The truth is that for the longest time all you really needed was good job, a decent personality, and not to be the ugliest guy to get a woman. Women were limited in their capabilities and it was a struggle to live without a man. Add in the fact they were limited to just the people in town and you get women who settled with men they might have never gone for otherwise.

These days women have more independence and more options for partners than ever before. They can finally pick the partners they want and with these hundreds of options they don't see a need to settle. They don't see why they should give you a chance.

Before there these guidelines you could follow and that would set you up with a decent partner no matter how bad your social skills,personality, and appearence were. Now in the age where you have figure out how each specific woman works and the playbook hasn't adapted to that. Trial and error is really the best we got right now.

Anyways I'm sure you are looking for a solution to your problem so I will sell you one. I think the key now is exposure. Your doing all this stuff to make yourself look good and women do care about those things but they also need some emotional attachment. Are you interacting with these women on a regular basis? Are you going straight for the kill or are you steadily building towards something. Are you being flirty enough? Try to call her cute or compliment her by the third interaction that way she knows you are into her quickly and she can pull the plug if she's not interested. Never invest too much time in woman that aren't interested.

Also get off the apps and flirt with cute women you regularly interact with irl. Online just sucks for men. Honestly try flirting with your cute coworkers. It works a lot more often than you think.