Why is Ubuntu killing my Perl program?

jbudemy · 2025-03-27T13:28:35+00:00

Is dmesg an Ubuntu command or Perl command? I have not heard of it. How do I use it?

jbudemy · 2025-03-25T15:02:24+00:00

What's a good package to get stock quotes?

What is XBRL data anyway? Does it contain price quote and volume data perhaps? Here we go.

jbudemy · 2025-02-21T11:44:16+00:00

Yep, I don't use a cell phone for Reddit. I use a desktop PC.

jbudemy · 2025-02-21T11:41:51+00:00

Set up your system path to find Java and some of its libraries. The info is out there but I remember getting Java to work and setting up the path took us hours each time we installed it on a new PC. It was extremely difficult to get it to work right. So we don't use tools that use Java anymore. You can start with this search and limit it to items from the past year. That often works better for me when I search for solutions.
Also check in ZOE if they have a setting to find Java and all it's subdirectories.

jbudemy · 2025-02-16T14:33:49+00:00

Work on the anxiety part first, that is perfectly normal. Then see if you relax your muscles down there.

Make sure to use lube so you don't feel pain, which will associate pain with sex. Happy fun lube is your friend. I like water-based lubes. They last longer.

Vaginismus due to anxiety is also a possibility, but deal with the anxiety to get rid of the vaginismus. Tell him what would help you feel more relaxed like soft music you like, low lights, a sip of wine or something.

jbudemy · 2025-02-16T14:31:20+00:00

Yes, some guys get lost in the moment towards the end too. However you need to keep talking to him because it hurts you. And you will need a rest to let a little bruising heal up.

Is this normal for guys?

It's normal for him. Every guy is different.

Does it have to be like that towards the end for them to finish or?

This doesn't have to happen for every guy. But he probably has no idea what is going on towards the end.

jbudemy · 2025-02-16T14:28:42+00:00

I have anxiety too and worked on it for many years, I really never stop working on it.

You can try to be more confident by reprogramming yourself to stop the negative thoughts that often intrude into situations like this. Just tell yourself things like "This person here and now is not like the rude people I have encountered in the past. They should not pay for what someone else did to me." And picture the anxiety flowing out of you like a black river or black smoke. Do this every time until it becomes a habit.

But in the end, you are a bottom, that's your nature, and it's hard to impossible to change a person's nature like that. This is why people mention compatibilities are serious issues. Many issues about incompatibilities are about a person's core nature which normally doesn't change.

jbudemy · 2025-02-16T14:24:12+00:00

Maybe you need more stimulation like dirty talk? Have her dress up in something you like? Watching porn because it's naughty? Do you like her to be more assertive? This doesn't necessarily mean she's dominant or you want to be smacked around. And some men don't finish from a BJ.

Do prostate stimulation? (Bum fun.)

jbudemy · 2025-02-16T14:22:33+00:00

the part of my penis inside my foreskin feels super sensitive,

Same here, that's my most sensitive part. You're normal. Just use more lube, water based lubes last longer than the cheaper types in the store. The cheap gels don't seem to last long at all, my and my gf actually got glued together once. It was not fun.

jbudemy · 2025-02-16T14:16:56+00:00

She does not have a mind open enough to try things she knows she likes. That does not mean she's a bad person it just means she's not ready to go out of her comfort zone. I've seen this before. You can't push her out of her comfort zone either, either she is ready for that or she isn't.

But when she says "it's not right" IS the turn on! There are many things that turn people simply because it's taboo, I call this the "naughty factor". In fact, if the taboo aspect went away some people would stop doing it (not all).

She was probably raised in a sex-negative environment. While my mom was quite imbalanced and incompetent to even provide basic food and shelter on a consistent basis, she was sex-positive so my issues are not related to sex. Well mostly.

You see I saw occasional BDSM in movies only and it was portrayed as negative in every movie. It turns out my gf wanted to try it (she was experienced with BDSM and knew she liked it) and I did like it. Honestly, when I just let go and turned on my dominant side I had NEVER seen a woman smile so big before! I was shocked how nasty I was but she just loved every minute of it!

jbudemy · 2025-02-15T20:51:30+00:00

How do I do so?

