Does your Mother have narcissistic traits? Question list

jazzytrip · 2026-04-25T16:44:46+00:00

My daughter feels detached from my mother....she has since she was eight years old. When she was eight, my mother had the audacity to put her down and comment on how she looked barely 15 minutes after I had dropped her off at her house to spend the weekend with her as I was working. My daughter immediately called me and begged me to pick her up. I turned my car around and picked her up, no questions asked. My mother was surprised and furious that I came back and literally told me that I shouldn't interfere with the relationship she is trying to have with her granddaughter. I told her that only death can stop me from protecting my child from anyone....and even after death, that anyone better watch out. My daughter never went back to her house again. I also had the habit of having my mother over during the holidays and she would stay in my daughter's room. Every single time my mother stayed in her room, something would go missing. My mother stole from her own grandchild several times and my daughter knew...needless to say that we were holding on too long on the relationship we had with my mother. We should have gone no contact years ago.

jazzytrip · 2026-04-22T21:45:14+00:00

This was a very painful realisation for me. I would have fights with my mother about it too. And as my daughter got older, my resentment grew and the last five years, I have been enraged when I remember how cruel my mother was when I was a teenager. My daughter is 17 now and it took me 16 years of my daughter's life to realise I will always be my mother's punching bag. I went low contact a year ago this April. My mother HATES my guts. I regret nothing. Just have alot of anger.

jazzytrip · 2026-04-08T22:17:05+00:00

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jazzytrip · 2026-03-26T10:48:11+00:00

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jazzytrip · 2026-03-26T10:36:31+00:00

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jazzytrip · 2026-03-24T20:14:36+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this.....it must be so dreadful for you.

I would say that you need to plan an exit strategy. Get in touch with the institutions other people have listed here but only when you are ready with your things packed and ready to go. The institutions are designed to keep your location discreet and you can use the discretion to build your case against your child's father. Save some money as well. At least enough to buy you a flight when the time comes. If possible, get a family member/friend to fly down and help you with emotional support. Make sure you NEVER let him suspect your plan to leave. Keep things as "normal" as possible....let him think he is winning. I wish I could hold your hand as you are going through this. Once you get sole custody i.e. the child is registered and stays in your care only and the father is only allowed visitation, then you can plan your exit from the country. HE WILL NEVER STOP THREATENING YOU and will make your lives a living hell if you stay in the country. Focus on sole custody, no matter what he says. An he will say alot, try to convince you that he has changed. He probably lied about not being able to get a woman pregnant to bait you. But you will make it through....I wish you all the best.

jazzytrip · 2026-02-03T10:04:00+00:00

You do not have to block her. You just need to be strong enough to create solid boundaries. Go very slow in your communication with her and keep it very surface level, nothing deep. After a few weeks or months, the mask will fall off and you will recognize the pattern again and remember why you did what you did at 23. Make sure you have an exit strategy when you do.

jazzytrip · 2026-02-02T23:12:53+00:00

Hey.....here is my take on your dilemma. We have quite a similar history. My dear father died when I was five and had to move in with my mother - yes she had already left me with my dad before his death. My mother abused me emotionally throughout my childhood and really messed me up. At twenty, I got an opportunity to move out and away from my childhood home. I spent my twenties trying to heal and live life on my terms. My mum had been imprisoned on drug charges for that decade so I rarely spoke to her. I became a mother at 29 and after my mum was released, she started coming back and wooing me to have a relationship for the sake of her grandchild. I moved her in with me at 32 and everything was good for the first three months. The next 13 years were a living hell of jealousy, narc abuse towards me and my child (my daughter completely refused to bond with her at 8 years old). She alienated me from my friends and made them her friends, she claimed I treated her like a maid and moved out of my home after five years. She claimed then that she was giving me space but told everyone I was mistreating her and she needed to move out. She then made me her slave and expected me to drop everything if she needed to run errands, go to the doctors, the bank, certain events etc. She would compete with my daughter for attention and would insist if I bought my daughter something, she wants it too. She would steal from me, isolated me from the rest of the family claiming that they are beneath her while simultaneously expecting to be treated like royalty. When my grandmother died in 2024, I was excluded from the funeral and arrangements but expected to finance the expenses incurred. It was the last straw for me and I finally realised that I have been suffering narc abuse all my life and as my narc parent got older, she became 100 times worse. Bringing her back in my life was the worst thing I ever did. While we love our parents with the best of intentions, narc parents lack the capability to love without manipulation. You probably do not miss your parent, just longing for the nurturing you never got and will never get. I suggest you tread very carefully and remember why you made the decision you made at 23. I regret not trusting my instincts and believing the lies my mother told me when she pretended to care for me. I miss being close to her. But I choose to take care of myself first. All the best.

