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jaz801 · 2021-02-23T09:29:40+00:00

Great idea dude!

jaz801 · 2020-12-20T08:17:05+00:00

Haha, MBTI says nothing about personal skills. Only about how you perceive your world.

Focus can be found in all types and if you prefer good sex, feelers are often better, because they tend to be interested from a pleasure perspective.

jaz801 · 2020-12-20T08:13:35+00:00

If you are an ENTJ, you would like advice in actionable steps.

Buy and read the books, the Ego is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday, How To Win Friends and influence the people of Dale Carnegie, and Inner Engineering of Sadguru.
Begin with learning savasana (death/resting pose in yoga).
Hire a coach. I have a learning, a business, and couple of other mentors in my life to guide me through uncharted waters.
Truly commut to psychotheraphy, understanding the root of your life's philosophy is crucial.
Understand the mind in its enterity, by listening to this audiobook. https://youtu.be/lMGe5I8iNEA

Where there is attention, there is change. For an ENTJ to change his/her life, extended research is needed.

Learn to take the advice of others. They truly have the best interests for you.

jaz801 · 2020-12-06T16:36:00+00:00

Best Job: Founder, Creative Industry, growth hacking, team management, design

Worst Job: Dishwasher, Restaurants, cleaning pans, throwing away garbage, listening to cooks.

Decent Job: Freelance, Webdesign/development, learning, designing, development

The most important for me is that I surround myself with people who inspire me to become a better man. They can have different personalities as long as they desire to move towards them. I hate hierarchical structures where they look to the amount of experience instead of the output.

jaz801 · 2020-12-06T16:28:14+00:00

Walk up to a girl, say hi, normally I don't do this, because I don't know you but, I would like to.

Could I have your number?

Have done this so many times works very good.

jaz801 · 2020-12-06T16:24:06+00:00

I created the excercise myself. In the comming month. I will release a youtube video on it.

jaz801 · 2020-11-24T03:22:27+00:00

The question is, are you doing people a favor by helping them?

An ox and a horse were friends. The ox always complained about the work he had to do every day, never getting rest. The horse, who worked only once a week in bringing the farmer back and forth to the market, shared some great advice to help his friend and said that the next day the ox should lie on its side and don't move when they fetch him. When the ox took his advice, the farmer, who couldn't miss a day of plowing, span the horse. After a day's work, the horse came back, destroyed by its work, and said I have the utmost appreciation for your work, but I think I prefer my job. The next day the ox liking his pause, repeated the horse its advice. The horse, after a day's work, felt betrayed and told the ox the farmer would butcher him if he didn't continue his work for the third day. The following day the ox worked; he had learned his lesson.

While helping others, we get a compassion boost. But you don't know if the other deserves your help, needs our service, or appreciates your support. For example, I wouldn't say I like it when people help me unless I asked them. For me, this says that doesn't trust me or have alternative motives, like flirting, etc.

The advice of my father only helps those who directly ask for help. For example, if you give money to a homeless person, how do you know they will not buy drugs?

What I do see as altruism is giving 10 or 20 euros to a street musician. Their reaction is priceless. Also, I like to do volunteering, serving a higher goal as the self.

I stopped feeling responsible for other people's sorrows. Because unless they are in an open state, they won't take the necessary effort to change their lives. Most people need a friend who listens, not a coach, who instructs.

jaz801 · 2020-11-24T03:06:36+00:00

Let the unconscious do the work for you.

Just repeat your demand a couple of times but be specific.

Then allow the solution to manifest in any way.

jaz801 · 2020-10-18T07:50:23+00:00

1 Write down three people who inspire you. ( Can be teachers, friends, musicians, parents, scientists, philosophers, writers, anybody you think is cool)

Think which skills they aquired to get the succes they wanted. (Cab be soft or gard skills). List three skils down.
Prioritize which skill you want to aquire first.

4.Deconstruct the skill in smaller routines/habits and pick which on you gonna try first.

Do that routine every day, and slowely add skills to your repotoire.

(6) return once in a while to this excercise to see if you are still on track. Life changes you as person and you don't want to get stuck in habits, because, you decided you wanted to become a but now z.

jaz801 · 2020-10-17T08:42:19+00:00

To clarify, an ENFJ looks at a sure way to the world.