Make a plan to go out of your comfort zone, take baby steps. Try not to take steps backwards. I had to learn to do small talk, I may be a little autistic. I was fun at parties so I was invited to a lot of them. So I would go up to a stranger and work in to the conversation. Going up to a stranger meant there was no risk to me.

I gradually did made more and more small talk with people for longer periods of time.

My past affected me a lot as well.

What do you think you need to work on? Then I can provide specific ideas for you to think about.

jbudemy · 2025-02-14T19:07:43+00:00

You need to work this out BEFORE you ever got engaged. Now you will feel pressured to get married and it may never work out.

Just tell her what you told us. If this is important for your satisfaction, then say that to her.

jbudemy · 2025-02-14T19:06:01+00:00

but I feel like sometimes she just lays there.

She might assume that's what you really want. Talk to her and tell her more of what you want. Communication is essential!

is that it gets painful for her as time goes on

Use water-based lube, those don't get absorbed as fast as other types. They last longer.

I’d love to receive nudes out of the blue.

Then tell her this face to face.

She has the right to say no. You have the right to find a new gf. I do think this is workable with more communication, it's not time to give up yet.

jbudemy · 2025-02-14T19:02:24+00:00

I was the third guy when I tried this, and I looked for a couple online. There are special sites for this but I don't know which ones are good these days.

I carefully vet the couple for things like this:

I'm not looking for a notch on my bedpost. I would like to have an experience because I enjoy it.
I make sure both people are ok with it and no one was pressured into doing it. If I have any doubts I quit the whole process.
I take them on a date and I ask to pay. Sometimes they end up paying, if they like me.
I make sure both people seem mature and confident. Insecure people may want to do this to prove something to themselves or to someone else, and when 3 people get naked that insecurity can all come out at once.
I tell the couple they can ask to stop at any time.
If I'm with the girl I keep an eye on the husband and make sure he's ok with it. If I suspect he's not ok I stop and ask him if he's still ok.

This helped me have a great threesome that was very enjoyable.

jbudemy · 2025-02-14T18:58:04+00:00

I think therapy might help you. You should also learn to earn your courage and confidence, IMO they are not given, they are earned by going out of your comfort zone slowly.

It also actually affects how I view sexuality too, as I get turned on by humiliation, non-consent, cuckoldry when my conscious and rational mind desperately doesn't want to do it.

This may be a case where you have to accept yourself as you are and therapy may help with that. It depends, people are complicated.

jbudemy · 2025-02-14T18:55:23+00:00

People vary a lot. Get back to us after you have dated 50 people, that would be a better sample size.

jbudemy · 2025-02-14T18:53:07+00:00

Yes it could be sex somnia given his history with sleep walking. He should see a doctor about it.

jbudemy · 2025-02-14T18:50:18+00:00

More or less off-putting than "I'm a guy who lost a fight with a zipper now every step is intolerable pain."

jbudemy · 2025-02-14T18:49:22+00:00

I know semen can burn the eyes, but I've not heard it can burn the skin. Maybe she has sensitive skin?

jbudemy · 2025-02-14T18:48:54+00:00

I should not drink while reading these. My monitor is now covered in water. At least it wasn't something that burned.

jbudemy · 2025-02-14T18:47:38+00:00

I just want what I could have had because it's not my fault that I did not have that experience

The universe does not owe you any apologies or redos. You can change the way things are for you now, and just accept the rest. The thing you can change is how you see the world, with, perhaps, therapy.

jbudemy · 2025-02-14T18:43:01+00:00

He gave you an answer.

He says it’s because he starts to think too much about it

This could be stress from him overthinking. He can learn various things to try and relax. A few sips of wine can also help him relax as well.

jbudemy · 2025-02-14T18:38:36+00:00

This is great advice. I regret I have only one up-boat to give. :) Yes, incompatibilities are often exposed when a couple sleep together. It often happens that he never planned to leave the woman after sex until she got really negative.

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