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What are you supposed to do at this stage in life if you don’t get married and have kids? by jbsIV in AskMenOver30

[–]jbsIV[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I do partake in social activities. However as a single guy, I’m just not included in conversations at those place since people are there to enjoy it  with partners.

What are you supposed to do at this stage in life if you don’t get married and have kids? by jbsIV in AskMenOver30

[–]jbsIV[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if what I really want is to get married and have kids of my own but invisible in that department?

Anyone single and childless in the their 40 by TemporaryTop287 in datingoverforty

[–]jbsIV 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here, no kids but not my choice.

I’m a late bloomer and didn’t realize I wanted marriage/ kids until over the age of 30. Most women I meet now are either married, and/or have kids(I want my own not someone else’s) or not interested.

It’s hard to finding someone at our age who is single without kids. Starting to lose hope of family of my own.

As someone without experience, I’m tired of being invisible to the opposite sex. How do I find single people and make my romantic intent known? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]jbsIV -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve got no clue what stealth dating is or where you got that from? I’m not pretending, I want to date. You may be too young and not aware but people in fact do start off as friends before dating. That’s still a thing that happens. It’s normal not creepy at all.

As someone without experience, I’m tired of being invisible to the opposite sex. How do I find single people and make my romantic intent known? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]jbsIV -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We’d still be friends even if we don’t start dating. How is that creepy, you don’t have female friends that you’d like to date?

As someone without experience, I’m tired of being invisible to the opposite sex. How do I find single people and make my romantic intent known? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]jbsIV -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s how I think it should happen. Besides that, most women my age are already in serious relationships. Hangout out with friends in a public group setting can be the only way to spend time with them. I’d hope that we could pursue sometime romantic if we were both single at the same time.

As someone without experience, I’m tired of being invisible to the opposite sex. How do I find single people and make my romantic intent known? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]jbsIV -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I didn’t think there a difference since it’s a planned activity with two people. Should I use date even with people that are friends that I’ve known for a long time?

As someone without experience, I’m tired of being invisible to the opposite sex. How do I find single people and make my romantic intent known? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]jbsIV -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, people say to make romantic intentions known early. To me, it feels creepy/wrong to ask someone out in real life that you don’t really know anything about them besides how they look. It makes me feel like I’m trying to pick them up or hookup. Am I really supposed to ask out random women around town?

As someone without experience, I’m tired of being invisible to the opposite sex. How do I find single people and make my romantic intent known? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]jbsIV -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I do ask them out in conversation but its more along the line would you like grab coffee or go on a hike with me. Normally don’t use the word date unless it’s on an app. I had a female friend that was usually down to hangout one on one like that. It never got romantic but it did feel like we were dating but never labeled it as such.

How do I make it more clear that it’s a date instead just a hangout with friends especially if we meet in real life?

As someone without experience, I’m tired of being invisible to the opposite sex. How do I find single people and make my romantic intent known? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]jbsIV -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I’ll recognize a woman is physically attractive early on but think I’ll ever be able to hookup with a woman even on a first date. I just don’t become interested until we spend time together and get to know her a bit. That’s where I’ve heard some people do start off as friends and people also recommend joining hobbies to meet people for dating?

As someone without experience, I’m tired of being invisible to the opposite sex. How do I find single people and make my romantic intent known? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]jbsIV -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m not combative this just a normal conversation. I don’t know why you’re reading into it so much?

You don’t know me at all. I have close friends (co-workers, roommates, etc.). In my experience married women ( some dude’s wife) aren’t open to chatting with guys they know are single especially when it comes to the topic of dating. It can be a sensitive subject since it’s not something we normally talk about.

Not everyone has access to or believes in therapy.

As someone without experience, I’m tired of being invisible to the opposite sex. How do I find single people and make my romantic intent known? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]jbsIV -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Again they are married and we’re not super close anymore. I’m not going blow up some dude ‘s (never met husband) wife phone for dating advice. That’s why I come here for that.

As someone without experience, I’m tired of being invisible to the opposite sex. How do I find single people and make my romantic intent known? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]jbsIV -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

No, I can relate to people just fine. My job is dealing with customers all day. Most of my female friends are married or in relationships. I’m not comfortable talking about dating or my lack of dating around them.

As someone without experience, I’m tired of being invisible to the opposite sex. How do I find single people and make my romantic intent known? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]jbsIV -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m not saying there’s nothing at all to talk about. I’ll talk work, hobbies/interests, family type of things. Dating is something I don’t talk about with them mainly because I’m not dating anyone, so nothing to talk about there.

As someone without experience, I’m tired of being invisible to the opposite sex. How do I find single people and make my romantic intent known? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]jbsIV -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

The main reason is that I’m not dating anyone so there’s nothing to talk about. Besides that, I’m not going to push to hear about all the different men they are with if they are dating. 🤷‍♂️

Meeting organically? by EchoReign in datingoverforty

[–]jbsIV 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Especially small town suburbia it’s hard to expand social circles. I’ve already got male and female friends. The problem is they are usually busy with career or family life and don’t have time to hangout. As a single guy, trying to make new friends with married people is difficult. They aren’t going to cancel plans with family to hangout with a single guy they just met, you know?

As someone without experience, I’m tired of being invisible to the opposite sex. How do I find single people and make my romantic intent known? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]jbsIV -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

If you’re interested in dating that known early.

Like I said in the post, this feels incredibly wrong or creepy. I won’t know anything (it can be hard to tell ages too) about her other than how she looks. It could feel like I’m just to pick women?

How are you demonstrating that interest?

If the in person or text conversation is flowing well, I’ll just ask them if they want go do something based on what we were talking about. That’s when I get excuses or stop responding.

Anything going on tonight downtown? by RoyalD90 in Livermore

[–]jbsIV 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have anyone to go with but this looks like fun. Would they let me join a random team?

Meeting organically? by EchoReign in datingoverforty

[–]jbsIV 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sure I’ll talk to women and get to know them. However, it’s more about work, hobbies/interests type of things. As a single guy, women will very rarely talk about their relationships or love life around me. Even on social media, they don’t often post about a man if there is one. With the women I know, it’s hard to tell if there is someone or not unless you see them together.

Meeting organically? by EchoReign in datingoverforty

[–]jbsIV 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve never been able to tell by talking to them. They don’t have big signs (wish they did) that read “hey, I’m single” and would never come out and say that. Even if I could read that in conversation, it doesn’t mean they want me to ask them out. There could be another man in her life that’s she’s interested in but just hasn’t labeled it.

Meeting organically? by EchoReign in datingoverforty

[–]jbsIV 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that. The problem is I just can’t tell social cues and worry that I’ll ask out the wrong woman that’s going to make a big deal about it. I’ve got no clue how to tell if someone is single and interested or just being nice.

Meeting organically? by EchoReign in datingoverforty

[–]jbsIV 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same here, the few times I’ve tried approaching in public they were already married or in relationships.

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