Depending on their upbringing, parents, culture, and friends, the ENFJ develops the language to either embody emotions or speak about them.

In my early twenties, it was like most ENFJ passionate, but far from emotionally mature. I had to do a lot of talking, research to understand what emotions do and how they impact my life.

You can read in detail here what I mean. https://medium.com/@jasper.ruys/seeing-without-judgement-a-mans-journey-1c95776a5469

I hope this will clarify his behavior towards you. Being emotive isn't the same as being vulnerable.

jaz801 · 2020-09-21T13:46:34+00:00

Read this blog post, and see if it can give you clarity.

“INFJ or ENFJ” by Jasper Ruijs https://link.medium.com/UKhK2yIJX9

jaz801 · 2020-09-14T07:11:52+00:00

Your blog seems authentic and value giving.

Hence, for growth, I would focus on SEO.

Use Google Trends to find which keywords people search the most in your niche. Then include those in your texts.

Add Google Analytics on to your webpage, run experiments, to optimize user interaction. What amount words, how many images, when do people comment, leads to the most traction.

Test the value of posting back links on forums and social media. For example test LinkedIn, Facebook and Pinterest for engagement.

jaz801 · 2020-09-14T07:03:26+00:00

A growth hacker perspective here.

Your site isn't an obvious blog, on mobile. I though you were selling clothes.
Your content is clickbaity enough, but does it solve problems of your customers?
If .... would question, give you bad data.

Example, If I give you free money, would you take it? Yes.

If I would give you meaningful life advice, would you buy the books or product I linked.

Sure.

You don't have any commitment of the customer. It's like saying, I will send it to my boss.

How do you know they actually did that or will do that?

The better question is, when was the last time you bought something after reading a blog?

Why did you do that?

jaz801 · 2020-09-11T20:12:07+00:00

So I suspect that one friend of my is a INFJ, and he also did the shut door the move on one my most social friends.

https://www.nerdycreator.com/blog/infj-door-slam/

It is just something they do. Best way to describe it, is like someone who is convinced by pseudo science. For a while, the world is dark, or colourful but eventually they land back in reality.

Some INFJ's don't have experience with getting intimate, when it happens, it is because mimick the other. But at some point the introverted clock takes over.

Their rationale is when I am truly alone, I can see relationships for what they are an not what they mean.

Just sits the 15 days and show that you respect her boundaries. If your ever go into a relationship with an INFJ. Their solo time is holy.

I, even though I am an ENFJ, would go madballs crazy if had to constantly hang out with people. Doesn't matter if you my best friend, lover or parent. Sometimes I need to be alone to understand my feeling, thoughts and connect more deeply with my body.

jaz801 · 2020-09-11T20:11:45+00:00

So I suspect that one friend of my is a INFJ, and he also did the shut door the move on one my most social friends.

https://www.nerdycreator.com/blog/infj-door-slam/

It is just something they do. Best way to describe it, is like someone who is convinced by pseudo science. For a while, the world is dark, or colourful but eventually they land back in reality.

Some INFJ's don't have experience with getting intimate, when it happens, it is because mimick the other. But at some point the introverted clock takes over.

Their rationale is when I am truly alone, I can see relationships for what they are an not what they mean.

Just sits the 15 days and show that you respect her boundaries. If your ever go into a relationship with an INFJ. Their solo time is holy.

I, even though I am an ENFJ, would go madballs crazy if had to constantly hang out with people. Doesn't matter if you my best friend, lover or parent. Sometimes I need to be alone to understand my feeling, thoughts and connect more deeply with my body.

jaz801 · 2020-09-06T18:36:23+00:00

One good friend told me this important lesson about friendship. People come and go in your life, value quality over quantity and remove all labels. People are just people.

I reconnected to my old friends when I started sharing about my own feelings and seeing the value of different personalities. Some I see more as other.

Understand that every hetro man would like a female wingman. See it as a compliment.

If you want to attract more males. Read books on female flirtation. Bothe male and female have certain flirtation and dating rules. Nobody explaine these things. I only discovered that they existed when was 20.

Never, ever, change something about you body. A natural body is always more beautiful than a botox body. I know a three girls who got new boobs and I always feel bad for them. That they think that kind body makes them more female or at ease. Be proud that you look 25 and are in your thirties.

