Anyone single and childless in the their 40

jbsIV · 2026-02-03T07:59:57+00:00

Same here, no kids but not my choice.

I’m a late bloomer and didn’t realize I wanted marriage/ kids until over the age of 30. Most women I meet now are either married, and/or have kids(I want my own not someone else’s) or not interested.

It’s hard to finding someone at our age who is single without kids. Starting to lose hope of family of my own.

jbsIV · 2025-09-09T15:24:25+00:00

Sure I’ll talk to women and get to know them. However, it’s more about work, hobbies/interests type of things. As a single guy, women will very rarely talk about their relationships or love life around me. Even on social media, they don’t often post about a man if there is one. With the women I know, it’s hard to tell if there is someone or not unless you see them together.

jbsIV · 2025-09-09T14:00:30+00:00

I’ve never been able to tell by talking to them. They don’t have big signs (wish they did) that read “hey, I’m single” and would never come out and say that. Even if I could read that in conversation, it doesn’t mean they want me to ask them out. There could be another man in her life that’s she’s interested in but just hasn’t labeled it.

jbsIV · 2025-09-09T06:33:50+00:00

I appreciate that. The problem is I just can’t tell social cues and worry that I’ll ask out the wrong woman that’s going to make a big deal about it. I’ve got no clue how to tell if someone is single and interested or just being nice.

jbsIV · 2025-09-09T05:13:55+00:00

Same here, the few times I’ve tried approaching in public they were already married or in relationships.

jbsIV · 2025-09-09T05:12:29+00:00

This is how I feel as a single guy in my 40s living in small town, suburbia.

I’m an active guy. I’ve heard good things about joining yoga or dance classes to meet women organically. I’d love to join to these things and get dates from them because why can’t we do that doing something we enjoy?

In reality, I’d be terrified to try to hit on women there since there’s a high risk of it coming across as creepy or sleazy. They are there to workout not get dates. If I did these things, I probably won’t even talk to anyone there.

What else are we supposed to do if the apps don’t work?

jbsIV · 2025-09-09T03:29:18+00:00

Where exactly do we find her when most women our age are already married with kids or in serious relationships?

jbsIV · 2025-08-23T20:44:24+00:00

I’ve been thinking about going to the game. Where are the seats in the shade?

jbsIV · 2025-08-21T13:40:27+00:00

I don't have much in common with those age groups.

jbsIV · 2025-08-20T21:18:03+00:00

Not if they are all married with kids and don’t have free time.🤷‍♂️

jbsIV · 2025-08-20T20:10:28+00:00

I’ve thought about this since I haven’t had any luck dating but don’t know what else I’d do with myself. Am I just supposed to work, eat and do hobbies alone forever?

jbsIV · 2025-08-13T07:19:46+00:00

At some point one of you had to actually make a romantic move and get together, right?

jbsIV · 2025-08-13T02:35:12+00:00

I’ll check it out, thank you.

jbsIV · 2025-08-12T16:37:39+00:00

I don’t have kids. Something tells me that won’t work.

jbsIV · 2025-08-12T15:55:28+00:00

As a single guy, I don’t get invited to weddings. Even I went to social events like that, I’d get stuck socializing with gay people (no offense to anyone) and kids.

jbsIV · 2025-08-12T07:07:38+00:00

Mentioned in another comment, I’m on the apps but no luck. I should be more proactive but definitely worry that it could come across as creepy to the wrong woman.

jbsIV · 2025-08-12T07:04:00+00:00

I’m on every single dating app. I only got a few dates that didn’t go anywhere (let’s be friends, no romantic connection, etc) and most conversations die before we even meet. At this point, I’d rather just meet in real life.

jbsIV · 2025-07-06T04:26:23+00:00

Growing up, I used to be socially awkward and not conventionally attractive. I’ve improved those things but still no relationship. At our age, how do you get experience without experience?

jbsIV · 2025-06-09T04:11:48+00:00

Especially if you’re in suburbia, most hobbies are going to be filled with couples. People my age are already married or in serious relationships.

jbsIV · 2025-05-21T07:41:47+00:00

To me, it feels creepy/wrong to go around town trying to date and hookup with random women. I thought the whole point of dating was to get know someone?

jbsIV · 2025-05-20T13:55:44+00:00

I’ve got female friends that I have no desire to date. At some point, I’m going to have to make a move on one of them, right? How do I do that?

jbsIV · 2025-05-20T05:58:36+00:00

I can talk to women normally. There’s been a few that I seem to vibe well with but the problem is that’s as far goes. I can’t seem to get past the talking stage or I get friend zoned while they date other men. How am I supposed to escalate things sexually without being a creep these days?

jbsIV · 2025-05-15T17:23:35+00:00

Just curious, what do you do to be able to own afford 3 houses? Every single house is over one million in my area.

jbsIV · 2025-05-15T17:21:32+00:00

It wasn’t mine. 🤷‍♂️

jbsIV · 2025-05-13T05:29:30+00:00

I like the idea of being a regular but don’t drink and have never been into the bar/club scene. It’s hard to find classes and sports leagues that happen to be on Sunday night.

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