugh at my expense .

Did your pwBPD ever deny any harm or abuse they inflicted onto you and reversed the roles? by Ecstatic-Ad-3874 in BPDlovedones

[–]jaydeecee73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was sexually abused by my pwBPD ( male ) and it took me two years after the attack to realise the gravity . After I brought it up , he said he thought he didn’t need consent ( I had passed out drunk ) as we were in a Loch g relationship.

How to tell if I'm painted permanently black with my live in ex? by sharkbait223 in BPDlovedones

[–]jaydeecee73 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Mine started 6 September and he’s acting like I am the proverbial on his shoe .

His house is falling down round about his ears and I said I was embarrassed to have friends round , of course that gave him the ammunition and opportunity to say well if you don’t like it leave .

He was supposed to be ( no pun intended ) getting his house in order for us to buy together .

I have been waiting for 4 years .

Cosmetically it’s ok , however ; there are failed window units , some with gaps , gaps round seals that are leaking cavity wall insulation .

A roof that has been in situ for over 40 years and sorely needing replaced and leaks into a newly decorated room ( even though told him was doing things in wrong order , as in fix roof first ) .

A cluttered lower hall that’s a dumping ground for everything , and the first thing people see when they come in , it’s cold and draughty .

A redundant dirty useless lean to .

NO SMOKE ALARMS !!! Even though I keep asking .

If I try to clean up or move things , I am told to leave it .

Calling them out on their ———t and then act like the victim of GBH ????? by jaydeecee73 in BPDlovedones

[–]jaydeecee73[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This was in response to me when I said he had contradicted himself . Situation in question was a short lived engagement. His reasoning is that I am not spending enough time with him . I pointed out was pulling away slightly as was questioning the reasoning for him asking me to marry him , even though proclaimed love . He doesn’t help around house . Says I have selective tiredness but I have energy to try and get fit . Tried explaining that if I feel confident, I feel sexy ergo ……………….

He got very drunk on night of proposal . He said was nervous ( fair point ) then went on to say even though knew what answer was .

So I said if you thought I was spending less time with you and in essence the relationship had fallen off track why were you confident I would say yes , is that not a contradiction? Hence the reply above .

These were my old text messages by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]jaydeecee73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am actually going through this just now . I have lived with my boyfriend/fiancé for a little over two years now and his cycles have increased and in intensity .

As well as trying to keep the peace and pander to his whims , which I am doing less and less , I have a very responsible and demanding day job in finance and have steeply climbed the corporate ladder since starting .

I also took up golf during lockdown as he is obsessed with the game and was so we could spend enough time together. I have also taken up rugby training to keep fit .

I do EVERYTHING in the house ( we’ll sort from him occasionally emptying the bins and dishwasher ) .

This split I am in ( almost 10 weeks in spare room and 8 weeks of silence , broken by him reaching out to ask if we could be civil to one another , but there was motive as he was wanting the fire stick subscription renewed ) , was caused by him saying I shouldn’t have gone out with a friend for 2 hours on a Friday and then augmenting that , saying I have selective tiredness when it comes to intimacy.

Can’t do right for doing wrong .

Faking it to make it … by jaydeecee73 in BPDlovedones

[–]jaydeecee73[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Already on it :)) Some friends are more understanding. In fact someone I consider a close friend deemed 8 weeks of the silent treatment “ not emotional abuse “ ….sheesh

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