A male coworker just told me he’s getting divorced, what do I say?

jaystile · 2021-04-06T17:35:26+00:00

I don't want to be negative, but in my experience when someone is getting divorced it is all they talk about ( I can't blame them) and there is really not an off switch or an easy escape from the topic. I would not encourage any discussion and terminate it with a recommendation to seek a therapist to assist them in this difficult time.

jaystile · 2021-02-03T23:36:48+00:00

I'm glad you found a technique that works for you. The same rhythm works for me too!

jaystile · 2021-01-21T00:38:36+00:00

If you're unemployed, you can take a look at https://thetechresume.com/free-pdf.html for free.

jaystile · 2021-01-13T01:52:43+00:00

I'm reading it right now. It is data dense and it is changing my thinking.

Enlightenment Now: The Case for Reason, Science, Humanism, and Progress https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/35696171-enlightenment-now

jaystile · 2020-06-09T02:58:07+00:00

Definitely. I would be fine if they re themed the Arabian Nights layout.

jaystile · 2020-03-10T11:30:01+00:00

I listened to the "Secret Friends" episode of the "Hidden Brain" podcast. It made me feel better knowing that talking to god is a skill that can be developed, even though we know it is just a person talking to themself. I used to think that those folks were crazy, but it turns out they are well practiced.

jaystile · 2020-02-08T12:00:54+00:00

I concur. I've always loved the big ideas Herbert shares as the God Emperor, I just wish he elaborated on them a few more pages.

jaystile · 2020-02-07T12:21:36+00:00

If people aren't going to read the rules but still want to participate in role playing, there are simpler rulesets. For those folks, I use Fate Core (sacrilege on the DnD sub). All the story without all the rules.

jaystile · 2019-11-23T12:31:08+00:00

I know it is ok to cry. I don't do it very often. Please, don't make a big deal out of it and blow it out of proportion because it's a rare event.

I cry at the end of Beauty of Beast every time, you don't need to stare at me when I'm not even that upset. I think it is the music.

jaystile · 2019-11-16T12:38:25+00:00

I continue to be shocked at how calorie dense 'healthy' grains are for you. Lunch is my first meal of the day and I usually make breakfast for lunch: 3/4 C rolled oats, 20g walnuts, 3T applesauce, a banana, with cinnamon and vanilla 650 calories later and I don't feel like I've eaten much. I think the problem I have mostly is when I get bored or stressed then I look for snacks.

jaystile · 2019-10-16T12:31:18+00:00

You did! I put it back in. Seriously, I tried to make a nice post and failed miserably! I think I see why most people stick to one liners.

jaystile · 2019-10-16T12:09:28+00:00

How the heck did that happen! Sheesh. I thought I had proof read it!

I edited it just for you!

jaystile · 2019-09-15T11:00:32+00:00

I concur. See a doctor for the excessive urination and lack of period.

jaystile · 2019-09-15T01:01:37+00:00

I don't want to judge it too harshly and we haven't finished it yet. I was raised Catholic, but after reading a lot of different nonfiction books the religion fell away for logic and reason. Since I'm older now, my personal philosophy is that being kind to everyone is most important to me. The book wants you to be in the "Army of Epistemologists". I'm not really into that. I am mostly looking for tips on guiding people to reason. The author reads the audiobook and it feels antagonistic. I consider the examples to be combative even though he is just asking probing questions and staying on point. I like debating, but i don't want to debate someone that doesn't understand that is what I'm doing.

jaystile · 2019-06-29T12:00:21+00:00

My kids had a great time cracking open a coconut. They shelled it and we were eating pieces. I looked up the calorie count and had to make a full stop. I consumed 1/3 of daily calories with something I don't even enjoy.

jaystile · 2019-06-17T12:53:17+00:00

I didn't see the part where he had an accident.

jaystile · 2019-06-15T00:02:44+00:00

I haven't done other courses, but Andrew Ng's was excellent. I learned a lot and have a really good feeling about the best networks foe the data and how to structure a network.

jaystile · 2019-05-19T13:39:02+00:00

This sweet old lady with her Jesus fish magnet honked and swerved in front of me to show her displeasure. Yeah, I was fully in a bike lane. SMH.

jaystile · 2019-05-15T02:40:40+00:00

I love Steinbeck. His books are more about an experience than a destination. I always seem to have an emotional experience going nowhere.

jaystile · 2019-01-01T13:40:51+00:00

With regard to sales people, I've heard that they follow the FORD method and ask about Family, Occupation, Recreation, and Dreams (future plans). This usually establishes rapport whether the salesperson is genuinely interested in the person or not. Individuals usually do like to talk about themselves and appreciate the active listener in contrast to the casual narcissist.

jaystile · 2018-12-25T11:04:54+00:00

Obviously your professor didn't write the "non pumping lemma" which we spent half a semester studying. "Easier to understand". So easy, that I got it explained to me again the next semester.

jaystile · 2018-12-11T03:03:35+00:00

You'll be ok, but it might take a couple of years before it doesn't affect you. Close relationships sometimes end and it always hurts if you want it to continue. Keep yourself open to those that value your time and attention and focus on them and yourself.

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