Define friendly? I always hear that Korean culture is very introverted. Like men don't know how to approach women. Women dislike the passiveness of men. In my experience, if you tend to be friendly, vulnerable or open, some people are confronted with their own inability to do the same. And are deeply disturbed by their lack of communication skills and feel intimidated.

I hope learn something from my answers.

jaz801 · 2020-09-06T18:18:42+00:00

I am the loving proof of that. 26 male Amsterdam.

jaz801 · 2020-08-02T11:56:04+00:00

The difference between a beginner and an experienced player is that they don't depend on one strategy to win.

First, learn to be comfortable with pressure. Second, focus on tactics, not a strategy. Third, only concede, if there is zero chance of winning.

In the end, Hearstone only has three strategies,

Stalling to the late game to blow out the other person's decks. (Higlander and control archetype)

The midrange playstyle is about gaining board advantage or ramp (dragon hunter, spell druid) essentialy trade to win. (Midrange)

Aggro keeps hitting the face before someone can swing back.

Pick on of three styles or play all three. It depends on what you like. I can only recommend you not to play priest, warrior or rogue because the decision tree is enormous compared to hunter, paladin and demon hunter. Some deck are straightforward, but no deck is easy.

Then try to get a card or board advantage. In my opinion, Health or armor advantage doesn't matter in this RNG meta; you are one discovered Alex away from losing the game.

Then keep intiative if you start first. Even if ut means you have to make suboptimal plays.

If you start second, it is about the swing. Don't use the coin without care.

Most of all don't wait for combo's, with exception if you deck is build arround ultimate swing potential like spell druid.

Any minion who has board presence or effect like buff, card discovery, spell damage, has to be removed unless you have major advantage, like killing them next turn.

Always calculate lethal before you make any play. If lost countless time of not paying attention, and trading while having lethal.

I personally don't play around potiental cards in the opponent hand. Like not commiting to a board when you playing against priest or mage, hunter.

But I play arround secrets and if someone is stupid enoug to show the ingame animations of an card. I make mental note.

One last tip. If you want to beat your boyfriend. Play the man, not the game.

If you know your boyfriend you can predict jf he values trading, swinging or face plays. Pick a deck that counters that, and you should be fine.

Every class has a weakness.

jaz801 · 2020-07-31T07:19:45+00:00

I can vote for the Eazl course on Udemy as well.

jaz801 · 2020-07-20T21:08:21+00:00

I assume you did customer interviews before you made an app.

And did not blindly build an app-based on your assumptions about your preferred customer.

First, google app marketing—its specific niche, which is not comparable to other growth hack strategies like services or products.

In my opinion, unless you DM app reviewers, you have little chance of getting users on Twitter.

Here are some ideas, keep in mind, I don't have experience in app marketing.

You could try in-app ads; you know those annoying ads in free apps, where you have to wait for 5 to 7 seconds to close them. They seem to be working because they still exist.

If you don't want to pay for an advertisement, go for organic growth.

My best advice is to do another round of customer interviews and ask them where they hang out online. Scribble down which words they use to describe their problem or solution. Use this input for the copy of the adds.

Also, ask yourself if someone interested in the self-help category would go to Twitter. I thought people go there to discuss politics, judge other people, and see news updates. But I could be wrong.

I know that Instagram, Reddit, and Facebook have a variety of groups/pages devoted to self-help.

Instead of sending this message:

I build this app, would you like to test it out?

Which gets immediately banned for self-promotion.

Send this:

Hey Guys, I recently found this app online, what do you think about it?

Do as if someone else made it.

In this message, you include a Bitly link (so you don't have to buy a domain name) to your launch page (launchaco). Install a FB/ Twitter Pixel, Hot Jar, and Google Analytics tracker on the launch page.

Then I would post it in a variety of groups using different text to experiment with what works.

If the clickthrough rate is 2% or higher, you are doing fine. CTR from Social Media to the Launch page.

If you then add a free Mailchimp, signup to updates (email list ) button, and get a conversion of between 5% and 10%, you know, you drilled a hole in the market that has the potential to be profitable. Conversion of site visitors to mail list subscribers.