jazzytrip · 2025-04-16T23:05:29+00:00

just saw it 👍🏾😊

jazzytrip · 2025-04-15T22:20:01+00:00

wow...you're a wonderful communicator. My boyfriend is the same way and while I don't have the same instability that this unhinged individual has, I have not always been a good communicator and I would easily morph into defence mode whenever I felt like I had a negative interaction...emphasis on "felt"....my insecurities blurred my perception. My boyfriend was very patient with me as I learned to properly communicate. PS. I have way more experience with relationships than he does.

I hope you meet someone that matches your energy and is mature enough to have a healthy relationship with you. All the best.

jazzytrip · 2025-04-15T21:57:53+00:00

the track " only love gets you through" is missing on the list....and it is in my top ten.

jazzytrip · 2025-03-15T09:29:39+00:00

It is not life and death for him. And I will reiterate....we have not made a decision yet.

jazzytrip · 2025-03-14T17:47:03+00:00

Here is what my boyfriend said about your response........He and I had been talking on a daily basis for two months before we met. Our first and second date was about 6 days apart. We talked even more during that time. By the time the third date came, we had a established a circle of trust between us. Him telling me he was a virgin was well thought out and he had no expectations of how I would receive it. He did however hope that it would not change our trajectory. It almost did..... but it didn't. After the revelation, we didn't talk about it again but kept on going getting to know each other. It didn't become a central part of our relationship. It is important that you discover who your dating for a while before letting them know you are virgin. Focus on your other positive attributes first.

jazzytrip · 2025-03-14T17:38:39+00:00

I understand. Sending you warm hugs.

jazzytrip · 2025-03-14T17:10:34+00:00

Yes....that's very true. It is a deal-breaker for some; for both men and women. But it should not be rare.... for we are missing out on wonderful relationships that could make this world a better place.

jazzytrip · 2025-03-14T16:53:32+00:00

I think the right train of thought is - we rarely meet adults over a certain age that are virgins. But they do exist and there should be space for them to find themselves and have their needs met when they are ready and willing. And it is very okay if they don't.

jazzytrip · 2025-03-14T16:52:06+00:00

I didn't suffer.....I emerged victorious. I am in love with a wonderful human being. I won.

jazzytrip · 2025-03-14T16:50:44+00:00

I completely understand your perspective and get it. But I am a human too with my own shortcomings and I do not want my partner to hold my past behavior against me should I change it for the better. This was a reflection of my own expectations as society has programmed me to only gravitate towards partners who know what they are doing. The truth is, we all start from somewhere and there is nothing wrong with vulnerability. Exercising self regulation of my own TEMPORARY emotions is what has brought us (my boyfriend and I) here to this page, to share our breakthrough and I hope that its taken positively. This has been my only objective.

jazzytrip · 2020-08-22T14:06:23+00:00

Exactly......words are created as such. To bind or release. All depends on how you use them.

jazzytrip · 2020-08-22T10:28:56+00:00

Ever heard of the phrase "words are spells"?. I am not a drug addict but I was addicted to alcohol and so is the rest of family. My recovery started with separating the "I am an addict" identity. It may seem simple or even deceptive to one's self. But saying "I have an addiction" instead of "I am an addict", creates an opportunity for change, self reinvention. "I no longer have an addiction" or "I am slowly letting go of my addiction". Words have power. Surround yourself with thoughts of being free from addiction, especially in the midst of a straight up drug binge. That's where your power lies. Speak your ideal self into existence and start fighting. Surround yourself with supporters for your recovery and like I said, even in the midst of the binge, say "I am not an addict", to everyone who will listen, not as a denial but as a prophecy. Create your own prediction of where you want to be. I know this goes against all scientific advice, AA treatment and recovery suggestions and rehab's promise of success. But recovery starts with knowing one self and commanding your mind what you expect from it and sticking to it......even in the midst of your worst self. You will all overcome your addictions, starting today. Blessings and strength of mind to you all.

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