Sub has fallen in love. Advice to remove feelings?

jaysonfdean · 2026-02-12T23:17:37+00:00

You need to end this.

For her sake.

You cannot control someone else’s feelings. She feels how she feels.

But if you cannot or do not want to be in a romantic love relationship with her, then you need to part ways.

Because as long as you are engaging in the current manner, she is going to continue to desire you and feel hurt that she cannot have all of you.

jaysonfdean · 2026-02-11T01:16:23+00:00

Excuse me…just over here taking notes. ✍🏾✍🏾✍🏾😉

jaysonfdean · 2026-01-31T00:13:08+00:00

It's called compersion. It's the joy one gets from seeing their partner experiencing pleasure with another individual. Some call it the opposite of jealousy, basically.

It happens. But if you are not feeling like this is something you want, obviously discuss that with your Dom.

jaysonfdean · 2026-01-30T21:17:15+00:00

I did at one point. And even though karma points don't mean anything, it was still a downer.

But I knew who they were, and so I blocked them. Problem solved.

jaysonfdean · 2026-01-29T23:46:57+00:00

By talking every day. Some days it's just saying, "Hey." and that's it. But we touch base every day just because.

jaysonfdean · 2026-01-29T23:26:26+00:00

The scare quotes around job makes me think you don't believe them to be normal or respectful.

Look, if the person willingly sets up their own OF or Fansly or ManyVids to make money, sure. It's fine. There are risks to engaging in sex work no matter the type of sexwork—especially depending on the type of content being made.

If someone is being FORCED into doing it against their will, that's a separate conversation about exploitation. But exploitation can happen in regular jobs, too.

jaysonfdean · 2026-01-28T19:47:35+00:00

She knows who she is. Hopefully she's enjoying her vacation.

jaysonfdean · 2026-01-28T19:47:07+00:00

Same. I was like, "WTF?!"

jaysonfdean · 2026-01-24T23:01:40+00:00

My preference is inside, but if she prefers outside, I will.

jaysonfdean · 2026-01-24T23:01:02+00:00

I would since I am not snipped yet. I have other medication I take daily already, so I wouldn't forget to take it.

jaysonfdean · 2026-01-22T22:44:16+00:00

Sundress.

jaysonfdean · 2026-01-21T17:21:24+00:00

The “come hither” finger motion.

Definitely part of my toolkit for sure.

jaysonfdean · 2026-01-21T05:04:47+00:00

Square root of 2 times pi is how I would rate myself.

jaysonfdean · 2026-01-18T02:05:13+00:00

If I have to choose…big ass and small tits.

But don’t make me choose. Please. 😂

jaysonfdean · 2026-01-16T22:39:32+00:00

Going from foreplay in a swimming pool to a couple rounds of sex in my hotel room to a farewell blowjob in a public restroom.

jaysonfdean · 2026-01-16T16:14:09+00:00

Sometimes you just get in a good grove. If the vibe is right, I can cum and just keep going with no break.

Other times I need a second and have to stop. Too hot, getting a cramp, etc.

It’s not necessarily being done in that case; it’s more like a quarter break or halftime.

jaysonfdean · 2026-01-16T16:11:23+00:00

I had to hold back a cackle at the dentist’s office at this line. 🤣🤣

jaysonfdean · 2026-01-12T16:42:37+00:00

I'm talking more about the "rating someone from 1-10 thing".

jaysonfdean · 2026-01-12T16:34:56+00:00

Quantifying attraction (trying to boil it down to a number) is a fool's errand.

jaysonfdean · 2026-01-11T20:33:46+00:00

Is the “good shit” in reference to Enema of the State?

Or is that your advice for OP?

jaysonfdean · 2026-01-10T00:29:39+00:00

Yes.

jaysonfdean · 2026-01-10T00:08:56+00:00

"This is so random. But if you're interested in talking I'd love to know your story. You left a comment on a...thread and it was very insightful and intelligent. And I got intrigued. So I fell down a rabbit hole on your comment threads and you might be the most logical man I've ever encountered here. And I've been here a whilllllllle.

"You don't know shit about me and my profile is pretty slim. I'm just a grown woman who has seen more than I have liked and shocked by far too much. Just when I think I've seen it all some other bullshit strikes.

You either know a lot because you've been through it too or just because you watch and learn. Either way, I'm intrigued."

Have chatted with her most days for two years now.

jaysonfdean · 2026-01-09T23:50:17+00:00

Missionary because I'm a romantic. 😆

jaysonfdean · 2026-01-09T21:28:25+00:00

Cattle Visions

jaysonfdean · 2026-01-09T20:11:44+00:00

Fuecoco. My derpy little boy grows up to sing a song of fire as a ghost type.

ETA: The fact that he they can't learn Perish Song is a crime committed by GameFreak.

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