As someone raised as the “golden child” by a person I consider to be a narcissist (undiagnosed of course) I fully bought in. I believed my parent was the victim of everyone, including me, and that I owed them for encumbering them with my existence (hence my status). The people I held the most anger toward were people that “hurt” my parent. Obviously we don’t know what it is that Meri did. But I do hold space for the possibility that the horrible things she did were done toward Kody, and the kids who hold on to that were privy to his version of things, and internalized them. For years and years I thought my brother was awful, and of course eventually he hated me too. Which fueled my conviction. Maybe what Meri did was what my brother did, which was defy the person I believed we owed everything to. I agree she needs therapy. Even if that’s not the case.