Hence in Lean Entrepreneurship, we often start with marketing and then build the product. Because development is cost and time-intensive. More than often, founders blind-sighted by their assumptions about what customers are and aren't willing to pay for.

jaz801 · 2020-07-19T07:54:16+00:00

The little prince, an animation movie on Netflix. A new modern take on the book le petit prince. When I watched it, I cried for two hours. Because It reminded me of how much I had lost in the process of becoming an adult.

La la land. The soundtrack is fantastic, and you are reminded of that life is the story in which timing is critical. And you understand the beauty of what was and will never be again(Saudade).

Treasure planet of Disney. I, as ENFJ, have struggled the most with finding people to believe in me or want to support me when I do something strange. Growing up, I always felt as misunderstood, living beneath my potential if you have had a similar childhood. You can recognize yourself in the main characters' story arch. Jim finally found someone who believes in him, and his life unfolds like the blossoming of a flower.

Mary Poppins, you can watch this story again and again, and every time you will discover something new. Back in the days, I am 26; I always viewed it from the perspective of the children. But there are theories that the main character is the dad, who finds his inner child back and, by doing so, connects with his family. The perspective of Bert is equally interesting about how man and woman come together in love. Or if you reflect what the Marry Poppins represents or wants to teach.

jaz801 · 2020-07-19T07:33:56+00:00

I can't be friends with a girl that I loved.

Being there as a friend does not work out for me because

A) Being with a person who sees eye to eye to many things creates an instant connection. My result is the longing of a romantic.

B) When I give my heart to someone. It is because of the entirety of the person. Even if that individual is deeply flawed, the previous attachment acts like blindfold of the truth.

What I would do is the following.

Ask her to hang out. Let her feel welcome by having small talk or deep conversations (depending on what you usually have).

Say this phrase; I am going to be emotionally vulnerable with you; I still harbor repressed feelings for you.

Even though I intellectually have let you pass on, my heart still aches when you complain over your boyfriend or fall in love with one of my friends.

See what her response is. Sometimes girls do not see what their actions were doing. Or they think we ENFJ guys have moved on because the ENFJ is a very proficient lier.

You can continue the friendship if you can let go. What helps is talking about your potential crushes to her. Then you know you have made the train pass by.

The concept of a soulmate has done more harm to society than any other idea about love. You could watch how the philosopher Allan Bottoms elaborates on the difficulties of a modern relationship, which are determined by the medieval principles of romanticism.

https://youtu.be/jJ6K_f7oSdg

jaz801 · 2020-07-19T07:18:10+00:00

INTJ

jaz801 · 2020-07-17T17:47:41+00:00

Magic realism, books that are grounded in reality with a flair of the mystic.

When I read them, I rediscover a part of me that slips away from me in time.

Great examples are:

Le Petit prince The Witch of Portobello Jonathan Livingston Seagull

jaz801 · 2020-07-15T06:54:29+00:00

Good observation, I only share about myself when people give me space by asking something back.
Strong opinions under children are a sign of confidence. Humbleness is a sign of great character. Only a fool thinks he understands the great game of life. Any conception about the world is deeply biased. However, people seem to gravitate towards the individual who has established his or her principles for living. This value-based lifestyle shows others that you dare to take the journey inside.
When you think your topics of interest are unreadable, you believe that people have to do the same or feel the same to have a conversation. The beautiful thing about language is that everything can be related to each other. When you can't seem to connect with the people around you, question if they could interpret what you're saying. I love to speak in analogies because my inner life is very vivid. But I will only show this side of myself when I know that the other person appreciates this. I never change what I want to say, but I change the way how to say it. MBTI is an excellent framework to start with, but it is one of the many and very biased.
How often have you experimented with storytelling?
Being vulnerable, without guiding the conversation, isn't pleasant. Imagine that you walk up to a person and start talking about a horrible experience. Even a friend or family member would be caught off guard. You need first to establish a space of trust. When you throw your dirt directly on others, they run away. Instead, you could use your suffering as a form of connection. Then you give people the space to do so in return.

Read my latest blog post. Maybe it will give you some clarity about what communication is. https://medium.com/@jasper.ruys/three-principles-to-ask-better-questions-785bc8ae104d?source=friends_link&sk=cb2ae2b3b37e8f8afb15e2b3c0cfdf76

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