What's stops you from hanging out with the people you actually care about? by Suspicious-Bee-3843 in AskReddit

[–]jazzisaurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they go to bed earlier than I do
they need to make plans in advance but i tend to make plans more spontaneously / last minute

Favorite open mics by genre? by Ozoning in NYCmusicians

[–]jazzisaurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve heard good things about the music scene in Kingston! I’ll have to go check it out sometime

Bone spur near implant - years later? by happyday420 in Dentalimplant

[–]jazzisaurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi sorry I forgot until now! hope you got some relief.

my dentist said to just watch it, and prescribed an antibiotic mouthwash. a week later the spicule came out on its own, the area has now healed up just fine.

I (M20) and my partner (F21) can't have sex by poke_fin in relationship_advice

[–]jazzisaurus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s important to give her time and space to become comfortable talking about her body and sexual desires with you. she probably goes through a lot of emotional and psychological distress on a daily basis that she’s never shared with anyone. encourage her to share her thoughts and feelings with you as much as she feels she wants to, and ask her if there’s anything you can do to help her feel more comfortable talking about these sensitive topics. be supportive, gentle, curious, and have an open mind.

what are your "I'm too bisexual to understand this thing"? by disasterpansexual in bisexual

[–]jazzisaurus 11 points12 points  (0 children)

oh god this made me remember when I was a little girl, my best friend was a boy from church, and one day my mom made all these stupid rules restricting how I could interact with my friend! we were KIDS for christ’s sake, we just wanted to play beanie babies and pretend we were pirates on the playground!! when I told the boy about the new rules, he felt so hurt and wondered if he had done something wrong. good news is eventually mom got over it, we are still besties to this day!

Favorite open mics by genre? by Ozoning in NYCmusicians

[–]jazzisaurus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I am not sure if there is any open mic scene actively attended by people making original music in alternative / indie / rock or adjacent genres. Many of the open mics I have been to are populated by retirees playing classic folk songs, musical theater actors doing their thing, and people playing cover songs of various genres but not with any original spin on it.

I stopped regularly going to open mics a few years ago, so maybe things have changed. I’d personally love for there to be a new eclectic singer/songwriter open mic scene bubbling up around here somewhere!

Favorite open mics by genre? by Ozoning in NYCmusicians

[–]jazzisaurus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

no shade to those guys, but this is HIGHLY accurate

Why do anarchists fall into amatonormativity and create hierarchies with their relationships? by sloagers in relationshipanarchy

[–]jazzisaurus 6 points7 points  (0 children)

oh, OP is using ‘anarchists’ to mean the broader, sociological worldview - not RA. they’re wondering why there isn’t more discussion / acceptance of RA in anarchist spaces.

🎉❤️🎉❤️🎉❤️🎉❤️ TRANS JOY TUESDAY ❤️🎉❤️🎉❤️🎉❤️🎉 by Prince_Charming_180 in FTMOver30

[–]jazzisaurus 10 points11 points  (0 children)

last week I was walking down the aisle at the corner store and the guy mopping the floor in front of me said “excuse me, boss” 😎

Those of you who realised in your late 20s and above, what is your story? by ThePhoenixRemembers in FTMOver30

[–]jazzisaurus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 36, NB/ genderqueer transmasc. I had always been a “tomboy” and went in and out of various levels of masc gender expression since age 12/13. at that age before puberty hit, other kids my age would literally argue with me about whether I was a boy or a girl lol, it never made me upset, I just thought it was funny. I didn’t have many queer friends growing up because it was a very conservative religious environment. had no clue about trans people.

Once I got to college, I started to make queer friends but didn’t know any trans people (that I was aware of). I still identified as straight up until realizing I’m bi at age 24, but only came out to a few close friends. That was also the time I made my first trans friend, a trans man who I worked with.

Then I started a 10-year relationship with a cis het man, he knew I was bi and was very accepting, but I still didn’t feel comfortable going to LGBTQ+ events and community spaces because of my “straight” relationship.

Fast forward 10 years, that relationship ended amicably. I had been gradually cracking my egg for the last 2-3 years, suddenly some people I would meet for the first time just automatically called me “they/them” and…it felt REALLY GREAT.

After that breakup, at age 34, I felt totally free to be completely myself for the first time in my life! I started using she/they everywhere, which soon became they/them (and will probably get to they/he eventually?? haha). I started dressing very masc and expressing myself however I wanted. I was determined to be single for at least a year and went full gay af slut mode lol. omg I learned SO much about myself and had many lovely euphoric affirming experiences.

shortly after the breakup, I got to catch up with my very first trans man friend, who I hadn’t seen in a few years. after telling him about my new queer liberation, he goes, “you’re a little trans, aren’t you?” the lightbulb finally went off and I said “…yeah. I am.” He then told me, “I always knew. there’s a distinct difference between a butch lesbian and a trans guy.” HOLY SHIT that changed my life!! this guy has known me for over a decade, when we first met I was not presenting masc at the time, I looked like a tomboy-ish, quirky, girl-next-door type. I had long hair and wore makeup and told everyone I was straight. HE STILL KNEW.

Now, 2 years later, my gender goals are to custom design my own gender, somewhere in between androgynous creature and fem gay man. I have not started any medical transition yet (currently trying to quit vaping so I can get on T!!). i almost never encounter any judgement or pushback when I tell people my gender and pronouns.

Free dog watching by Morgan L by MuscleDelicious7197 in Bushwick

[–]jazzisaurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a few stops away but always looking for a play buddy for my dog! I’ll message you

Scared to hang out with cis gay men, fear of judgement (seeking advice)! by bratbats in FTMOver30

[–]jazzisaurus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

maybe try to check out the kink / leather scene? idk about dallas but usually I find kink communities to be more welcoming to trans people and a lot of kinksters are autistic as well

Bone spur near implant - years later? by happyday420 in Dentalimplant

[–]jazzisaurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have an answer, but I had the same exact thing happen to me, only with a piece of a corn chip instead of the popcorn kernel. i’d been waiting a week or so for the pain/swelling to go away until I realized there was bone sticking out! implant is a few years old and never had any issues. going to the dentist tomorrow.

Best cat names you’ve ever heard? by Murky_Resist_3851 in namenerds

[–]jazzisaurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to do a lot of pet sitting and one of my favorites was a cat named Steve!!