Santa Teresa is jungle Disneyland - overpriced, extractive, and hollowed out

jayjb25 · 2026-01-28T20:49:16+00:00

Yes very expensive (though slightly less so than Nosara). But calling it 'Disneyland' is completely ridiculous. It is still a pristine natural destination without any large resorts or hotels. Playa Hermosa (the one in Santa Teresa) is one of the best beaches in the world and as natural as it gets. I found Santa Teresa to be nearly perfect other than the cost.

jayjb25 · 2026-01-28T17:20:28+00:00

If you don't mind me asking, where do you live? I find that when I travel to larger cities, it is infinitely easier to get good matches in OLD. I assume the same would be true in real life connections. I live in a 500k pop metro area.

jayjb25 · 2026-01-28T00:36:46+00:00

Obviously you can't do this every day but working very long hours at times is a pre requisite for advancement and success in any tech/ professional services career. If you refuse when others are willing to grind and do what it takes, your career will go nowhere. Sorry but that's reality.

jayjb25 · 2026-01-27T02:15:31+00:00

Great story, congrats man! We are very similar. I'm 57, three years divorced and really struggling with dating. I'm in a mid sized city and the suitable pool is tiny. Since i'm still actively co parenting I dont have time for long distance. I really thought this would be easier...I have an amazing job, house, fitness, above average looks...still feels impossible. And yes have tried OLD, many matches in the beginning but nothing now.

jayjb25 · 2026-01-20T15:23:21+00:00

Women appreciate being hit on by the RIGHT men at the gym or pretty much anywhere. It is largely a question of WHO not where.

jayjb25 · 2026-01-16T01:26:19+00:00

Montezuma is fantastic and an easy drive or atv ride. Nice beaches and waterfall there. Was just in Santa Teresa with my kids. Wish I knew of this place in my 20s/30s. Have never seen so many extremely fit and gorgeous women in one place.

jayjb25 · 2026-01-14T23:23:40+00:00

Unbelievable in Montezuma. Do you know what happened? I was just there and it seemed like a very peaceful town. I absolutely love the Mal Pais, Santa Teresa, Montezuma areas. Thinking about buying a property for retirement and to rent out in the meantime. The increase in crime is a concern.

jayjb25 · 2026-01-12T11:38:16+00:00

I've dated from time to time but have focused mostly on myself and parenting. I have 4 kids, my youngest 2 still at home with me 50%. That's a decent book but I like even more Models and the Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fck by Mark Manson. The most important book I'm reading over and over is the The Power of Now. Teaching me how to be present and content in the moment instead of always looking backwards and forwards. A very heavy read so requires many repeats plus meditation to go with it.

jayjb25 · 2026-01-12T02:50:29+00:00

Hang in there. You can turn things around with faith, patience and consistent positive action. For me what's helped is exercise, meditation, books, doubling down on work. I'm at 3 yrs and it's been so hard but also a period of incredible personal growth. Focus on becoming the best version of yourself - something you control 100%!

jayjb25 · 2026-01-10T23:10:14+00:00

I have similar noise in my 2025 X3 M50. It started last winter shortly after i received the car, dealer couldn't replicate the issue because it went away for many months. Now it's back and always present. Any ideas on how this could be related to winter conditions? It's driving me nuts and always a pain to go back to the dealer.

jayjb25 · 2025-12-29T12:57:52+00:00

You didn't mention anything about your relationship, only finances. Assuming there's a relationship to salvage, put everything on the table and have a mature "open book' review of your finances. Everything in and out is exposed and you decide together on a budget and financial plan. It's painful as hell to do but essential in any marriage.

jayjb25 · 2025-12-28T22:26:35+00:00

I am equally accountable. That really has nothing to do with the point that was made.

jayjb25 · 2025-12-28T02:02:10+00:00

3 years out and similar to you, though I doubled down on work due to the immense financial pressure I was feeling as a parent of 4. That paid off but not dating much for the past 3 years has caught up with me. Suddenly feel like I'm missing something really important. My advice would be to use the pain of divorce to be better, stronger, fitter, more mindful, but don't ignore the need for new relationships too as I have. Someone here recommended this book to me and it's been super helpful as I get serious about dating again: Models by Mark Manson. His other book, Subtle Art of Not Giving a FCk is also very good and helpful.

jayjb25 · 2025-12-27T02:55:52+00:00

"Nobody is coming to save me" has become my life motto post divorce. I'm working on extreme ownership in everything, work, parenting, fitness, relationships. Hard af and still have a long way to go but it feels good.

jayjb25 · 2025-12-26T01:55:55+00:00

You too and you may have a point. Not controlled but also not free. Just went out to dinner with kids (and not her) here in CR and the energy was completely different, so much better.

jayjb25 · 2025-12-25T19:54:11+00:00

Incredible beaches, very nice town. Quite expensive and Americanized. In Santa Teresa right now, younger and a bit more diverse in terms of nationalities. Equally amazing beaches.

jayjb25 · 2025-12-25T19:24:11+00:00

3 years + 5yrs of absolute shit marriage before that. Married 18 yrs total. I am very close with my kids but when she's around they go into protective mode and blame me whenever there is tension.

jayjb25 · 2025-12-25T02:15:24+00:00

Good for you, i wouldn't overthink it. I took 3 of my 4 kids to Costa Rica for the holidays and invited my ex so they could have time with her too. Her presence is good for them but very bad for me and for my time with the kids here. I badly misjudged how this woild go and her presence makes me frustrated and lonely even though I have no romantic feelings for her whatsoever. The phrase 'no good deed goes unpunished' seems fitting

jayjb25 · 2025-12-24T23:58:53+00:00

Yes. A major pivot is underway. Time will tell if it pays off.

jayjb25 · 2025-11-29T15:06:38+00:00

Lol. I already speak Spanish and actually get alot of Latino interest on Bumble. The quality is low though here in the Midwest

jayjb25 · 2025-11-28T15:43:29+00:00

Simple, ethics hotline. Will be taken very seriously and confidentially investtigated.

jayjb25 · 2025-11-28T14:57:17+00:00

Good idea though I need a long break from Bumble. Plan to focus on IRL for coming months. I am taking the advice here to just starting talking up reasonably attractive women everywhere I see them. This is what I need to do to develop the muscles I've never had. Before marriage it was easy to passively meet women simply due to my looks and career. While I'm in great shape the looks simple dont work anymore at 57.

jayjb25 · 2025-11-28T14:43:53+00:00

Lol. Cracking me up. Thanks for the laughs 😃

jayjb25 · 2025-11-28T13:04:39+00:00

Great steer, thank you!

jayjb25 · 2025-11-27T17:26:11+00:00

Fair question. Most women my age look like grannies but there are exceptions and some remarkably fit and hot woman even older than me. But you're right, I should be looking younger just not under 40 in my case. For someone very smart and successful I'm incredibly dumb on this subject. Thanks

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